Sugarspice25 Posted September 7 Posted September 7 So I went out with this guy I met throught Instagram. The date went well. He was really cute, nice and conversation flowed. He kept mentioning how attractive I am but then also mentioned something that my breasts are very big and he wants to be respectful as to not keep staring. Also he was talking about whipped cream if I like it and where would I put it on the body...I thought the conversation was a bit sexual at first and then he changed the topics to family, if I want kids, work ect. During the date he was talking about seeing me, inviting me to his boat. After the date we kissed in the car but I felt the kiss was kinda awkward because he was very like hungry..if you know what I mean. Anyway he dropped me off and we said our goodbyes. After he texted me oh I want to see your bathrub(because I mentioned im going to take a bath when I get home on the date since he asked) i sent him a photo. Then he said wow. What about you in it? I said um no. Then I said goodnight. He said sleep tight. That was Saturday. On Sunday no text from him. I text him late at 10pm ( because I was busy) that I had a really great time. Thank you. Since thats a polite thing to do. He replies the next day ( today at 10am) " absolutely ! That was a great dinner and it was nice to finally meet you" No mention of seeing me again. So is it done for?? Hes not interested? Hes 35
Alpacalia Posted September 7 Posted September 7 From everything you told me, I’m not getting a very gentlemanly vibe from him. He was making sexual comments about your breasts and the whipped cream/body stuff, then asked for a picture of you in the bathtub and followed it up by asking about you being in it. That IS pretty sexually forward, especially for someone who is supposedly trying to get to know you. I'd pass on this one. 2
ExpatInItaly Posted September 7 Posted September 7 2 hours ago, Sugarspice25 said: then also mentioned something that my breasts are very big and he wants to be respectful as to not keep staring. Also he was talking about whipped cream if I like it and where would I put it on the body...I thought the conversation was a bit sexual Why exactly do you want to see this guy again? I would have ended the date as soon as those inappropriate comments had come out of his mouth. I am rather concerned that you need to ask if this is good. It's most definitely not. 2
Author Sugarspice25 Posted September 7 Author Posted September 7 1 hour ago, ExpatInItaly said: Why exactly do you want to see this guy again? I would have ended the date as soon as those inappropriate comments had come out of his mouth. I am rather concerned that you need to ask if this is good. It's most definitely not. Thing is he seemed so normal and the conversation was great before we met. Im so confused and just disappointed Im a great girl worthy of a great intentional men. He never gave off weird vibes so im jusr flabbergasted. Yes im a busy girl and im slim but omg why is men see me and thats what they think? Sex?
Author Sugarspice25 Posted September 7 Author Posted September 7 1 hour ago, Alpacalia said: From everything you told me, I’m not getting a very gentlemanly vibe from him. He was making sexual comments about your breasts and the whipped cream/body stuff, then asked for a picture of you in the bathtub and followed it up by asking about you being in it. That IS pretty sexually forward, especially for someone who is supposedly trying to get to know you. I'd pass on this one. Yeah im just disappointed because he didnt show weird vibes prior to meeting. The conversations.were nice and thoughtful. I am a slim busty girl and it seems men just are very horny around me. How can I find a intentional Man???
Alpacalia Posted September 7 Posted September 7 12 minutes ago, Sugarspice25 said: Yeah im just disappointed because he didnt show weird vibes prior to meeting. The conversations.were nice and thoughtful. I am a slim busty girl and it seems men just are very horny around me. How can I find a intentional Man??? I'd actually encourage you to focus less on “How do I get men to stop being horny around me?” and more on “How quickly do I recognize and eliminate men who don't know how to handle attraction respectfully?” Because an intentional man can absolutely find you incredibly attractive. The difference is that he doesn't make you sexuality the centerpiece of the first date. 2
Sony12 Posted September 7 Posted September 7 A guy starts talking about whip cream. Yep you know what he is mainly looking for. 3
ShyViolet Posted September 7 Posted September 7 This guy was obviously just interested in sex. I would be very put off by his sexual comments on a first date. He made it clear what his priorities were. 2
ExpatInItaly Posted September 8 Posted September 8 8 hours ago, Sugarspice25 said: Thing is he seemed so normal and the conversation was great before we met Exactly - before you met. Please don't put so much stock into typed words on a screen. You need to screen men in person to decide if you want to see them again. This guy should have been discounted as an option as soon as he started making those comments. Instead, you are here wondering if he is interested. There is something wrong with this picture. 2
basil67 Posted September 8 Posted September 8 Given his behavior on the date, my biggest question is why do are you sad he's gone? Sounds to me like you handled it well and dodged a bullet 1
E in N Posted September 8 Posted September 8 Did you delete his number from your phone? You should. 1
Sony12 Posted September 8 Posted September 8 Whip Cream isn't nearly as much fun in reality as it is in the porno videos people watch. The couple times a lady and I tried whip cream her face would end up getting covered in cream to where she would have to go wash her face off and my body would get all sticky for the duration of the event. Not nearly as erotic as the videos people watch make it seem.
lemonicetea Posted September 8 Posted September 8 Uh, do you want to see this guy again? It’s obvious he’s only looking for sex.
Sanch62 Posted September 8 Posted September 8 If you’re seeking relationship material, nix any guy who speaks sexually to you before you actually get to know one another. The whole point of dating is to screen out bad matches until you find the right one. Let bad matches pass early, and don’t engage mistreatment to try to ‘convert’ a bad match into a good one. It won’t happen, and you’ll just feel lousy about yourself for tolerating lousy behavior. Respect your Self, and hold out for the right man. 2 1
Alpacalia Posted September 9 Posted September 9 10 hours ago, Sony12 said: Whip Cream isn't nearly as much fun in reality as it is in the porno videos people watch. The couple times a lady and I tried whip cream her face would end up getting covered in cream to where she would have to go wash her face off and my body would get all sticky for the duration of the event. Not nearly as erotic as the videos people watch make it seem. I don't really think that's the point of this thread, lol. She is interested in dating. The real skill to build is recognizing early when a man’s interest is primarily sexual so you can disengage quickly and save your time for someone who shows consistent, respectful, relationship‑oriented behavior. 2
Sony12 Posted September 9 Posted September 9 (edited) 1 hour ago, Alpacalia said: I don't really think that's the point of this thread, lol. She is interested in dating. The real skill to build is recognizing early when a man’s interest is primarily sexual so you can disengage quickly and save your time for someone who shows consistent, respectful, relationship‑oriented behavior. FindLocal Singles I know I was just trying to make a little joke There really shouldn't be that much to wonder about in this situation anyways. Anytime a guy starts talking about whip cream on body parts (especially on the first date) he's clearly just looking for one thing. Edited September 9 by Sony12 1
introverted1 Posted September 10 Posted September 10 On 9/7/2026 at 11:38 AM, Sugarspice25 said: So I went out with this guy I met throught Instagram. The date went well. He was really cute, nice and conversation flowed. He kept mentioning how attractive I am but then also mentioned something that my breasts are very big and he wants to be respectful as to not keep staring. Also he was talking about whipped cream if I like it and where would I put it on the body...I thought the conversation was a bit sexual at first and then he changed the topics to family, if I want kids, work ect. During the date he was talking about seeing me, inviting me to his boat. After the date we kissed in the car but I felt the kiss was kinda awkward because he was very like hungry..if you know what I mean. Anyway he dropped me off and we said our goodbyes. After he texted me oh I want to see your bathrub(because I mentioned im going to take a bath when I get home on the date since he asked) i sent him a photo. Then he said wow. What about you in it? I said um no. Then I said goodnight. He said sleep tight. What part of this is appealing to you? I'd have been done once he talked about my breasts. On 9/7/2026 at 11:38 AM, Sugarspice25 said: No mention of seeing me again. So is it done for?? Hes not interested? He's very interested in sex. I am sure that if you offer up some BSA sex, he will jump at the opportunity. Is that what you want?
smackie9 Posted September 20 Posted September 20 Hey Sugarspice25 I know this thread is weeks old, and I hope things are going well for you. I just want to say, don't blame yourself in anyway for how these guys behave towards you. It's not you or how you dress or anything. They are this way because it's just who they are. You ask why is it they are all like this...well guys like this are predatory and what better place to hunt women down than on social media....it's easy pickins for them. Avoid these men by avoiding them on SM. Meet men on a more personal level by going out irl, maybe through friends, or coworkers, events, hobbies, trips, etc.
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