jdesey Posted September 14 Posted September 14 I am 59 and she is 64.. totally baffled! had a phenomenal 1st date on Sat night. We had a ton of things in common. We agreed to see each other again soon. lots of texting today, everything going well. So, I think of a date, plan it out. Text her my idea for either Tues or Thurs.. Now crickets... WTH.
Sony12 Posted September 14 Posted September 14 Happens all the time after only one meeting. For starters you don't really know if they felt the same way as you did about the date. Lors of times people don't really say what they are actually thinking. Also she may have had a good time but has changed her mind since then. And you don't know how many other people she is talking to either. Isn't uncommon at all for people to act interested on the surface after a first meeting but then an official second date tried to get planned they disappear.
ShyViolet Posted September 14 Posted September 14 This is a person you went on ONE date with. You don't really know her. Don't make too much of it.
Carlston Posted September 19 Posted September 19 Clearly only one of you thought the date was phemomenol. The same person who doesn't know how to read the other person or is too self observed to care.
Gibbse Posted September 19 Posted September 19 I'm sorry to hear this as it sounded like you were really excited by this. I agree with what has been said by others and especially the below. You will feel disappointed about what has happened and that is pefectly okay. You could also try and look at it as it was a positive experience for you and a lovely opportunity for you to have put yourself out there and met someone you had a great time with. Sadly, this person wasn't the one for you. I wouldn't contact them again and move on. On 9/14/2026 at 12:47 PM, Sony12 said: Happens all the time after only one meeting. For starters you don't really know if they felt the same way as you did about the date. Lors of times people don't really say what they are actually thinking. Also she may have had a good time but has changed her mind since then. And you don't know how many other people she is talking to either. Isn't uncommon at all for people to act interested on the surface after a first meeting but then an official second date tried to get planned they disappear.
Lotsgoingon Posted September 19 Posted September 19 Yeah, dude, you are acting like a 20 year-old. One date means very little. And texting really means nothing. Dude, you're older--you gotta know that. People perform like heck when they text. I work in the field of communication and I can tell you that people write texts at a level far better than they write anything else. So the question is--why the heck are you texting? Call her! Lots of folks around your age don't really respect texting. Texting can be (not always is) kinda wimpy. Call her! If she doesn't pick up or doesn't call you back, then you can ask your questions. BTW: the answer could be a million things, including that she knows she isn't really as fascinating as the version of herself that showed up at the date. Lots of people are over-performers on dates. And I would say the vast majority of people texting are wildly more witty and considerate typing out words than they are in real life, in person! Again, call her!
smackie9 Posted September 20 Posted September 20 A great date doesn't mean interested. You gave it a shot, she didn't respond, you have your answer, move on.
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