Crushing on my next door Neighbor

[CeruleanSkies98]

I’m so confused.

I think what’s really hard is the fact that I know nothing about this girl, and I freeze up so easily when she’s around. This never happened to be before. I know nothing about this girl, and she easily makes me freeze up. 

One day she came out while I was walking my dog, and she watched me walk him the entire time. She stood out on the balcony, and I waved at her. She waved back. She was wearing a sweater, came out, changed into a nightdress. This left me so perplexed.. it was a cold day out. 

I tend to take things at face value— so I tried not to read too much into it. But I found that interaction so strange. In my mind, I thought maybe she wanted to talk to me. 

The next time I saw her, I asked her what her dog’s name was. I got nervous after she answered and went back inside. 

The most recent, we stared at each other. For like twenty seconds and said nothing. I tried to play it off and pretend I was on the phone, but it was so obvious I wasn’t. I walked away, and when I came back, she went inside.

I guess my biggest worry is creeping her out with the prolonged eye contact. She rarely comes out too, so the window for communication is less. 

Also, I don’t think borrowing sugar or whatever from her will work. Her family likes to stay to themselves. Should I just leave this alone? Did I blow it?

Edited Thursday at 04:55 AM by CeruleanSkies98
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[ExpatInItaly]

1 hour ago, CeruleanSkies98 said:

One day she came out while I was walking my dog, and she watched me walk him the entire time

So, I gather you must have been watching her back to know this. 

1 hour ago, CeruleanSkies98 said:

we stared at each other. For like twenty seconds and said nothing. I tried to play it off and pretend I was on the phone

Do you mean your pretended to speaking on your phone, but you were holding eye contact with her the whole time? 

1 hour ago, CeruleanSkies98 said:

The next time I saw her, I asked her what her dog’s name was. I got nervous after she answered and went back inside

This was a good opener, but what did you say when she answered you? 

[Gebidozo]

If you like this girl, have a normal conversation with her. Why did you walk away?

Nothing will ever happen if you don’t talk to her, ask her out on a date, and get to know her,

[CeruleanSkies98]

22 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said:

So, I gather you must have been watching her back to know this. 

Do you mean your pretended to speaking on your phone, but you were holding eye contact with her the whole time? 

This was a good opener, but what did you say when she answered you? 

My backyard is small, so I’d know if she’s staring at me. She pretty much stood outside the whole time I was there.

We held eye contact, then I looked away and talked on my phone.

She told me the name of her dog, I asked if she was friendly and she pretty much said “she’s pretty anxious”.  I’m so nervous I went back inside.

[ExpatInItaly]

24 minutes ago, CeruleanSkies98 said:

My backyard is small, so I’d know if she’s staring at me. She pretty much stood outside the whole time I was there

This does not mean she was specifically staring at you the entire time, I hope you realize. 

In any case, you will need to find the courage to carry on a friendly conversation. Turning around and walking inside without any word when someone answers your question could come across as rude - did you at least say you needed to get going or some such thing? 

[Sony12]

She must be hot. In anycase I think you are definitely overreacting quite a bit. A lot of people simply like going outside for periods of time to check out the day. She has really made no attempts to interact with you other then possibly trying to look attractive something she probably does with everyone)..

Also it really isn't advisable to crush on neighbors as it makes for potentially very awkward situations. No one wants that at their home. 

You can hop on the Internet and find someone just as attractive as her who has nothing to do with your regular life.

[CeruleanSkies98]

5 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said:

This does not mean she was specifically staring at you the entire time, I hope you realize. 

In any case, you will need to find the courage to carry on a friendly conversation. Turning around and walking inside without any word when someone answers your question could come across as rude - did you at least say you needed to get going or some such thing? 

I agree, I’m not gonna sit here and guarantee she was looking at me— but my backyard is extremely small and we did hold eye contact for a long time. Mainly, there isn’t much to look at by grass, the sky and a tree. 

 

5 minutes ago, Sony12 said:

She must be hot. In anycase I think you are definitely overreacting quite a bit. A lot of people simply like going outside for periods of time to check out the day. She has really made no attempts to interact with you other then possibly trying to look attractive something she probably does with everyone)..

Also it really isn't advisable to crush on neighbors as it makes for potentially very awkward situations. No one wants that at their home. 

You can hop on the Internet and find someone just as attractive as her who has nothing to do with your regular life.

I kind of live in an old retired neighborhood in the middle of nowhere. A small commuter town. I am literally the only one that’s her age there, as everyone else are seniors or married with kids. Other than that, she stays in the house. 
 

There had been no attempts to interact with me, other than us making eye contact. 

I also rather not crush on my neighbor. It’s intrusive to my life. Maybe I should just ignore it. 

[Sony12]

Yes you should definitely just ignore it. Again you can easily find someone just as attractive as her simply by joining a dating app. And they will have nothing to do with your regular life.

[ExpatInItaly]

2 hours ago, CeruleanSkies98 said:

Turning around and walking inside without any word when someone answers your question could come across as rude - did you at least say you needed to get going or some such thing? 

And what about this?

[CeruleanSkies98]

I asked her 

“what’s your dogs name?”

she answered.

”is she territorial”

”No, she’s just anxious.”

”Oh, okay.” 
 

I wanted to say more, but I just waved and exited the conversation 

[Sony12]

1 hour ago, CeruleanSkies98 said:

I asked her 

“what’s your dogs name?”

she answered.

”is she territorial”

”No, she’s just anxious.”

”Oh, okay.” 
 

I wanted to say more, but I just waved and exited the conversation 

Sounds like you two are better off just being  neighbors who politely wave to each other when you cross paths.