Anonymous Posted July 4 Posted July 4 Is it just me who feels there is just as much of a power dynamic in place between much older women and younger women as it is with older men and younger women? Older women have far more life experience and maturity compared to young men eg late teens or early 20s, that they can easily use to manipulate and control the young guy. Many have a financial power too because they earn more. I feel like this gets brushed off often and not taken seriously as its with older men and younger women.
ExpatInItaly Posted July 4 Posted July 4 3 hours ago, Anonymous said: I feel like this gets brushed off often and not taken seriously as its with older men and younger women. Is this your situation? Who is brushing it off? And no, I don't see that there is any difference but I also don't see that many older woman-younger man pairings in real life, either.
Anonymous Posted July 10 Posted July 10 On 7/4/2026 at 7:01 AM, ExpatInItaly said: Is this your situation? Who is brushing it off? And no, I don't see that there is any difference but I also don't see that many older woman-younger man pairings in real life, either. Not mine situation, but people everywhere.Its never a big deal when the woman is older, but if its a man, people do anything to hate on him. Older women like young guys just as much as older men like young women, but even that is hard for people to accept despite these relations being everywhere. Most of it is just sexual too.
basil67 Posted July 10 Posted July 10 We had an older woman with a younger man here a few weeks ago, and I wrote a response which expressed concerns about her being so much older. I'm not sure where you're getting the idea that nobody care about the woman being older.
Gebidozo Posted July 11 Posted July 11 I actually don’t agree that there is equality here. As a rule, it is much easier and much more common for an older man to manipulate and coerce a younger woman than for an older woman to do the same to a young man. I’m not saying the latter cannot happen, but it is rare and power dynamics aren’t as blatantly skewed as they are in the older man / younger woman case. There are entire cultures where older men wield a lot of power and routinely coerce young women to marry them. The reverse barely ever occurs. So it is quite understandable if people are more wary of older man / younger woman relationships than the reverse.
ExpatInItaly Posted July 11 Posted July 11 5 hours ago, Anonymous said: Its never a big deal when the woman is older, but if its a man, people do anything to hate on him I don't agree with this, nor do I think the latter is always true, either. Why is this issue so important to you?
Anonymous Posted July 27 Posted July 27 On 7/11/2026 at 2:13 AM, Gebidozo said: I actually don’t agree that there is equality here. As a rule, it is much easier and much more common for an older man to manipulate and coerce a younger woman than for an older woman to do the same to a young man. I’m not saying the latter cannot happen, but it is rare and power dynamics aren’t as blatantly skewed as they are in the older man / younger woman case. There are entire cultures where older men wield a lot of power and routinely coerce young women to marry them. The reverse barely ever occurs. So it is quite understandable if people are more wary of older man / younger woman relationships than the reverse. Relationshipcoaching program That's not a rule and not true. There is lot of bias towards older men but older women hold the same power over younger men when it gets to big age gaps. There are just as many women going after young men as in the reverse, but people don't talk about it and ignore it because of the bias. Physical differences have nothing to do here, that is irrelevant with age gaps.
Anonymous Posted July 27 Posted July 27 On 7/11/2026 at 5:15 AM, ExpatInItaly said: I don't agree with this, nor do I think the latter is always true, either. Why is this issue so important to you? Look above, the user described it perfectly. There is an inherent bias agaisnt older men. Its important because I am an older man who has casual relationships with much younger women 18 to 25.
Anonymous Posted July 27 Posted July 27 On 7/11/2026 at 12:36 AM, basil67 said: We had an older woman with a younger man here a few weeks ago, and I wrote a response which expressed concerns about her being so much older. I'm not sure where you're getting the idea that nobody care about the woman being older. That's good, but you were and are in the minority.
Gebidozo Posted July 28 Posted July 28 3 hours ago, Anonymous said: Look above, the user described it perfectly. There is an inherent bias agaisnt older men. Its important because I am an older man who has casual relationships with much younger women 18 to 25. Intimacybuilding exercises Oh, why didn’t you say so in the first place? I was wondering why anyone would be so obsessed with what people think about older women being together with younger men. I thought you had a son who was in an unhealthy relationship with an older woman. Turns out you’re just looking for some kind of a strange justification for your own behavior. Okay, let’s say people do condemn women who casually sleep with much younger men. Would that make your own habits less creepy?
Anonymous Posted July 28 Posted July 28 5 minutes ago, Gebidozo said: Oh, why didn’t you say so in the first place? I was wondering why anyone would be so obsessed with what people think about older women being together with younger men. I thought you had a son who was in an unhealthy relationship with an older woman. Turns out you’re just looking for some kind of a strange justification for your own behavior. Okay, let’s say people do condemn women who casually sleep with much younger men. Would that make your own habits less creepy? Then their reasoning would at least make sense and have some logic. I wouldn't care if they thought it was "creepy" or whatever.
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