Distrust and silence

[Anonymous]

I have a long distance relationship with a man I been with two years and the communication was everyday no matter how much we argued we always talked. The longest we went without talking was a week but now its been over a month with consistent communication I have blocked and unblocked him due to the verbal and emotional abuse. He want me to chase behind him but I held the weight if the relationship far too long. I just wanted him to fix it and make things right and talk to me and be honest about things there was other woman he started talking and flirting with but I dint believe he had sex outside of the relationship. He stopped video calling with me and over a period of time. I don't know why hes doing this things but hes saying he's not cheating everyday I have accused him. I have accused him of cheating each conversation we had because the communication become less and the way he use to treat me changed. I never felt like he had sex because I believe if he did he would have left me and ghosted me. He dint take sex lightly anymore since he met me he don't see sex as just sex anymore so he claims if he did this he would leave me. Yeah maybe for a little while he may do so idk.. Any advice to help me get through this? I don't call him hes blocked on whatsapp and still has my profile picture up. 

[ExpatInItaly]

This is insanely toxic. 

Have you ever even met this person? 

[Divine Feminine]

Yes many times I've been to the carribeans to see him we were very close yes... Hes not stranger I know more about his life then he does mines . We lived together a three months before I had to return home. 

Edited yesterday at 07:28 PM by Divine Feminine

[Els]

I think you know what you need to do, and should have done a long time ago. The question is, why aren't you doing it?

[ExpatInItaly]

2 hours ago, Divine Feminine said:

 Hes not stranger I know more about his life then he does mines . 

And why is this the relationship you are choosing for yourself? 

It's awful. 

[Gebidozo]

Obviously you should break up with him.

Also, I hope you understand that constantly accusing a person of cheating makes no sense at all.

Either you trust him, or you don’t. If you do, don’t accuse him. If you don’t, don’t accuse him - break up with him.

[Sanch62]

Relationships are voluntary. If you don’t trust someone, and you’re suffering verbal and emotional abuse, why volunteer to stay?