It’s been 11 days.

[Brokenheartedman12]

It’s been 11 days since my fiancé and I split. We had some problems and I thought we would get out of them. She’s been stressed, her health isn’t good and neither is her mom’s. I still tried to show up everyday for her. We broke up on good terms. But she did not give back the engagement ring. I had texted her asking for it along with some clothing, she still has not replied. I hate that it ended like this and really felt she was the one, what do I do from here? I’m trying to stay calm, I’ve been nice and the love is still there but after 3.5 years she treats me like I’m worthless? 

[stillafool]

Sorry about your breakup with your fiancé and I'm sure it must be kind of rough for you right now.  I would call her and tell her you'd like to come by and pick up your clothe and the ring.  Ask her what a good time is to do that.  

[Brokenheartedman12]

11 hours ago, stillafool said:

Sorry about your breakup with your fiancé and I'm sure it must be kind of rough for you right now.  I would call her and tell her you'd like to come by and pick up your clothe and the ring.  Ask her what a good time is to do that.  

I did, she won’t reply! Even asked if I should give her stuff to someone and nothing!!

[petee]

What exactly are you going to do with the ring. Did you get her to sign for it as a loan? Whilst it is sad it doesn't mean you give everything back to each other. 

You need to move on.

[Sanch62]

17 minutes ago, petee said:

What exactly are you going to do with the ring. Did you get her to sign for it as a loan? Whilst it is sad it doesn't mean you give everything back to each other. 

You need to move on.

I don’t know the laws where you live, but an engagement ring is not a gift in the US, it’s a contract based on a promise. It’s often something handed down in families or purchased to symbolize a proposal and acceptance of an agreement. The courts view it that way.

I’d send both a text and an email that offer her 48 hours to respond with a date and time I can expect to receive the ring back before I file a small claim with her local court.

You can list your other belongings in the claim, but you cannot reclaim anything you’ve given her as a gift. Gifts are not contracts, they are freely given.

Don’t add anything personal to these messages about the ring and your list of possessions to reclaim, as these will serve as your court documents as proof of your request for the property.

You will likely never need to reach the court. Most people want to avoid court and will comply before you file, but if not, you must file or lose credibility. Once served a summons for a court date, most people comply quickly to avoid the need to appear. When you receive your property, you can withdraw the claim.

[petee]

40 minutes ago, Sanch62 said:

I don’t know the laws where you live, but an engagement ring is not a gift in the US, it’s a contract based on a promise. It’s often something handed down in families or purchased to symbolize a proposal and acceptance of an agreement. The courts view it that way.

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I’d send both a text and an email that offer her 48 hours to respond with a date and time I can expect to receive the ring back before I file a small claim with her local court.

You can list your other belongings in the claim, but you cannot reclaim anything you’ve given her as a gift. Gifts are not contracts, they are freely given.

Don’t add anything personal to these messages about the ring and your list of possessions to reclaim, as these will serve as your court documents as proof of your request for the property.

You will likely never need to reach the court. Most people want to avoid court and will comply before you file, but if not, you must file or lose credibility. Once served a summons for a court date, most people comply quickly to avoid the need to appear. When you receive your property, you can withdraw the claim.

You are only partly correct.

it’s possibly a ‘conditional gift, which is as you describe.

it could be an ‘unconditional gift’, so the recipient keeps it. 
or lastly it could be a ‘fault based conditional gift’, where if the guy finishes it, or is at fault the recipient keeps the ring if they want.

We don’t know what state they are in, but not all states are the same.

Its worth googling if you need more clarity.

[stillafool]

15 hours ago, Brokenheartedman12 said:

I did, she won’t reply! Even asked if I should give her stuff to someone and nothing!!

She isn't replying because she doesn't want to give the ring back.   That is not fair to you.  She thinks if she keeps ignoring you, you'll give up.  I wouldn't if I were you.