Posted on behalf of a friend

[Community-news]

Posted on behalf of a friend. Come on people give me your best. I know what I think!

I’ve met a man my sister knows really well and she says he’s lovely. We really like each other, but we’ve been meeting secretly because he’s only just ended an 11-year relationship less than three weeks ago. He said she took it really badly.
He says he’d been deeply unhappy for years and dreaded going home, so emotionally the relationship was over long before he actually ended it.
The problem is that his ex is still living in his house with their family, so nobody can know about us yet and we have to meet away from home. We’ve spent five amazing nights together already and we have three nights in another lovely hotel tomorrow.
His family don’t know about me either and he can’t introduce me because it would look terrible so soon after the breakup.
Also, his Facebook cover photo is still a really lovely couple photograph of him and his ex. He hasn’t changed it.
He says I shouldn’t worry, but I really like him and I’m frightened I might just be a rebound or a fling. What would you think?
 

Edited August 12 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[flitzanu]

if the man is still living with his wife and family, then he is still with them.

[ExpatInItaly]

No, no, no.

Stay away from this man. He is clearly not available to have a relationship with anyone else.

[Sanch62]

There is clearly something wrong and manipulative about anyone who would ask you to become a secret.

Don't do it. Step away from this man--he's a mess. 

[ExpatInItaly]

On 8/12/2026 at 8:28 PM, Community-news said:

I’ve met a man my sister knows really well and she says he’s lovely. We really like each other, but we’ve been meeting secretly because he’s only just ended an 11-year relationship less than three weeks ago.

I also question why the sister would introduce your friend to someone who is apparently barely even single. 

 

[Sanch62]

18 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said:

I also question why the sister would introduce your friend to someone who is apparently barely even single. 

Friendship

Not even single. Don’t insert yourself into someone’s marriage problems. Watch the feet, not the lips. If he were free and completely over his marriage, there’d be no reason for secrecy.

Don’t adopt someone else’s lousy judgement.

[stillafool]

So technically you are his mistress.  MM lie all the time.

On 8/12/2026 at 2:28 PM, Community-news said:

He said she took it really badly.

So she still wants to be with him and is with him.

On 8/12/2026 at 2:28 PM, Community-news said:

On 8/12/2026 at 2:28 PM, Community-news said:

The problem is that his ex is still living in his house with their family, so nobody can know about us yet and we have to meet away from home.

 

He's broken up with her, she took it badly, but she is still under the same roof as him.

On 8/12/2026 at 2:28 PM, Community-news said:

His family don’t know about me either and he can’t introduce me because it would look terrible so soon after the breakup.

When exactly did they break up?

On 8/12/2026 at 2:28 PM, Community-news said:

Also, his Facebook cover photo is still a really lovely couple photograph of him and his ex. He hasn’t changed it.

Most people who break up with their partners remove their pictures right away.

It's doubtful they are broken up.  He wouldn't be hiding you if they were.

[Sony12]

It's easy to tell someone that you find attractive and would perhaps like to go to bed with that you were single.