Wanting to send this text after a breakup

[Mresponse]

let me know your thoughts. I was broken up with 4 days ago. And I hate myself. Trying to figure out if I’m a bad partner/ didn’t care enough? I thought we were good. It was a rekindling of an old relationship and doing distance. How do I figure out how I fall short? I want him to feel so loved.

“I've been thinking of you and your family and wanted to reach out. I know you're dealing with a lot right now, and I hope everyone is doing okay.

I respect your decision and don't want to pressure you. At the same time, I would be lying if I said this wasn't hard for me to understand. I was genuinely caught off guard by how quickly your feelings changed, and I've spent a lot of time reflecting on our relationship and wondering what I could have done differently. I wish your concerns had been brought up when they happened so we could repair immediately and I could understand your needs before it bubbled over and you felt unheard. 

I know I'm not perfect, but I care deeply about you and always wanted us to work through things together. My intention was always take accountability/seek understanding and for you to feel seen, heard, loved, and supported. And I’m sorry if I fell short. 

If at some point you'd be open to talking, I'd appreciate the chance to better understand what happened and share my perspective as well. If not, I understand and will respect that.

I love you deeply and unconditionally and will always be grateful for what we shared. I had planned on being your partner forever if you felt the same/move back to atl and never leaving. You are my greatest joy.

I already bought the tickets to The concert, so I'm happy to send you yours if you'd like it.

I am so sorry for making you feel boxed out. I truly missed that text I didn’t realize I hadn’t responded. That’s is on me. I always want to hear from you. I was afraid of losing you and I should have been more expressive

 

Wishing you and your family the best. I'll give you the space you've asked for.”

[ShyViolet]

I hope writing this out helped you to get some of your feelings off your chest.  But don't send this to him.  He broke up with you for a reason.  He does not see a future with you and is just not that into you.  Sending him some long, excessive message isn't going to change that.  If he wanted to be with you, he would be.  Keep your dignity and self-respect and move on.

[Mresponse]

9 minutes ago, ShyViolet said:

I hope writing this out helped you to get some of your feelings off your chest.  But don't send this to him.  He broke up with you for a reason.  He does not see a future with you and is just not that into you.  Sending him some long, excessive message isn't going to change that.  If he wanted to be with you, he would be.  Keep your dignity and self-respect and move on.

 

9 minutes ago, ShyViolet said:

I hope writing this out helped you to get some of your feelings off your chest.  But don't send this to him.  He broke up with you for a reason.  He does not see a future with you and is just not that into you.  Sending him some long, excessive message isn't going to change that.  If he wanted to be with you, he would be.  Keep your dignity and self-respect and move on.

Earlier in the week he texted me how much he loved me and how he was certain about us. So I’m confused 

[Gebidozo]

12 minutes ago, Mresponse said:

 

Earlier in the week he texted me how much he loved me and how he was certain about us. So I’m confused 

Another reason not to send him this letter. Why would you humiliate yourself in front of an immature, emotionally erratic person like that?

[Sanch62]

Unfortunately, I don’t think anyone has gotten through to you in your last thread. I hope you will reread it carefully and reflect on why someone this impulsive and who uses blame to manipulate you is a lose/lose proposition, no matter what you do.

My heart goes out to you. THINK.

[ShyViolet]

2 hours ago, Mresponse said:

 

Earlier in the week he texted me how much he loved me and how he was certain about us. So I’m confused 

The guy dumped you.  Wake up.  He is just playing games with your emotions and too immature to put an end to this.  There's nothing to really be confused about.

[ExpatInItaly]

Girl. GIRL. No. 

Go back and read everything we posted in your other thread. Then read it again. Then take it and this latest post to a good, compassionate therapist who can help you figure out why you cling to crappy men. 

[Mresponse]

4 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said:

Girl. GIRL. No. 

Go back and read everything we posted in your other thread. Then read it again. Then take it and this latest post to a good, compassionate therapist who can help you figure out why you cling to crappy men. 

I hear you loud and clear. Can’t thank everyone enough for their comments on the other thread.

I know the internet only knows a little about this man. I know none of us are perfect but he really was the most caring, thoughtful and peaceful boyfriend I have ever had..it was just when I tried to rekindle the relationship that I felt broken/ I was doing everything wrong 

I am not sure where to find a therapist who works for me but I’m working on finding a new one