What is the most healthy way to proceed when your date cancels plans?

[AnastasiaP]

Hello! I recently matched with a guy through dating apps, and we talked for a few days before eventually planning to go for a drink on Saturday evening. On Saturday morning, he texted me saying that something else had come up and that he wouldn’t be available for the date that evening. Since he was already out having coffee, he suggested that we go on the date afterward instead. He tried to justify it by saying that he works a lot during the week and only has weekends available to see his friends.

I felt disrespected and told him that the change of plans he suggested didn’t work for me. He then said we could do it another time. I feel like maybe I should have been more bothered? How do you guys react in similar situations?

[Sony12]

Just say thanks for letting me know but I don't think our schedules will line up. It was actually nice that he told you about it beforehand and simply didn't stand you up or not tell you until just a few minutes before the date.

A lot of people don't bother to let the other person know at all. Nothing wrong with how he handled it. Who knows if he was telling the truth or not but handled it fine on his end.

Edited 12 hours ago by Sony12

[AnastasiaP]

Should I give this person a second chance or not? I felt disrespected when he told me.

[Sony12]

52 minutes ago, AnastasiaP said:

Should I give this person a second chance or not? I felt disrespected when he told me.

Only if you feel like it. The two of you haven't even met yet so neither of you are under any obligation to say anything more but 'thanks but I am not real interested in pursuing anything further'

[stillafool]

1 hour ago, AnastasiaP said:

Should I give this person a second chance or not? I felt disrespected when he told me.

If you felt disrespected by him canceling why would you want to give him another chance?

[AnastasiaP]

I'm asking whether I should give him another chance because I might have been harsh on my judgement.

Edited 10 hours ago by AnastasiaP

[Gebidozo]

11 hours ago, AnastasiaP said:

I felt disrespected

Why?

He politely told you he had to cancel the date and even suggested an alternative.

If you think that is disrespectful, you better brace yourself if you want to continue dating.