Tagalz Posted May 17 Posted May 17 After last time, alot has changed. Two weeks ago she reached out to me on snapchat after she ended it. It has been 1 month of no contact before she broke it. I asked how she were doing and she asked me the same. We kept it light - she said she was out climbing, i flirted and said I liked the view. Seems that she took this positively and flirted back. Couple of days later she asked if I wanted to come online and play some games. I said yes - kept it casual and flirted. This time she called me her «boo-thang» It was weird that we flirted after she ended it with me romantically. I sent her a text last weekend - in short saying that I need to take distance because this dynamic is weird. Saying that it’s not her fault etc.. she acknowledge and said she’s sorry for hurting me. I did that to put boundaries and have selv respect. Seems like she does not know what she wants. And here we are now. She sent me alot of text but essentially she saying she was emotionally affected by her ex than she herself understood so the dynamic between me and her was at times complicated and weird. She saying sorry that it has been affecting me, that it was not her intention. She said she had to figure things out on her own which was the reason she ended it romantically and she saying that she feels like we are having good time with each other. Thanks for taking your time to read, I appreciate it!
smackie9 Posted May 17 Posted May 17 That's it....you were her emotional band-aid/rebound. You did the right thing by setting a boundary...but don't let her explanation make you hopeful. Steer away from her. Think about it....she reached out because she's lonely and looking for some attention to make her feel better. Totally friends zoned. 1
Author Tagalz Posted May 17 Author Posted May 17 (edited) 7 hours ago, smackie9 said: That's it....you were her emotional band-aid/rebound. You did the right thing by setting a boundary...but don't let her explanation make you hopeful. Steer away from her. Think about it....she reached out because she's lonely and looking for some attention to make her feel better. Totally friends zoned. Yea and I think it's weird that she sent me that text yesterday because I was done with her. I think she sent that text because she wants to justify her behaviour. I also feel that she kind of misses me but not in a good way... as you mention just as someone she sees as a friend and therapists. I do not agree the rebound part. We were dating for 3 months so the initial attraction and intimacy was there but not the emotional part but fairs cuz she gave me a chance... just that she figured out we were not a match during those 3 months or she may have known from the very beginning what she were doing. ANYWAYS all that are just word, actions says louder and last time she were yapping about how she found out that her ex was cheating. She's damaged and not ready for relationship, she just want intimacy and f*** around. I feel sorry for the next guy really. Right now I'm trying to figure out if I lost the girl or not...In my opinion the outcome would be the same BUT atleast I'm looking at this in a good way. That I dodged a bullet and I got to have lots of sex hahaha Edited May 17 by Tagalz
ExpatInItaly Posted May 18 Posted May 18 14 hours ago, Tagalz said: Right now I'm trying to figure out if I lost the girl or not. It doesn't seem like she was ever yours to begin with. Eevn though it seems you dated for a while, it doesn't appear her heart and mind were really with you. It's going to be best to move on from her. 1
Author Tagalz Posted May 18 Author Posted May 18 3 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said: It doesn't seem like she was ever yours to begin with. Eevn though it seems you dated for a while, it doesn't appear her heart and mind were really with you. It's going to be best to move on from her. Agreed. She knew deep inside what she were doing. so it seems like we all agree that I did not lost the girl. The outcome would be the same even if I were more confident and masculine. She’s just too damaged unfortunately. I have to work on myself because I keep attracting those women
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