I’ve been seeing this girl for a bit what do I do?

[Brokenheartedman12]

I’m generally confused, I met this girl on the apps pretty quickly we hit it off. I gave her my number. She calls me almost instantly talked on the phone for a bit. I asked her out she agrees. First date goes really well. She invited me back to her place but I liked her and didn’t pursue anything. She continues to call and txt starts telling me she’s a little guarded as we both just recently ended serious long term relationships. She wants to go on a second date which also goes amazing we kiss but nothing crazy. We go on a 3rd date but before that she text me she isn’t sure she’s ready for anything serious, but it goes really well and held hands. In person I asked her am I just a friend or someone she can see being with. She said she can see it becoming something but is nervous. I got nervous/vulenable and told her I want this to become something eventually. She continues to call me and txt me she text me at odd hours of the night 2 am - 5 am to see if I’m up. I’m just looking for opinions or experience what do I do? I want to continue to talk to her but I feel I need to continue with zero expectations. She’s a little confusing and feels hot and cold 

[Sony12]

1 hour ago, Brokenheartedman12 said:

I’m generally confused, I met this girl on the apps pretty quickly we hit it off. I gave her my number. She calls me almost instantly talked on the phone for a bit. I asked her out she agrees. First date goes really well. She invited me back to her place but I liked her and didn’t pursue anything. She continues to call and txt starts telling me she’s a little guarded as we both just recently ended serious long term relationships. She wants to go on a second date which also goes amazing we kiss but nothing crazy. We go on a 3rd date but before that she text me she isn’t sure she’s ready for anything serious, but it goes really well and held hands. In person I asked her am I just a friend or someone she can see being with. She said she can see it becoming something but is nervous. I got nervous/vulenable and told her I want this to become something eventually. She continues to call me and txt me she text me at odd hours of the night 2 am - 5 am to see if I’m up. I’m just looking for opinions or experience what do I do? I want to continue to talk to her but I feel I need to continue with zero expectations. She’s a little confusing and feels hot and cold 

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The vast majority of the time when people invite you back to their place on the first date they are usually just looking for sex or at least some form of fooling around. She clearly stated to you that she isn't looking for anything serious and her actions go along with this statement. If you are looking for something more serious you likely aren't going to find it with this girl. She might have a boyfriend that she is on the rocks with right now and that is why she is being careful about the times you two interact. 

In anycase though if you are looking for a relationship best to tell this girl thanks but no thanks. She's giving all the indications of a gal who just wants to have a little bit of fun with a hot guy.

[Sanch62]

I wouldn’t take calls from anyone at 2 or 5 in the morning. That’s too messed up for me.

[Brokenheartedman12]

4 hours ago, Sony12 said:

The vast majority of the time when people invite you back to their place on the first date they are usually just looking for sex or at least some form of fooling around. She clearly stated to you that she isn't looking for anything serious and her actions go along with this statement. If you are looking for something more serious you likely aren't going to find it with this girl. She might have a boyfriend that she is on the rocks with right now and that is why she is being careful about the times you two interact. 

In anycase though if you are looking for a relationship best to tell this girl thanks but no thanks. She's giving all the indications of a gal who just wants to have a little bit of fun with a hot guy.

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I thought that too but what’s with the calling everyday and txting and txting at late hours and when I saw her in person she said she could see it going somewhere but shes nervous ?

[Sony12]

4 minutes ago, Brokenheartedman12 said:

I thought that too but what’s with the calling everyday and txting and txting at late hours and when I saw her in person she said she could see it going somewhere but shes nervous ?

She likely just enjoys having someone to talk to or flirt with. As far as the late hours go it's entirely possible she has someone living with her and the time she had invited you back to her place she knew they wouldn't be there.

[Brokenheartedman12]

4 hours ago, Sony12 said:

She likely just enjoys having someone to talk to or flirt with. As far as the late hours go it's entirely possible she has someone living with her and the time she had invited you back to her place she knew they wouldn't be there.

She has no one living with her, she calls me throughout the day txt me sends me pics of her outfits, calls me when I’m at work sends me reels, I just don’t get it. 

[ExpatInItaly]

It sounds like she is on the rebound and is looking for someone to fill the hole her ex left behind. 

11 hours ago, Sanch62 said:

wouldn’t take calls from anyone at 2 or 5 in the morning.

I agree. I wouldn't be awake at 2am anyway, and when I am up at 5, it is to get my day started with an early morning workout. 

How old are you both, OP? Does she not work or study? I am wondering where she gets the time to text all hours of the day and night. Either way, I wouldn't count on tis going anywhere.