my [22F] boyfriend [21M] of 3 years held his mothers [57F] hand with the fingers interlocked. is this weird or am i overthinking?

[unhappyfly]

so my boyfriends mum was hospitalised with a brain aneurysm and it was a close call for a hot minute there and me and my boyfriend flew up to see her in case well… yk. anyways, she comes semi good and they’re holding hands. now i don’t have a problem with them holding hands as long as it’s like cupping them together not fingers interlocked. i see fingers interlocked as a more intimate act.

his grandad passed away a few years ago and there’s a photo of them holding hands cupping them. so i thought hey let’s sort of get the same photo to continue the tradition sort of as a joke. they’re already holding hands (cupping, again no issue with this) so i whip out the phone and as i’m doing this she holds up her hand and i think he just followed her lead i’m not sure, but it looked like he made the first move to interlock fingers with her. initially i thought it was so weird. i have never seen anyone who‘s not a couple do that so it struck something in me.

also the night before this he was holding my hand and rubbing the top of it. i thought it was a sign of affection but then he says ”the top of your hand feels like my mums”. i pulled away, i told him that it made me feel weird that he compared my hand to his mums. we didn’t really talk about it, he sort of apologised. it was weird.

i don’t know if i should bring it up or not. i don’t know if he’s acting weird because he’s never seen his mum in this state and it’s bugging him out. i don’t know if i’m letting my own mother issues speak over logic. it’s all really confusing and i need someone to either tell me i’m crazy or tell me i should talk to him about it and maybe set a boundary

[ExpatInItaly]

I think you are completely over-reacting. 

He came close to losing his mother and you're talking about cupping hands vs. interlocking fingers and setting boundaries? Girl. Choose your battles, and yes, address this: 

1 hour ago, unhappyfly said:

my own mother issues 

 

[Gebidozo]

9 hours ago, unhappyfly said:

i don’t know if i’m letting my own mother issues speak over logic.

That’s probably it, because I can’t find a single logical reason to make an issue out of a son interlocking fingers with his own mother, especially when she’s sick.

[Carlston]

3 odd threads in the past 24 hours by new members. 

Coincidence?

[stillafool]

I'm a woman and I don't see anything wrong at all with how your boyfriend held his mother's hand.  She is blessed to have such a loving son.  He almost lost his mother and with all she went through he was showing her through his hand holding that he is there for her.  Why would you have a problem with that?  Are you jealous?

[lemonicetea]

Yeah, I think you are overthinking this way too much. 

[Sanch62]

Sounds like his crisis is taking too much of his attention away from you, so you're seeking a way to drum up some drama of your own.