Partner not answering calls like she used to

[jmiah37]

Partner communications 

 

Before: Instant pickups, long chats, regular video calls, responsive communication

Now:

Doesn't answer video calls (consistently)

You call multiple times (5-7 times), she ignores

Then calls back later with excuses ("phone was on silent," "was in another room," "about to sleep")

Disappears for long stretches

Communication overall has dropped significantly

What do you think is going on ...when I challenge her she plays the victim accusing me of being crazy or making her crazy, what do you think she is doing she assured me repeatedly she is not speaking to another man but I have had my suspicions.

[basil67]

I'm assuming this is a long distance situation. 

I can't tell you what's going on because I am not with her.   But either a) she's cheating, b) she's not interested in you anymore and hasn't told you or c) you're annoying her will all the repeated calls and accusations.   Or it's a combination of these things.

Let's be clear: calling 5-7 times in a row and this isn't going sustain attraction on her end.  Just call once and if she cant take the call or misses it, she'll call back when she can.  Remember that she has a life outside of you.   Plus, you're accusing her of cheating.   Now she may be cheating, or she may not be.  I don't know.  You don't know.   But if she's not cheating and you keep accusing her, of course she's going to tell you you're crazy.   If she is cheating, she'll also say you're crazy because she doesn't want to get caught. 

I suggest you stop calling and leave the ball in her court.  If she wants contact, she'll call.  If she doesn't call, then the relationship is over.

 

Edited August 17 by basil67

[ExpatInItaly]

It sounds like she has lost interest in the relationship and lacks the courage and maturity to tell you this. 

8 hours ago, jmiah37 said:

You call multiple times (5-7 times), she ignores

Don't be doing this. That would drive anyone crazy and it won't get the results you want. 

How often do you actually see her in person? How long have you been together?

[Carlston]

You don't need a handful of internet strangers to point out that she's just not that into you anymore. 

Stop freaking calling her and find other things to do. Then make those other things a permanent replacement for her. 

[ShyViolet]

Calling someone 5-7 times is kind of an unhinged thing to do.  If she doesn't answer after one or two calls, you don't keep calling and calling.  That makes you look crazy.

If she is acting like she's pulling away then face reality and talk to her about it.  If it doesn't get better, end the relationship.

[Gebidozo]

Is this a long distance relationship?

I have the impression that she is trying to avoid your calls because you’ve been calling her too much. Calling 5-7 times in a row is, frankly, a pretty crazy thing to do,

You should meet and have a sincere conversation about what’s happening. At any rate, you should first calm down and stop calling her like that.