My situation

[Anonymous]

Okay so I 19F knew a guy (19M) from primary school. He's on a gap year I'm in uni Our families were friendly but we haven't seen each other in person since we were kids and we were never friends.

 

So when we were 17 our moms became friendly again and they tried to set us up I guess like his mom asked for my number and we texted a bit but it didn't go anyway no hard feelings yet I caught a crush on him.

 

A few months ago, I reached out again through my friends Instagram account. She set us up and he found out it was me and that I was too shy to speak to him so obviously he knew I had a crush. I don't use social media but my friend suggested I create an Instagram account so I did. We started talking properly. The conversation was warm and normal he even flirted a bit at first. but then after a few days he started leaving me on delivered and when i texted him once or twice he was friendly but didn't seem that into it. He eventually left me on delivered for a long time and lied about transferring phones. I took that as a clear sign that he wasn't interested. He then went silent for two months

 

Then he texted me out of the blue, asked about a trip he knew I was on, and we started talking again. I though he was just being friendly. This time he was warmer, he deliberately tried to make himself seem interested in stuff I aspired to do such as wanting to train for a marathon and when I asked which one he said whichever one your doing. cause your doing one righttt. which to me sounded a bit..forward. we started chatting again and he gave me his number cause he was deactivating insta and we texted on whatsapp for a couple of days and he was warmer than before and made future orientated comments. he then started leaving me on delivered again and took a long tome to reply. so I decided to just end the convo and he didnt try to revive it. its been weeks now.

 

My question is what's his deal. He knows I like him so if hes not interested why is he coming back giving me his number and fading again. is he just being friendly? If so why would he come back ?

[Gebidozo]

He is obviously not interested in you romantically.

He occasionally comes back because he is bored, or maybe because he does like you as a person, or because talking to a girl who likes him makes him feel good about himself, or because someone told him to keep backups around.

It can be any of the above reasons or any other. It doesn’t matter. He doesn’t want to date you, so you should move on and find someone who does.

[ExpatInItaly]

5 hours ago, Anonymous said:

My question is what's his deal. He knows I like him so if hes not interested why is he coming back giving me his number and fading again. is he just being friendly? If so why would he come back ?

He's not interested but, like many people, he enjoys the digital company and attention when it suits him. That's why you hear from him only sporadically.  He probably reaches out when other girls aren't talking to him or he's a little bored or some such thing. 

The bottom line is that he doesn't share your crush. It stings but it's going to be best for you to drop the idea of anything more happening here and not reach out to him again. If he gets in touch, I would keep it short and sweet but remind yourself that he's not going to stick around. 

[stillafool]

I agree he's not interested and just contacted you out of boredom and perhaps to feed his ego.  When a guy is interested, you don't have to question it, they make it obvious by being consistent in their pursuit of you.