newbby Posted August 19, 2006 Share Posted August 19, 2006 On the other hand, let's look at the person who is grossly overweight or underweight, looks dirty and unkempt, has the poor complexion that comes from unhealthy habits - and who bears a perpetual scowling or just plain stupid expression on his/her face. Our eyes do sometimes provide us with important information about a person, and I don't think it's entirely superficial to pay attention to what they tell us. i agree with this. biologically we are more attracted to a healthy mate. if somebody doesnt look after themselves physically it makes me think of them as irresponsible. Link to post Share on other sites
stoopid_guy Posted August 19, 2006 Share Posted August 19, 2006 i agree with this. biologically we are more attracted to a healthy mate. if somebody doesnt look after themselves physically it makes me think of them as irresponsible. But even "healthy" is a subjective. "Healthy" = "athletic?" "healthy" = "well fed?" Link to post Share on other sites
lindya Posted August 19, 2006 Share Posted August 19, 2006 But even "healthy" is a subjective. "Healthy" = "athletic?" "healthy" = "well fed?" Healthy = not liable to drop dead from a heart attack if we go on a 10 mile cycle run. Someone I can be a girlfriend to, rather than a nurse/therapist. Link to post Share on other sites
TheDiva Posted August 19, 2006 Share Posted August 19, 2006 Healthy really isn't something you can see with the eyes. I know a lady that lost her son to a heart attack at the age of 19 and he was on the Basketball team. Just sayin...... Link to post Share on other sites
stoopid_guy Posted August 19, 2006 Share Posted August 19, 2006 Healthy really isn't something you can see with the eyes. I know a lady that lost her son to a heart attack at the age of 19 and he was on the Basketball team. Just sayin...... That's true, but in general looks will give you an indication. There's a lady that works in our building, for example, who you definately would not ask on a ten-mile cycle trip. She looks like she'd get winded going up a flight of stairs, and she's the only one in the three-story building who uses the elevator for anything but moving equipment or furniture. Back to looks and attraction though... Individual taste, but the "hard body" look is unattractive to me, even though I'm sure it's very healthy. Link to post Share on other sites
Sassy Posted August 19, 2006 Share Posted August 19, 2006 As raised in another thread... and I seem to hear it often. I know I can identify. Why do men cheat with less attractive women than their partners? What is the psychology here men? My theory: Is it because it is about the new and exciting attention you recieve irrelevant of who it's from? Chances are they would recieve more positive attention from a less attractive female than themselves (and partner)? Ladies, has this happened to you? What were your thoughts at the time? I know mine were something like this... "WHAT THE F*CK????!!!" The reason for this is because men will sleep with anything as long as they have a hole to put their thang in! JMO:lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
stoopid_guy Posted August 19, 2006 Share Posted August 19, 2006 The reason for this is because men will sleep with anything as long as they have a hole to put their thang in! JMO:lmao: Nah, already seen "pocket pu**ys" mentioned a few times in these forums. If you were right, all us guys would just buy those. (Less expensive, less demanding, MUCH quieter...) Link to post Share on other sites
Yamaha Posted August 19, 2006 Share Posted August 19, 2006 Men really don't worry to much about looks if they are going to score. A plain women can get guys if she is "open for business". It's just a biological thing. Really!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Sassy Posted August 19, 2006 Share Posted August 19, 2006 Men really don't worry to much about looks if they are going to score. A plain women can get guys if she is "open for business". It's just a biological thing. Really!!! See i knew it was true thanks for telling the truth Yamaha! Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted August 19, 2006 Share Posted August 19, 2006 A plain women can get guys if she is "open for business". It's just a biological thing. Really!!! You're right, she could get some guys. But she couldn't get me. Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted August 19, 2006 Share Posted August 19, 2006 And yet in another thread a guy was going on about not getting sex because it was THE emotional connection to his wife. So what is it, guys? Is sex an emotional connection or is it not? Because I'm hearing both stories from sometimes the same people. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 And yet in another thread a guy was going on about not getting sex because it was THE emotional connection to his wife. So what is it, guys? Is sex an emotional connection or is it not? Because I'm hearing both stories from sometimes the same people. Both. Depends which point I'm trying to make. I can argue like that, because I'm in touch with my feminine side. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 And yet in another thread a guy was going on about not getting sex because it was THE emotional connection to his wife. So what is it, guys? Is sex an emotional connection or is it not? Because I'm hearing both stories from sometimes the same people. The penis is a very confusing part of the body. Sometimes it gets really emotional but most of the time it's too busy thinking for the man. Men depend on the penis way too much for the thinking process. Sadly, the only time the penis really shows much emotion is when it isn't into anything...you know, just dangling there. It's really hell. As far as the instrument causing an emotional connection, I don't think so. That's all in the foreplay. When in the actual sex act, it is a connection of sorts but primarily to deliver sperm to the egg so little peni and vagi will develop for future generations. Then the penis must sleep for a while. Then the cycle repeats itself. When men are screwing, their mind smay be thinking of romantic things maybe...like their wife or girlfriend...or maybe Salma Hayek or Angeli Jolie...but their penis is simply performing its community service. Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 Then the penis must sleep for a while. Why am I hearing birds and wind in the trees and a Jack Hanna voiceover here? So the answer is 'yes, no, and maybe'. That clears things up nicely! (and they say we're confusing!) Link to post Share on other sites
stoopid_guy Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 As far as the instrument causing an emotional connection, I don't think so. That's all in the foreplay. When in the actual sex act, it is a connection of sorts but primarily to deliver sperm to the egg so little peni and vagi will develop for future generations. Then the penis must sleep for a while. Then the cycle repeats itself. When men are screwing, their mind smay be thinking of romantic things maybe...like their wife or girlfriend...or maybe Salma Hayek or Angeli Jolie...but their penis is simply performing its community service. Great way to explain it.! Link to post Share on other sites
Tenorman Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 Why do men cheat "down"? Because the ladies who are "up" wouldn't have a bar of them. As for the emotional connection, cheat around enough and you won't be encumbered by it anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 I failed to mention that the penis becomes more ignorant and unable to think as time passes since each time it strains itself a great deal of gray matter is eliminated. Eventually the penis becums so stupid that it instinctually looks for any black hole it can find, without using much effort at all, in which to make another deposit. Thus, the big bang in the black hole. Then one day in the distant future the penis gives out and can no longer think...no longer stand erect...all gray matter is gone. It is then that sanity returns to the organism and either two things happen. A or B. Answer to follow! Those who point out that I misspelled "becomes" above are at the latter stage, male or female. The above information is straight out of the best seller, "Men Eat Mars Bars and Women Don't Have A Penis." Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 The above information is straight out of the best seller, "Men Eat Mars Bars and Women Don't Have A Penis." I think a website is in order. And possibly a DVD. You are clearly an expert on penii. BTW, how's your gray matter? <weg> Link to post Share on other sites
Yamaha Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 And yet in another thread a guy was going on about not getting sex because it was THE emotional connection to his wife. So what is it, guys? Is sex an emotional connection or is it not? Because I'm hearing both stories from sometimes the same people. An emotional connection makes sex more fulfilling but it is not necessary to enjoy the act. Love changes your desire to copulate with many women. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Pink Amulet Posted August 20, 2006 Author Share Posted August 20, 2006 Just thought I would throw this in... For the debate on what constitutes "down" and "isn't this shallow", blah blah blah... Well, yes, but cheating is pretty shallow so it's hard to have an unsuperficial, unbias, politically correct conversation about it. In this case, I am speaking in terms of 'cheating'... not so much affairs. So the one or two night flings. Plus, sorry OW, but I personally consider women who knowingly sleep with taken men to be pretty ugly (not in the physical sense)-Just my opinion. Feel free to grill me if you wish. This isn't about trying to make us feel better. Or confirming "attractive women are bitches", that's bull****, Outcast, humans are all pretty aware of what is physically attractive, and what is not. Although there are of course many exceptions to this concept (eg. men who are attracted to morbidly obese women) lets just keep this surface level here. We are all pretty concious of other humans who are physically "up" or "down" from us. Call me what you like, but just don't argue "who is to say what is attractive". Lindya I believe had it spot on... Link to post Share on other sites
Author Pink Amulet Posted August 20, 2006 Author Share Posted August 20, 2006 For example, I would consider myself to be quite attractive. I have been blessed with great genes, and I work hard to keep myself in good shape. However, last night I went to a meeting of "miss university", and a public introduction for us. I was completely aware of who was more or less attractive than me. I was spot on too by the level of crowd cheering I know my looks will fade over time, and I will accept moving "down" the scale of what constitutes socially accepted beauty. Link to post Share on other sites
Outcast Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 But, PA, your opinion of what constitutes attractive is not the same as mine. And I am positive I would find people attractive that you would not. I return to the usual examples to prove the point; there are women who would give anything to sleep with Mick Jagger and Steven Tyler. The very thought - I can't even go there. I think neither Aniston nor Jolie are attractive nor for that matter are Pitt or Vaughan. The issue is not mass appeal. That's irrelevant. The only thing that is relevant is the attraction that people have for other people. Which, as some of us are trying to point out, is not about how pretty your face is. I don't condone cheating in any way shape or form and you're the first person I've run into to differentiate 'cheating' from 'an affair' based on duration. I was referring to affairs; and the fact is that people seek more than sex in affairs. People don't get into affairs just for sex. Flings and one-night stands maybe, but again, sexual attractiveness is and always will be in the eye of the beholder. Whether or not the object of desire appeals to millions or not. Link to post Share on other sites
Yamaha Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 I know my looks will fade over time, and I will accept moving "down" the scale of what constitutes socially accepted beauty. Many good looking people say this but when faced with the reality they start running to the plastic surgeons. I know you believe this at this time but your reality might change and you might have a hard time accepting your loss of power. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Pink Amulet Posted August 20, 2006 Author Share Posted August 20, 2006 Yamaha- I have been to enough doctors to know that I will never go under the knife out of choice. I will just keep steering away from alcohol, smoking, and keep excercising and eating well and hope for the best! Plus, if I look anything like my mother does now, I will still be one hot biatch at 60 Outcast- I understand your point. You do not find Angelia Jolie at attractive, but if your husband cheated (god forbid) on you with an Angelina Jolie lookalike would you consider him cheating "down"? What I am trying to say is yes, we all have out own opinions, and of course they differ from person to person, but socially recognised scales of beauty are something to go by... Lindya addressed this well. I do understand your point though. Link to post Share on other sites
jonesgirly Posted August 20, 2006 Share Posted August 20, 2006 their penis is simply performing its community service :lmao: community service.....good one! :lmao: Link to post Share on other sites
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