MartinM40 Posted July 16 Posted July 16 Im a married 40 year old guy, my wife recently got pregnant which were very happy about. but she's often tired or not feeling well, so we dont have much sex. She's also not that adventurous in bed. I dont like to raise it with her, cos she does her best and I dont want her to feel bad. but the problem is, i often get so horny particularly during the day, and I end up eyeing off every woman that comes along, and looking for opportunities to flirt. and i have also been sexting with another married woman, has been pretty intense, but we have no intention of actually meeting up or cheating physically (we dont live anywhere near each other anyway). I feel bad that im cheating on my wife, but the other half of me really enjoys the thrill, and it does help to spice it up when we do have sex. is it wrong to keep doing this, or is there a better way to resolve the dilemma?
Alpacalia Posted July 16 Posted July 16 (edited) Yes, it's wrong. Cheating while your wife is pregnant is not the solution to the intimacy issues you are having with your wife. Have you tried couples therapy? Staying quiet isn't going to resolve the issue and doesn't give your wife the opportunity to explore other ways to help bring the spark back in your relationship. Plus, she's pregnant and women's needs change during pregnancy and their bodies are undergoing havoc, a supportive husband is what she needs not someone that goes behind her back sexting other women because he's too afraid to express his own frustrations. How do you think you're going to grow closer together intimacy wise if you're cheating and keeping secrets from her? Edited July 16 by Alpacalia 1
flitzanu Posted July 16 Posted July 16 just because you're not physically having sex with another person, you're still cheating. you're finding emotional and sexual gratification with another person that is not your wife. 1
smackie9 Posted July 16 Posted July 16 Yes there are other options, there's porn, sex toys, and just hammering one off in the shower every morning. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted July 16 Posted July 16 13 hours ago, MartinM40 said: is it wrong to keep doing this Ask your wife. 2
sammy09 Posted August 14 Posted August 14 I think you are fine. Sexting is not a big deal. If shes tired and can't satisfy you in any form, then you need to do what you got to do.
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