my [22F] boyfriend [21M] of 3 years held his mothers [57F] hand with the fingers interlocked. is this weird or am i overthinking?

[unhappyfly]

so my boyfriends mum was hospitalised with a brain aneurysm and it was a close call for a hot minute there and me and my boyfriend flew up to see her in case well… yk. anyways, she comes semi good and they’re holding hands. now i don’t have a problem with them holding hands as long as it’s like cupping them together not fingers interlocked. i see fingers interlocked as a more intimate act.

his grandad passed away a few years ago and there’s a photo of them holding hands cupping them. so i thought hey let’s sort of get the same photo to continue the tradition sort of as a joke. they’re already holding hands (cupping, again no issue with this) so i whip out the phone and as i’m doing this she holds up her hand and i think he just followed her lead i’m not sure, but it looked like he made the first move to interlock fingers with her. initially i thought it was so weird. i have never seen anyone who‘s not a couple do that so it struck something in me.

also the night before this he was holding my hand and rubbing the top of it. i thought it was a sign of affection but then he says ”the top of your hand feels like my mums”. i pulled away, i told him that it made me feel weird that he compared my hand to his mums. we didn’t really talk about it, he sort of apologised. it was weird.

i don’t know if i should bring it up or not. i don’t know if he’s acting weird because he’s never seen his mum in this state and it’s bugging him out. i don’t know if i’m letting my own mother issues speak over logic. it’s all really confusing and i need someone to either tell me i’m crazy or tell me i should talk to him about it and maybe set a boundary

[ExpatInItaly]

I think you are completely over-reacting. 

He came close to losing his mother and you're talking about cupping hands vs. interlocking fingers and setting boundaries? Girl. Choose your battles, and yes, address this: 

1 hour ago, unhappyfly said:

my own mother issues 

 

[Gebidozo]

9 hours ago, unhappyfly said:

i don’t know if i’m letting my own mother issues speak over logic.

That’s probably it, because I can’t find a single logical reason to make an issue out of a son interlocking fingers with his own mother, especially when she’s sick.