ex girlfriend wants me to stay around and work on it but without worrying about her whereabouts and the money she spends.

[chefe]

so my girlfriend i just broke up with 2 days ago that lives with me is telling me she wants to see where it goes still but to not worry about where she goes and how she spends her money. She has a bad past with drugs and alcohol. she quit both but pops pills to deal with back pain which i told her to stop doing because it doesnt help and she had told me already it doesnt help her back but she just enjoys the pills. i told her it wont work because me as a man cant move forward with a women that tells me not to worry about what she does. am i in the wrong? yes there is more to the story. i drink a lot when she gives me attitude and she says everything is my fault and i need to work on myself. i told her she takes not accountability for why things have gotten the way they have. yes i do disrespect her when i get drunk and yes its me but man dealing with a women with so much attitude gets my blood boiling. we tried to make this work many times because it is good when its good of course. but i dont think i need a attitude ass women. I told her i went through a really bad relationship a year ago and i was just about over it now. Now i have to deal with this. I told her my boundaries. She seems to not give a s*** and blame me for the disrespect i tell her when she comes into my room while im drunk with her bullshit. am i in the wrong? im tired of this but i want her. how to i move forward with this situation.... or just thoughts on the matter

[Acacia98]

You're both wrong. You both need to deal with your substance abuse issues, preferably when you're single. Let's say you both do that successfully, you shouldn't reconcile because you're not on the same page regarding what a relationship should look like.

[Carlston]

49 minutes ago, chefe said:

 am i in the wrong? im tired of this but i want her. how to i move forward with this situation.... or just thoughts on the matter

You both seem like normal, well adjusted individuals in a healthy balanced relationship with mutual respect, compassion, sympathy and understanding.

I'm not seeing a problem here.

 

[ExpatInItaly]

Neither of you is healthy on your own. 

Together you are a powder keg. This isn't going to work out the way you want it to. It's up to you how much time you want to waste on this dead-end.