fireflywy Posted November 18, 2006 Posted November 18, 2006 I posted something similar in my thread "unleashed". Tonight, while I was out and about.. I saw her with her new man. She saw me as well and I knew that she pointed me out to him. I was with a few few female friends who pulled me out onto the dance floor at one point. I had a recent knee operation with limited mobility but the three girls I was with pulled me out there anyway. When I was dancing a bit I saw the ex and her man looking at me like they were laughing. (at me) They got within 5 feet of our group but I had my back turned for the most part. But I felt like it was intentional. Now, some of you know my story. I had spoken to her a couple of weeks ago here. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t101632/?highlight=fireflywy I guess in the time since, she has gone out and found her a new man. However, I was kind, I did my best to leave us on a good note. So why was she doing that? I felt like she was flaunting it in my face. She even sat at a table right next to one of my lady friends. (the one she had seen me with in the post above) I will say this though, I ignored it. Continued to smile, talk to various other women, and I was even found singing at one point. I may have a bad knee right now, but I was out there on that dance floor having a bit of fun. Whether I looked goofy or not is another story. lol. Anyways, a slow song came on and I walked over to my lady friend who was next to her table and asked her to dance. Shortly afterward.. the ex left. I hope I did okay. Of course, for a 37 year old woman, that should tell me a lot about the way she is. If she was focused on me while dancing with this guy, it gave me a weird feeling. I thought, "Was she like this with me when one of her exes was in the room? How faithful of a person could she be?" So anyways.. I didn't speak to her (nor she to me). I didn't flaunt myself, and I put on a happy face to look like I was having a good time. So how did I do??
gonetildecember Posted November 18, 2006 Posted November 18, 2006 I think you did good. Situations like that are hard, and I can't say I've always done the right thing. But you looked like you were having fun and you enjoyed yourself- and didnt't focus on her which is good. And if she was so focussed on you, it shows that she isn't exactly over things either, so I think you acted very well in light of the circumstances.
Teacher's Pet Posted November 18, 2006 Posted November 18, 2006 Firefly.. You sound like you did well, considering the situation. I don't know if I would have been as "cool" last week when I took the risk of seeing her at one of her favorite hangouts, and I was with a bunch of women, too! Even surrounded by cute girls... I would have been just...devastated........ That night really sucked, and it could have been great. I give you a lot of credit, pal. -tp weak.
Author fireflywy Posted November 20, 2006 Author Posted November 20, 2006 Thanks for the comments guys. I appreciate it. I took some time this weekend to think all of it over. I was still a little perplexed about her actions and exactly what she was doing. I've come to the conclusion that she probably was trying to "flaunt" the idea that she has a new man. Why? I don't know. Of course, this only shows me that she's still insecure to some degree and I'm sure that will play out in her next relationship the way it did with me. I'd love to hear someone explain that. However, for me, I guess it finally shuts the door. She moved on, got herself someone new. She can look at me across the room, laugh at me, roll her eyes, or seethe with anger, or not. She can judge me if she wants. I may walk into that bar with a dozen women on my arm or walk in and sit by myself in a corner all night. I have nothing to flaunt. In fact, I think that in the last few months, the fact that I haven't been desperate to find a woman has actually lead to them approaching me more than ever before. (what's up with that?) Perhaps she'll find peace... perhaps not. It's no longer my concern. As for you Teacher's Pet, it wasn't easy going out there. Everything in my heart told me to get the hell out of there but I stayed. The facts were staring me in the face. She has a new man and it's over. I told myself "You better get used to it buddy. This won't be the first time you see this and it won't be the last." I was very uneasy but my friends were there to talk to, the music was good, and in feigning confidence and security I found myself feeling it more as the night when on. If you ever run into that storm and see your ex out, do your best to face it. It's not easy but once you've faced it, you realize that it WILL NOT break you.
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