Unhappy in a relationship

[alexious84]

I (24F) is currently in a 1 and a half relationship with (28M). We met through a dating app. We had a rocky start to the relationship. Long story short I didn’t see long term potential in him due to his lifestyle habits (He is an extrovert and constantly likes to go to bars for drinking, festivals etc) whereas I am more of an introvert and ambitious/intellect/bit on the quieter side. I also didn’t feel emotionally safe since he’d follow and like half naked/bikini pictures of girls constantly. He still strikes me as the flirty type. 

He wasn’t necessarily my ‘dream boy’ and I would say he still isn’t. I always have this nagging feeling that we aren’t compatible. However, he treats me well apart from when we fight, he does have tantrums and tends to road rage/hit on things. But when we are okay, we can hold proper conversations etc. I can see that he really likes me. He has been wanting to move in together but I just have this huge gut feeling/doubts that I really shouldn’t. I am also just a bit unhappy in this relationship and I don’t know how to break it off anymore because he knows my family and I know his etc. I feel like I am wasting my time. Please advise.

[ExpatInItaly]

5 hours ago, alexious84 said:

I don’t know how to break it off anymore because he knows my family and I know his etc

Why would this prevent you from breaking up with someone? 

5 hours ago, alexious84 said:

he does have tantrums and tends to road rage/hit on things

This is a serious red flag. I would not stay with someone who behaves like this. 

Being able to have proper conversations and the fact that he likes you are pretty basic requirements for a relationship - but they're not enough to sustian a healthy and loving connection. You two are clearly not compatible and you won't be happy if you stay with him. You know what you need to do. 

[Gebidozo]

7 hours ago, alexious84 said:

I don’t know how to break it off anymore because he knows my family and I know his etc.

This is one of the weirdest excuses for not breaking up that I’ve ever heard. What on Earth does this have to do with the fact that you’re unhappy with this guy?

If you aren’t happy and think you two are incompatible, break up immediately.

Edited 3 hours ago by Gebidozo

[ShyViolet]

I am a 44 year old woman who has had my share of boyfriends and relationships in my 20s and 30s.  One of my many regrets when I look back at my life is that I stayed in bad or mediocre relationships for way too long when I knew I wasn't happy.  I was too cowardly to just come out and say that I wanted to break up, I felt like I didn't know how to do it, and I just kept going along in the relationships rather than make a bold move and break up.  And probably the biggest truth of all is that I had low self-esteem and self-worth and didn't think I could do better or deserved better. 

All this is to say, you are so young, and what a waste it would be to throw your 20s away on this very obviously BAD relationship, with this guy who you know is not the right one for you.  WHO CARES if you know each other's families?  How does that obligate you to stay in the relationship?  This relationship needs to end and you need to have higher standards for yourself in the future.  You say that you knew early on that this didn't feel right and you weren't that into this.  So it was a mistake to let it get this far.   When a relationship doesn't feel right, you end it.