First date (Facebook question)

[E in N]

How do you feel about someone wanting to add you on Facebook on a first date?

Have you had any good or bad experiences with this?

Thanks, all.

 

[Sony12]

It's not really all that uncommon anymore. For the most part it's just a way to get a better sense that who you are talking to are who they are telling you they are. 

Edited August 21 by Sony12

[ExpatInItaly]

Nope. 

I don't add people I don't know very well. 

[Sony12]

32 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said:

Nope. 

I don't add people I don't know very well. 

Definitely that way for some. But there are also a lot of people who have people who they went to kindergarten with but haven't had much to do with since on their friends list.

[ExpatInItaly]

3 hours ago, Sony12 said:

But there are also a lot of people who have people who they went to kindergarten with but haven't had much to do with since on their friends list.

Well, yes, which I also think is strange. Not my thing. 

I wouldn't care to date someone who might balk at me declining to add them on social media the first time I meet them. It would tell me our boundaries are not compatible. Simple as that. 

[Kurumi]

I've had some bad experiences on Facebook, so I no longer add strangers. People are rampant online, sharing nude photos or advertising, which is one of the reasons I dislike it. So you should be careful.

[Sanch62]

I’d just tell a new date who asks for FB that I only use it for a private family account, and I only use SM in general to browse, not to post.

If that’s a problem for them, then we’re not a good enough match for me to care. 

[lemonicetea]

I personally wouldn’t add somebody I’ve only been on one date with to any social media account of mine (I haven’t used Facebook in like 10 years) but I think these days it is not that unusual. 

[Gaeta]

I would never add anyone from a dating app on my social media. I went on dozens of dates in a year, imagine I had added them to my facebook where 80% of my friends on there are blood related to me. Or imagine the man becoming my boyfriend asking who are all those dudes on my FB. You have to think more strategic than that.

 

[smackie9]

Oh hell no. My life is not open to strangers. I don't trust anyone these days.