Is it more than a working relationship?

[RLL]

Hi all,

There is the co-worker i have worked alongside for several years now and in the past I have picked up on certain body language and words that may Indicate a slight attraction.

Over the past few months he has gone very distant for no reason at all, in the sense that he will not work in the same room as me and can barley speak to me. I have no understanding as to why. He has recently gone through a break up and is dealing with his own issues, but this sudden 'im not working with you' came as a massive shock and upset, literally in less than 24 hours (he went to the manager who will not tell me whats happening with him) . We exchanged a few messages when I was trying to find out the issue and he said he cared about me and visa versa and we should talk in person, this was 2 months ago....with no conversation. 

This week I have noticed him looking at me a fair bit, he still runs his hands through his hair like he used too when he walks by. Today a colleague told me that when I walked by him his eyes immediately widened 'bulging' as they put it and said he was staring at me as I walked away. He started speaking to me a few moments after about work stuff which is a start. At the end of the day as I was chatting to a colleague I felt him watching me, I apologised and he said I was just staring at you. I know next week he will go back to being avoidant. 

Im confused, does he have any interest or am I reading into something that is not there? The hot/cold is driving me mad. 

[basil67]

3 hours ago, RLL said:

The hot/cold is driving me mad. 

Staring at you isn't "hot".  It's rude.  If he does it again, ask him what he's staring at.

[stillafool]

Sounds like something is going on in his life and it's not about you.  After years working together, if he was interested, he would have made a move by now and especially if he's broken up with his girl, he would be coming on to you.

[flitzanu]

just because a person fixes their hair or looks at you in a workplace doesn't mean they are romantically into you.