He walked out 3 minutes into the date

[Anonymous]

So I ended up going out with  this guy. This man has been begging me for a date so I decided to go. I canceled on him yesterday cause he was too last minute, when it came to the details. So i ended up going out with him tonight, I was about 15 min late which I apologized for. He comes down and walks me up, he’s constantly staring at me awkwardly/nervously? 

We get to the restaurant and he instantly goes to the bathroom, little weird but cool. Then he walks out the bathroom looks at me then walks back in to the bathroom ? Then two minutes go by and I feel someone tap me on the back and it’s him and he said “I’m still here just taking a call real quick”. At that point I should have walked out I stayed maybe two minutes longer. 

Then I get a text saying 

Sorry my cousin calling me with sum important 
I have to go get him right now I’m sorry, his bm just kicked him out

Y’all this man left !!!! Didn’t come back in didn’t tell me face to face. He sent me a text and was outta there. 

I’m a beautiful woman, I know everyone isn’t going to be attracted to me. Yet I look just like my pictures, so I’m beating my self up thinking maybe he just didn’t think I was cute. 

Yet I’ve never seen anyone act like this it’s weird I’m appalled and in shock…
He’s blocked 
Any advice?

[ExpatInItaly]

1 hour ago, Anonymous said:

This man has been begging me for a date so I decided to go.

I suppose you met him online, is that right? If so, can you describe what you mean by begging you for a date? I would have been put off if a strange man I'd never met were doing so, but perhaps you can elaborate on this. 

1 hour ago, Anonymous said:

Yet I’ve never seen anyone act like this it’s weird I’m appalled and in shock…

It is definitely strange, yes. I think he was rude and didn't handle this well at all. I am glad you have blocked him. 

[Sony12]

It is strange however the whole thing was set up to be awkward from the very beginning when there were cancellations right from the get go. He likely was extremely on the fence about the situation because of that and unless you turned out to be exactly what he pictured you to be he was probably going to lose interest very quickly.

In the future if you feel the need to cancel the first date without a legitimate personal life reason it's better to just call the whole thing off and wish each other best.

Edited 11 hours ago by Sony12

[Gebidozo]

I think the entire process was cringeworthy, not just the date.

Begging for a date is extremely unattractive. Neither of you should have agreed to have it.

The cancelation of the first date certainly didn’t help, either.

He must have been quite desperate to show up. It’s possible that he realized how sad it had been to beg for the date, made up some excuse, and disappeared.

Overall, the entire vibe here is weird and unpleasant, from both of you. It’s therefore hard to understand what you’re worried about, the date had been pretty much doomed before it even started.

[Carlston]

He clearly did not meet the woman he expected to meet.

When I was online dating, it happened to me more often than not, although I didn't have the inclination to be so bold as to just leave, I'd sit it out for an hour or so, sometimes even paying for the promised dinner for a person who totally deceived me or deceived both of us into believing they looked the same as they did when their profile pictures were taken 10 or more years ago. 

I sort of like his style. 

 

[Sony12]

Also on top of not always giving up to date photos there are also people who don't give up to date ages.

I often find myself saying when looking at photos of people that there are either a lot of people who don't age very well on these sites or they are lying about their age.

[Anonymous]

4 hours ago, Carlston said:

He clearly did not meet the woman he expected to meet.

When I was online dating, it happened to me more often than not, although I didn't have the inclination to be so bold as to just leave, I'd sit it out for an hour or so, sometimes even paying for the promised dinner for a person who totally deceived me or deceived both of us into believing they looked the same as they did when their profile pictures were taken 10 or more years ago. 

I sort of like his style. 

 

He has seen me in person before 

[Tia_minds]

Don't reach out asking what happened. I know that's probably the impulse but it just gives him the chance to explain himself in a way that makes you feel like you owe him understanding, or ignore you entirely, which would feel worse.

The shoulder tap and "I'm still here just taking a call real quick" thing... that reads like someone checking if you'd wait. And you did. And then he left anyway.

I think about how much work goes into getting ready for a date when you actually want it to go well. Picking the outfit, doing your makeup twice because the first attempt felt wrong. You showed up, apologized for being fifteen minutes late, and he couldn't stay three minutes. He had been begging for this.

If he texts you with an explanation, you can decide then whether it matters. But I wouldn't go looking for one.

[Anonymous]

25 minutes ago, Tia_minds said:

Don't reach out asking what happened. I know that's probably the impulse but it just gives him the chance to explain himself in a way that makes you feel like you owe him understanding, or ignore you entirely, which would feel worse.

The shoulder tap and "I'm still here just taking a call real quick" thing... that reads like someone checking if you'd wait. And you did. And then he left anyway.

I think about how much work goes into getting ready for a date when you actually want it to go well. Picking the outfit, doing your makeup twice because the first attempt felt wrong. You showed up, apologized for being fifteen minutes late, and he couldn't stay three minutes. He had been begging for this.

If he texts you with an explanation, you can decide then whether it matters. But I wouldn't go looking for one.

Girl I blocked him as soon as he sent me that text right when he left. It’s weird cause he went straight to the bathroom looked at me then went back in? Then made a lap came behind me and tapped me??? The behavior is bizarre 

[Sony12]

59 minutes ago, Anonymous said:

Girl I blocked him as soon as he sent me that text right when he left. It’s weird cause he went straight to the bathroom looked at me then went back in? Then made a lap came behind me and tapped me??? The behavior is bizarre 

He was likely just trying to think of a way to leave.

[Carlston]

2 hours ago, Anonymous said:

He has seen me in person before 

Was it a long time ago?