I feel suspicious of my girlfriend online activities

[william7196]

My girlfriend and I have been together for 2 years now. For some time during our relationship, I’ve noticed that she sometimes changes her profile picture on Discord to match with another male who happens to be her friend and her coworker. I’ve asked her why she does that, knowing that she is in a relationship. She claims that it’s something she has always done with him, especially since she has known him for almost 5 years. She also said it’s because she knows I would say no to having matching profile pictures on Discord, even though we used to have matching profile pictures on Twitter before she removed it when we got into an argument. 

I should also add a bit of background: my girlfriend and I met online, and she lives 6 hours away, which makes seeing each other every day difficult. That said, we have visited each other during holidays, New Year’s, and our birthdays, and we have both met each other’s families.

She also works with him at her school—they are both student workers—and they used to play together a lot before we started dating.

My question is: is it wrong for me to feel upset? Am I overreacting?

[Gebidozo]

Yes, you’re overreacting.

Who cares about those online profiles and generally social media? I stopped paying attention to who posts what a while ago and feel much calmer thanks to that.

[Sanch62]

On 4/15/2026 at 10:55 AM, william7196 said:

... she has known him for almost 5 years.

If she wanted to have a thing with him, she's had 5 years to figure that out and do it.

I wouldn't sweat this.