Is this a good or ??

[Sugarspice25]

So I went out with this guy I met throught Instagram.  The date went well. He was really cute, nice and conversation flowed. He kept mentioning how attractive I am but then also mentioned something that my breasts are very big and he wants to be respectful as to not keep staring. Also he was talking about whipped cream if I like it and where would I put it on the body...I thought the conversation was a bit sexual at first and then he changed the topics to family,  if I want kids, work ect. During the date he was talking about seeing me, inviting me to his boat. After the date we kissed in the car but I felt the kiss was kinda awkward because he was very like hungry..if you know what I mean. Anyway he dropped me off and we said our goodbyes. After he texted me oh I want to see your bathrub(because I mentioned im going to take a bath when I get home on the date since he asked) i sent him a photo. Then he said wow. What about you in it? I said um no. Then I said goodnight. He said sleep tight.

That was Saturday. 

On Sunday no text from him. I text him late at 10pm ( because I was busy) that I had a really great time. Thank you. Since thats a polite thing to do. He replies the next day ( today at 10am)

" absolutely ! That was a great dinner and it was nice to finally meet you"

No mention of seeing me again. So is it done for?? Hes not interested?

Hes 35

[Alpacalia]

From everything you told me, I’m not getting a very gentlemanly vibe from him. He was making sexual comments about your breasts and the whipped cream/body stuff, then asked for a picture of you in the bathtub and followed it up by asking about you being in it. That IS pretty sexually forward, especially for someone who is supposedly trying to get to know you.

I'd pass on this one.

[ExpatInItaly]

2 hours ago, Sugarspice25 said:

then also mentioned something that my breasts are very big and he wants to be respectful as to not keep staring. Also he was talking about whipped cream if I like it and where would I put it on the body...I thought the conversation was a bit sexual

Why exactly do you want to see this guy again? 

I would have ended the date as soon as those inappropriate comments had come out of his mouth. I am rather concerned that you need to ask if this is good. It's most definitely not. 

[Sugarspice25]

1 hour ago, ExpatInItaly said:

Why exactly do you want to see this guy again? 

I would have ended the date as soon as those inappropriate comments had come out of his mouth. I am rather concerned that you need to ask if this is good. It's most definitely not. 

Thing is he seemed so normal and the conversation was great before we met. Im so confused and just disappointed 

 Im a great girl worthy of a great intentional men. He never gave off weird vibes so im jusr flabbergasted. Yes im a busy girl and im slim but omg why is men see me and thats what they think? Sex?

[Sugarspice25]

1 hour ago, Alpacalia said:

From everything you told me, I’m not getting a very gentlemanly vibe from him. He was making sexual comments about your breasts and the whipped cream/body stuff, then asked for a picture of you in the bathtub and followed it up by asking about you being in it. That IS pretty sexually forward, especially for someone who is supposedly trying to get to know you.

I'd pass on this one.

Yeah im just disappointed because he didnt show weird vibes prior to meeting. The conversations.were nice and thoughtful. I am a slim busty girl and it seems men just are very horny around me. How can I find a intentional Man???

[Alpacalia]

12 minutes ago, Sugarspice25 said:

Yeah im just disappointed because he didnt show weird vibes prior to meeting. The conversations.were nice and thoughtful. I am a slim busty girl and it seems men just are very horny around me. How can I find a intentional Man???

I'd actually encourage you to focus less on “How do I get men to stop being horny around me?” and more on “How quickly do I recognize and eliminate men who don't know how to handle attraction respectfully?”

Because an intentional man can absolutely find you incredibly attractive. The difference is that he doesn't make you sexuality the centerpiece of the first date.

[Sony12]

A guy starts talking about whip cream. Yep you know what he is mainly looking for.

[ShyViolet]

This guy was obviously just interested in sex.  I would be very put off by his sexual comments on a first date.  He made it clear what his priorities were.

[ExpatInItaly]

8 hours ago, Sugarspice25 said:

Thing is he seemed so normal and the conversation was great before we met

Exactly - before you met. Please don't put so much stock into typed words on a screen. You need to screen men in person to decide if you want to see them again. This guy should have been discounted as an option as soon as he started making those comments. 

Instead, you are here wondering if he is interested. There is something wrong with this picture. 

[basil67]

Given his behavior on the date, my biggest question is why do are you sad he's gone?   Sounds to me like you handled it well and dodged a bullet