Complex relationship

[Anonymous]

I met a woman, and within a week, we were texting a lot, hundred of texts per day.

We meet, and instantly connected.  Having intimacy on the 2nd meeting, also being the last.

Its now been a month, and things got fast.  She doesnt want a relationship, but doesnt want to meet very often either.  She still texts a lot, about random things.

Yesterday, I said we need to distance each other, as I feel like this isnt a relationship that I thought it would be.  Everytime I try to plan a date, she denies me, saying she can't or wont, because she isnt ready to meet, or to wait some unknown amount of time.  I told her that us talking so much and not being able to meet, is taking a toll on me and im unable to handle it.

She texted this morning saying goodbye.

 

Did I handle this wrongly?  I think about her a lot and really like her, and feel she does as well.

I know there's a no contact rule in this sort of thing, so should I wait to contact her and tell her maybe I made a mistake?

[moonlightsway]

I feel maybe I was being selfish because the sex was great and I wanted more and suddenly it stopped.  

Aita?

[ExpatInItaly]

2 hours ago, Anonymous said:

I know there's a no contact rule in this sort of thing, so should I wait to contact her and tell her maybe I made a mistake?

Why would you? 

She doesn't want to date you. She wants you to keep her company until she meets the next person she likes enough to date, and then you will be left high and dry. If that doesn't sound like fun, cut all contact with her and keep it that way. 

[moonlightsway]

1 hour ago, ExpatInItaly said:

Why would you? 

She doesn't want to date you. She wants you to keep her company until she meets the next person she likes enough to date, and then you will be left high and dry. If that doesn't sound like fun, cut all contact with her and keep it that way. 

Anyway to tell her we could have friends with benefits?  I actually dont want any committed relationship, but was willing to for her.  She's way above my league.

Kind of feel like i was the rebound, maybe even the side guy.

[moonlightsway]

Oh, she just texted me and randomly started flirting.  Saying shes at the market and wants to cook for me.

Mind games for sure.  Man, women are crazy, and men are stupid for sure.

[Gebidozo]

1 hour ago, moonlightsway said:

Oh, she just texted me and randomly started flirting.  Saying shes at the market and wants to cook for me.

Mind games for sure.  Man, women are crazy, and men are stupid for sure.

Well, you’re certainly trying to confirm that second part of your statement by being unreasonably mad at someone who has been completely clear and straightforward with you.

She said she doesn’t want a relationship with you. She is free to keep flirting with you or do whatever she wants as long as you keep agreeing to that. There is nothing “crazy” in that.

If you don’t want to be treated in that way, control your totally misguided anger and cut off contact with her. It’s that simple.

[moonlightsway]

16 hours ago, Gebidozo said:

Well, you’re certainly trying to confirm that second part of your statement by being unreasonably mad at someone who has been completely clear and straightforward with you.

She said she doesn’t want a relationship with you. She is free to keep flirting with you or do whatever she wants as long as you keep agreeing to that. There is nothing “crazy” in that.

If you don’t want to be treated in that way, control your totally misguided anger and cut off contact with her. It’s that simple.

No one is mad.

If i ask her directly what she wants, she says she doesnt know.  Leading to believe I'm in a roster with other men.