Is it possible that he's not cheating

[dms122]

So my boyfriend has business ventures and also has tons of girls which he and I don't see eye-to-eye on as far as text messaging and things like that.. a bigger issue is that he has a gambling problem often stays out all night long and won't answer the phone for me or tell me where he's at.

Recently he started talking to a new business associate a girl and in the past business associates were only contacted during the business situations but this girl has been texting him all day and all night everyday except for twice when he has disappeared once for a couple days and I see his car at a hotel which he later told me he was there with some friend of his and the most recent he left on Mother's Day telling me he was going to take his mom some flowers he did not come back until the 15th talked to me a handful of times giving me worry that something bad was going to happen to him and then heartache that he wasn't coming back because he's not good enough the thing that has me stumps is the text messaging from this girl completely stopped both times he was gone now on the messaging it always seems like 90% of it is incoming but I also happen to notice this morning her name on the messenger which was very rare that I could see because usually it's locked up tight. We have talked a little bit about where he was what he was doing it was vague I mean he told me he just didn't want to be there because we're fighting all the time and he was very unhappy is there any way he's not cheating

[ShySoul]

From everything you said rather or not he is cheating is just one factor in the bigger picture. He doesn't seem to be respecting you on all kinds of levels.

1. It's not just one girl, it's several girls he is in touch with.

2. He disappears all night and doesn't respond.

3. If it's not women, it's gambling.

4. He left for days, only speaking in search a way that worried you,

5. He won't give clear answers.

6. He's telling you he is unhappy and you are fighting constantly.

Neither of you seem to be happy. Do you want to continue feeling bad like this? Do you want to always be worried about someone who you can't trust and who doesn't seem to trust you? 

You deserve better. You deserve someone who will be with you, who will tell you the truth and put you first. I know it's painful to admit, but he doesn't seem to be that guy.

[Gebidozo]

It doesn’t matter whether he is cheating or not. He was feeling unhappy and broke up with you. It’s over. You should move on.

In the future, please don’t check your partner’s private messages, that’s a very disrespectful thing to do.

 

[MsJayne]

He's rude, disrespectful, and dismissive towards you. What is about this emotionally abusive person that makes you want to be with him? Do the smart thing and block him on every platform, go through the pain of rejection, and use it as a learning curve so that you choose more wisely next time. If a partner does things that leave you feeling insecure and distrustful you should always get rid of that person, always, because gut feelings are usually correct. Even if he wasn't cheating, (which he probably was), his need for female attention is a massive red flag. Sorry you're going through this, but it will pass. 

[Sanch62]

If I were with someone who disappeared and had a gambling problem I’d be too far gone to wonder if he cheated on top of all that. The guy is already too much of a disaster to remain with. Sounds like you missed the fact that your house has burned down to the ground, yet you’re standing there looking for your keys.

[Carlston]

A better question to ask is why you want to stay with such a loser.