My romantic lover won't talk to me

[deanerenata32]

I am a 38-year old woman who has been seeing a man for 3-4 months now. He met me and started a full blown romance with me. We even had sex together, it was probably the best thing that has ever happened to me.

Well, the problem is is that he never talks to me. I have been sending him texts a lot but he has not texted me back even once. He told me he would never hurt me, but his lack of communication with me has indeed hurt my feelings and has made me cry.

I have no idea what is going on with him. His lack of talking to me means I can't just ask him myself.

I was actually getting serious about him and was seeing him as a potential marriage partner. But now I don't know what to think. I hate to think that he just used me for his own enjoyment without committing to the relationship like I have, it sickens me and makes me upset. Men shouldn't use women; its not nice. We are not your playthings. We are real people with real needs and feelings. We have self respect.

[Gebidozo]

5 hours ago, deanerenata32 said:

His lack of talking to me means I can't just ask him myself.

Why?

You should definitely ask him what’s going on, you need to know where you stand.

 

5 hours ago, deanerenata32 said:

I hate to think that he just used me for his own enjoyment without committing to the relationship like I have

Wait a second, did you tell him clearly that you considered that a committed relationship?

Because if you didn’t, then he did nothing wrong. It’s completely okay to have sex without commitment as long as there is no deceit.

 

 

[stillafool]

How long has it been since you've talked to him?

[stillafool]

7 hours ago, deanerenata32 said:

I hate to think that he just used me for his own enjoyment without committing to the relationship like I have, it sickens me and makes me upset. Men shouldn't use women; its not nice. We are not your playthings. We are real people with real needs and feelings. We have self respect.

You, yourself said the sex was great and probably the best thing that has happened to you.   You were not being used, if anything you used each other.  Did you clarify with him that you two are in a one-on-one relationship and what you expect from him before you had sex?  If not, he probably had a good time and thinks you did too.