accepting that I'm gonna be lonely and ugly for the rest of my life

[alone1991]

I've always struggled with my appearance my whole life. First I had acne then that got cured. Then I had hairloss and when I tried to treat it the meda gave me side effects. Then when I finally shaved my head I discovered I have rocasea. A nasty skin condition where your face gets red and has no cure. Then I finally get that treated I decide to lift weights again and it gets worse.

I've struggled so hard to improve my appearance and now no matter what I do there's tradeoffs. So I virtually have no way to improve my confidence. My therapist feeds me a bunch of bs like "you need to accept yourself how you are." but how am I supposed to do that when attractive women won't accept me?

I'm tired of rejection and nasty comments people make about my body. So many gorgeous women in this city and it sucks knowing I'll never be able to have sex with them or date any of them. How do I cope? My only options are to look like a cancer patient with good skin or have a nice body with a f***ed up face. Which is less unattractive? At this rate I probably need to date someone I don't have attraction to.

[Gebidozo]

You’ve already posted this before, OP.

Please check your older threads for advices that we gave you then.

I’ll just reiterate that the problem is not your looks, it’s your mentality. You appear to believe that dating gorgeous women is your inalienable right. Women don’t appreciate men with an entitled mindset.

[alone1991]

1 hour ago, Gebidozo said:

You’ve already posted this before, OP.

Please check your older threads for advices that we gave you then.

I’ll just reiterate that the problem is not your looks, it’s your mentality. You appear to believe that dating gorgeous women is your inalienable right. Women don’t appreciate men with an entitled mindset.

it must be both tbh. right now I'm just trying to get a better job because I think my living situation is the biggest issue.

[Gebidozo]

2 hours ago, alone1991 said:

it must be both tbh. right now I'm just trying to get a better job because I think my living situation is the biggest issue.

That’s good. Being passionate about your profession is something many women find very attractive.

I know personally some men who can hardly be considered conventionally good-looking but have a lot of success with women because they are good at what they do.

And no, they aren’t rich. Quality women aren’t attracted to wealth but to sense of purpose.

Many women would ignore lack of good looks if the man is confident, independent, purpose-driven, and has moral integrity.

 

[alone1991]

7 hours ago, Gebidozo said:

That’s good. Being passionate about your profession is something many women find very attractive.

I know personally some men who can hardly be considered conventionally good-looking but have a lot of success with women because they are good at what they do.

And no, they aren’t rich. Quality women aren’t attracted to wealth but to sense of purpose.

Many women would ignore lack of good looks if the man is confident, independent, purpose-driven, and has moral integrity.

 

 

7 hours ago, Gebidozo said:

That’s good. Being passionate about your profession is something many women find very attractive.

I know personally some men who can hardly be considered conventionally good-looking but have a lot of success with women because they are good at what they do.

And no, they aren’t rich. Quality women aren’t attracted to wealth but to sense of purpose.

Many women would ignore lack of good looks if the man is confident, independent, purpose-driven, and has moral integrity.

 

looks still matter for attractive women who have options though

[Gebidozo]

3 hours ago, alone1991 said:

 

looks still matter for attractive women who have options though

Much less than personality.

Every attractive woman I know would choose a plain looking guy with a great personality over a handsome guy who doesn’t offer her much and complains.