How to break up

[pinkstar]

It’s a long story….he added me on Skype in 2009, we started chatting and I fell in Love …we were in touch for so many years …we were living in two different countries he was from Israel and living there …I moved to Australia…I was living alone for over 5 years and even dated many guys but I was just in love with him I suspected he might be married I asked him so many times and he said no no …he asked us to meet in some other countries but I couldn’t make it ….eventually in 2017 he asked me to meet in the US…I asked him again if he is married and eventually he said he was married with three daughters the whole world collapsed…it was the wirst thing ever happened to me….i tried to walk away and didn’t chat like before I couldn’t finish the relationship at once but after a month he told me about it I didn’t answer once a year he sent an email to ask how I am doing and I answered in 2024 again we started chatting again ….intermittent he said he was using coke sometimes and seed everyday it was another shocking news….again I got attached to him at that time he said he moved to Spain and he asked to meet in Portugal I even asked when he said next month then he said sorry work and disappeared and ghosted me after two weeks he text me again and asked if I’m still angry and I said yes you left in the middle of a serious conversation but it doesn’t matter and then he got angry and said ok so it doesn’t matter and I didn’t say anything for 2 months then he text me again after 2 months when there was a war in Iran and he was worried.  for me the. I answered him again…we started chatting but not like before then on his birthday he said he was losing his vision of his right eye and not getting along with his wife for the past two years … but not separated yet..any way from that time every three days he sent me something like a kiss how are you and something like this I really want to break up but not easy after 17 years due to his health problem I’m not able to fight but I’m really dying 

[ExpatInItaly]

9 hours ago, pinkstar said:

I really want to break up

It is beyond time to put this man in your past. 

He is dishonest, unrelible, unstable and not at all someone who adds anything of value to your life. It also doesn't appear you have ever met him in person  - is that right? 

Please realize that this was not a relationship, though I get your feelings were involved. He is someone else's husband and it is not right to continue contact with him. I would instead work on asking yourself what has kept you attached to this person for so long, even after he revealed he is married and has a family. I would have cut all ties right then and there. You need to figure out why you didn't.