pricillia Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 Yes... still involved with MM... Today I shut my phone off and missed two of his calls. He left me a message saying "why did your phone go right to VM, is it because you don't want to talk to me?".. well yes and no, I am having a hard time with this and letting go. I am deeply in love... Damm that sounds so stupid:confused: He then tells me that he will call me in an hour. I am not needy just call tomorrow. And keep in mind I was not expecting his call but what the heck don't say you will call, it is not necessary. If you call you call, if you don't then don't That was about 4 hrs ago.. hmmm longest hour I have ever seen, must be idiot time. ok I'm done venting now.
stillhere Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 Chances are he was unable to call when he planned. My MM does this occasionally and i hate it. He tells me he'll call me in the morning and then he doesn't call until the afternoon. He just got busy and was unable to call when he wanted. My MM gets pretty upset when he calls just before he goes home for the night and i'm in a dead zone and he gets my voicemail right away. He tells me he loves me, but i can hear the agitation in his voice, because he didn't get to hear i love you from me. Especially since i always answer when he calls. Always. He's afraid that you are shutting him out of your life without an explanation or good bye. I'm sure he's hurt, because he doesn't understand what is going on, thinking the worst. If you're trying to let go, leave your phone off. Let him wonder. Let him feel what you are.
noforgiveness Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 He's not calling you because he is busy with his family. He is MARRIED. You come last. Sorry to be blunt or sound mean but you chose a married man so you get what you get when you get it.
yousaveme Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 Something most have happened to delay him from calling. It happens. Dont stress about it. Im sure he will or has gotten a hold of you. And dont let the negative thoughts that others might try and put in your head affect you.
noforgiveness Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 Something most have happened to delay him from calling. It happens. Dont stress about it. Im sure he will or has gotten a hold of you. And dont let the negative thoughts that others might try and put in your head affect you. something must have happened? Yes like LIFE his family. It's not negative thoughts. It's the reality of getting involved with a MARRIED man. He has a whole OTHER life that does not involve YOU.
yousaveme Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 something must have happened? Yes like LIFE his family. It's not negative thoughts. It's the reality of getting involved with a MARRIED man. He has a whole OTHER life that does not involve YOU. :rolleyes: :rolleyes:
noforgiveness Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 :rolleyes: :rolleyes: truth hurts doesn't it?
PoshPrincess Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 Something most have happened to delay him from calling. It happens. Dont stress about it. Im sure he will or has gotten a hold of you. And dont let the negative thoughts that others might try and put in your head affect you. I agree. I used to stress about my ex-MM not calling too. I constantly worried that something awful had happened to him, his kids, or whatever, but it never had. Obviously our MMs not being able to call is unavoidable. Unfortunately they always have other commitments/priorities that don't involve us. The one time I didn't worry about my MM not calling and was all ready to tell him to f**k off, something awful actually HAD happened! Thank God I didn't sent him that Dear John text as SO would have been the wrong time! I think it hurts them more than us sometimes when they can't call. We're the ones that are free to go out and do what we want which they find hard to deal with. Still, they know what to do if that's the case! Don't stress. He will call. I am still stressing that my now ex-MM hasn't called even though we've been NC for three weeks. He's tried phoning me twice in that time and I haven't responded and have no intention in doing so but still wish he would call just so that I can ignore him. Warped, huh? It makes me feel better to know he's still thinking about me as I am about him.
yousaveme Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 They go through the same thing when they dont hear from us. There have been times i have fallen asleep when i said i would call him. I later get a call wondering what happened , why didnt i call. Its a hard situtation on both ends...
Guest Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 truth hurts doesn't it? Bitter Betrayed Wife Syndrome.
Author pricillia Posted November 2, 2006 Author Posted November 2, 2006 something must have happened? Yes like LIFE his family. It's not negative thoughts. It's the reality of getting involved with a MARRIED man. He has a whole OTHER life that does not involve YOU. I am not listening to you
Author pricillia Posted November 2, 2006 Author Posted November 2, 2006 He's not calling you because he is busy with his family. He is MARRIED. You come last. Sorry to be blunt or sound mean but you chose a married man so you get what you get when you get it. no it is not like that, you don't know the whole story get off your freakin high horse!
Art_Critic Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 no it is not like that, you don't know the whole story get off your freakin high horse! so he isn't married ?? he doesn't have a family ?? he doesn't live with his wife ?? he doesn't have family responsibities that come before banging a mistress ? enlighten us on his busy lifestyle that would place you 10th in line ? Before you jump all over me I'm only asking because you opened the door with the statement : " you don't know the whole story "
a4a Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 so he isn't married ?? he doesn't have a family ?? he doesn't live with his wife ?? he doesn't have family responsibities that come before banging a mistress ? enlighten us on his busy lifestyle that would place you 10th in line ? Before you jump all over me I'm only asking because you opened the door with the statement : " you don't know the whole story " Looks like he lied a whole lot and probably still is? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t98465/
yousaveme Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 no it is not like that, you don't know the whole story get off your freakin high horse! Just ignore those comments....its your best bet..
a4a Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 Just ignore those comments....its your best bet.. Yes denial works well.
yousaveme Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 Yes denial works well. its not denial , there is more to that comment. not meant towards you or art....
yousaveme Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 truth hurts doesn't it? dont you have a BF to attack...leave other OW's alone...oh yea thats right your hiding and watching
noforgiveness Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 dont you have a BF to attack...leave other OW's alone...oh yea thats right your hiding and watching haha that's so funny when that's all you do is hide. You are the big secret dear. You are the hidden one who can't be involved with his "other life".
yousaveme Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 haha that's so funny when that's all you do is hide. You are the big secret dear. You are the hidden one who can't be involved with his "other life". FOR THE KIDS...
reneet Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 FOR THE KIDS... Everyone knows you're with him but the children - and when they are told - they will adjust, kids adjust.
yousaveme Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 Everyone knows you're with him but the children - and when they are told - they will adjust, kids adjust. I know...it will happen soon
noforgiveness Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 Everyone knows you're with him but the children - and when they are told - they will adjust, kids adjust. yes they do and will. The kids will be more hurt by being in a home that is unhappy. The kids are at a great age now and will get a lot of support from their group of friends. You certainly wouldn't want to tell a kid the first year he goes off to college and has all new friends and is living alone. You wouldn't want to tell him when you're not around him to see if it depresses him. There is NO GOOD TIME. Think about it. For the kids is nonsense. If he wanted you it would happen. He has chosen his family. His kids that he had with his wife. Why would you want to live like this?
reneet Posted November 2, 2006 Posted November 2, 2006 I know...it will happen soon Like I said before, it's better to come from a broken home than to live in one.
Author pricillia Posted November 2, 2006 Author Posted November 2, 2006 so he isn't married ?? he doesn't have a family ?? he doesn't live with his wife ?? he doesn't have family responsibities that come before banging a mistress ? enlighten us on his busy lifestyle that would place you 10th in line ? Before you jump all over me I'm only asking because you opened the door with the statement : " you don't know the whole story " I know good point...I just never ever felt this way about anyone before... I know I need to let go
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