catgirl1927 Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 But if the pics did ever surface, she could easily get her reputation back by suing him and having him charged for drugging her. It would be evidence of his sick crime. I don't think he'd risk that. He'd go to prison for his own stupidity. Eh, no one cares about that. The victims of these crimes are ALWAYS the ones to blame. It wouldn't hurt him at all, people would just think she was stupid and a whore who deserved it. It's sad, but that's the way it is. Besides, if he's using her for money he doesn't care just a lot what people think anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
TheSwordfish Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 ow this thread is becoming insane, speculation about blackmail and even generalisations about the way people blame victims... Come on, lets just wait untill Calligirl comes back and tells us about the current situation. Link to post Share on other sites
JohnM Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 Maybe she has taken the advice to go stay with a family member. I hope she has, this is a bad situation to be in. Its only been 2 days, we should just wait for her next post which hopefully says shes okay and has left this shady character. Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 But if the pics did ever surface, she could easily get her reputation back by suing him and having him charged for drugging her. It would be evidence of his sick crime. I don't think he'd risk that. He'd go to prison for his own stupidity. No one likes to have their reputation tarnished especially business people. Regardless of legal aspects she can't sue him for libel and slander because he has no assets. She has more to lose than him. Right now he has control over her, her heart, sex, niceness, pictures, etc... he has something over her. She has to cut the ties. Someone who does not value her "freedom" will be doomed to slavery. I think she needs to read more on Machiavelli and Sun Tzu; and start kicking him into shape or to the curb. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 Maybe she has taken the advice to go stay with a family member. Yeah, but, would not they have internet access also so that HCG can at least log in to LS? Maybe her relatives live in the backwood of Kentucky Link to post Share on other sites
JohnM Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 I have internet in my flat but not back home. Theres still alot of families that haven't got with the times Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 Maybe he is drugging her to get her to sign cheques and stuff to get her money? Strange how she has stopped posting now, I bet she is at his house and cant come to this site! Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 Maybe he is drugging her to get her to sign cheques and stuff to get her money? Strange how she has stopped posting now, I bet she is at his house and cant come to this site! Or ran him over with her Hummer SUV Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 Maybe he is drugging her to get her to sign cheques and stuff to get her money? Strange how she has stopped posting now, I bet she is at his house and cant come to this site! Oh My God! (OMG)....someone issue an Amber Alert!!! Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 What is an Amber alert? Tell all! Link to post Share on other sites
allina Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 As much as I enjoy this forum, I can't help but be shocked at the amount of seriously emotionally damaged people here Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 As much as I enjoy this forum, I can't help but be shocked at the amount of seriously emotionally damaged people here And by chance are you one of them ?? you are here too for a reason.. What is an Amber alert? In the US if a child is missing they issue an amber alert.. it ties all the states police forces as well as federal agencies and news agencies together in order to track down the missing child. The Alert was named after a girl "Amber" was abducted and killed.. so they implemented this alert statewide. It is highly successful in recovering abducted children Link to post Share on other sites
Author HotCaliGirl Posted April 24, 2006 Author Share Posted April 24, 2006 Hello everyone, I have just finished reading everyone's replies since my last post....too many points to respond to individually, but let me thank you all for caring and give an update as to what has transpired since my last post. As I had mentioned, I had a wedding to go to Saturday. I was supposed to go early to help the bride dress, but was feeling too upset and was here posting. As I was getting dressed, I did notice some bruises behind my arms of the halter style top of my outfit, to answer one of the questions if I had noticed any physical signs of anything. But my bf also pinches me hard sometimes so I can't say for certain if that was from when I was blacked out or not. I also have bruises on my leg... Anyways, I missed the actual ceremony and made it to the reception, where everyone was shocked to see my new appearance without my light hair. Although I feel like a different person and am still trying to get used to it, everyone said they liked it but I was anxious for my bf to see it. He kept calling, paging, texting me and emailing me the whole time I was there...there was no reception in the banquet hall so I had to mingle outside for most of the time not to miss his calls, it was a nightmare but he kept asking me to go to see him, I finally left early (even though it was almost midnight, it was a very large formal affair and the cake had not been cut yet). As much as I was worrying from what you guys had been telling me, he was being extra nice and I knew we were all speculating, I had to be sure of what was up. He let me park in his spot, came outside to greet me, was just being very very nice. He LOVED LOVED LOVED my new look, I had never received a bigger positive response from him the whole time I've known him, so I no longer felt bad about changing it, I just need to get used to it... He immediately offered me a drink. I wanted to say no, but i didn't want him to think I was being suspicious of what might be happening, so I said yes but just to take a sip or two, also I am still skeptical if he is doing anything to me. Again after a few sips I felt tired, but it was also late and I wanted to sleep. The strange thing is I thought we slept around 1-2 but the next day he told me we were up til at least 4am. Again I remember having conversations that were kind of dreamylike, not sure if they took place or not. One thing was he asked if my nipple had been sore!!! Visually there is no sign why it should be, but ever since i had woken up from the black out it had been painfully sore on one of them. I remember saying yes, but wondering how he knew and I can't remember if maybe i was the one to bring it up? Anyways the next day was Sunday. He rarely takes me out, only has a few times. If a guy makes eye contact with me and I respond, he gets angry and we go home, like once we were at a concert and just before it started I was waiting for him outside the bathroom, a soliciter of a shop was passing flyers and stopped to chat with me, he came out and saw and that was that, we went right back home without staying for the concert. So anyways, the next day we were reading newspapers, watching tv the whole day. I said I didn't want a drink so I didn't drink, and neither did he. At night when we went to bed, he tried to touch my breast which is a normal thing for a bf to do, but maybe because I haven't been sober while in a sexual position with him for a long time, I was thinking of all these posts and what MIGHT have happened, i automatically responded by pushing him away. He got angry and stopped talking to me!! Even in the morning he didn't acknowledge me, i got dressed and again asked him not to be mad at me, I was just feeling tired and other excuses I made, he didn't talk to me and hasn't called or emailed since.... Again, like some others said, this is all speculation. I have no idea what really happened. I am just trying to be careful. And it's not like I'm going to get on LS from his house so I am just getting back to you guys...thanks for the support but the mroe time that passes from that incident, i just think i had too much to drink...i honestly can't imagine he'd videotape me, but the thought is worrisome since like i said, he is always recharging the batteries for his videotape and camera when I go there, and reasons I don't want to get into, I really can't just go to the police, even if it is to just file a report. Again, I don't want to make this a bigger deal than it is, or make anyone worried...thnx. Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 WTF ????? He drugs you again and you still haven't seen the light.. HE IS DRUGGING YOU.. He is also abusive.. come on.. he doesn't talk to you because you push him away.. Trying to be as nice but blunt as you seem very intelligent..BUT WHAT THE f*** IS WRONG WITH YOU ?? Your going to wind up dead Link to post Share on other sites
hotgurl Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 this guy is bad news even if he didn't drug you he is way too controling You had to stay outside the reception so you wouldn't miss is calls?! He was calling/paging you constantly at the wedding. What you can't go to a wedding and not be monitored by him. You can't go out because you might talk to another guy or god forbid make eye contact. He tells you to change you hair. He gets so mad at you for turning down sex one time he won't speak to you. why do you allow him to treat you this way and have so much control over you? Link to post Share on other sites
tinktronik Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 I have no words for this HCG.Good luck, stay safe ,There are people here who care about you .You should take some of the advice from people here , but if you don't just stay safe. Link to post Share on other sites
allina Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 And by chance are you one of them ?? you are here too for a reason.. No one is perfect, but no I am not one of them. I'm very happy and together and can't imagine putting up with or accepting half the s*** I read about here. As for why I'm here, I enjoy this forum (as I said earlier) and I think it can be interesting to read the perspectives of others when it comes to relationships. Link to post Share on other sites
alphamale Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 ...no comment Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 No one is perfect, but no I am not one of them. I'm very happy and together and can't imagine putting up with or accepting half the s*** I read about here. As for why I'm here, I enjoy this forum (as I said earlier) and I think it can be interesting to read the perspectives of others when it comes to relationships. Just the fact that you made the post you did showing no empathy towards the OP's here shows you have some issues .. Welcome.. We are all a wonderful family.. Link to post Share on other sites
allina Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 Just the fact that you made the post you did showing no empathy towards the OP's here shows you have some issues .. Welcome.. We are all a wonderful family.. I see what you're saying, and I sort of agree. I guess it's hard for me to care about her when she doesn't seem to have any reguard or respect for herself. She's a successful, walking, breathing woman who is willing to throw it all away, it's hard for me to have empathy for someone like that. Now I'm honestly not a bitch, I know we all go through difficult times, and I care about people, but this situation is just too far removed from reality. Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 As I was getting dressed, I did notice some bruises behind my arms of the halter style top of my outfit I wonder where they come from? But my bf also pinches me hard sometimes so I can't say for certain if that was from when I was blacked out or not. I also have bruises on my leg... But it is normal for boyfriends to pinch us hard! everyone said they liked it but I was anxious for my bf to see it Yes I bet! He kept calling, paging, texting me and emailing me the whole time I was there...there was no reception in the banquet hall so I had to mingle outside for most of the time not to miss his calls, it was a nightmare I bet! He let me park in his spot, came outside to greet me, was just being very very nice. He LOVED LOVED LOVED my new look, I had never received a bigger positive response from him the whole time I've known him, so I no longer felt bad about changing it, I just need to get used to it... Maybe next time he will want you with a skinhead dyed green! He immediately offered me a drink. I wanted to say no, but i didn't want him to think I was being suspicious of what might be happening, so I said yes but just to take a sip or two, also I am still skeptical if he is doing anything to me. Again after a few sips I felt tired, but it was also late and I wanted to sleep. The strange thing is I thought we slept around 1-2 but the next day he told me we were up til at least 4am. Again I remember having conversations that were kind of dreamylike, not sure if they took place or not I cant even think of anything to say about this one! One thing was he asked if my nipple had been sore!!! Visually there is no sign why it should be, but ever since i had woken up from the black out it had been painfully sore on one of them. I remember saying yes, but wondering how he knew and I can't remember if maybe i was the one to bring it up? !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And all of that is followed by .......... Again, I don't want to make this a bigger deal than it is, or make anyone worried...thnx. I cant believe I am reading this! It must be a fake post ... No one is that dim! Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 but this situation is just too far removed from reality. I can agree with you that she is chosing to put herself in a position of harm.. but if you are a woman in an abusive relationship.. this is the exact reality of that.. millions of women live it everyday Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 I cant believe I am reading this! It must be a fake post ... No one is that dim! I wonder that myself.. maybe it is HG's boyfriend posting Link to post Share on other sites
JohnM Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 but this situation is just too far removed from reality. How can it be removed from reality, when its happening in real life? This isn't fiction. Link to post Share on other sites
jerbear Posted April 24, 2006 Share Posted April 24, 2006 I wonder that myself.. maybe it is HG's boyfriend posting that is what I thought. Maybe I should dye my hair jet black... wait I already have jet black hair. Link to post Share on other sites
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