I have tried every method to improve my love life and I’m only left with fixing my bones

[Anonymous]

To give a quick summary: I’m 31 and have never had a girlfriend or been past a first date besides two first days around 8-10 years ago. Most of my 20s I’ve been obese and I spent the last 2-3 years losing the weight. Now I realize that I have loose neck skin and a weak jaw and after consulting with a few offices, the best method seems to be a sliding genioplasty (8-10mm forward). The price is around $8,000 but it’s something I’m willing to do after trying everything else.

I don’t think I have bad social skills because anytime I’m let go from a job, I found a new one in 2-3 months of applying and I do pretty well in interviews, even those where I get rejected due to not having certain skills/experience. The fact that is so brutal is that people cannot look past my double chin and weak jaw. Whenever I’m in a social setting and I see a woman who I find attractive, I look for 1-2 second but she never looks back or smiles. I ask questions like “how’s your week/day” and they just say “good” but never ask me the reverse or get to know me.

On the positive, I know that people will treat me much better and that will make me more confident, which translates to better romantic/professional opportunities.

The thing with confidence is that it’s not some cheap quote from Disney or “coming from who you are” BS. Confidence is a byproduct of success and positive life experiences. I can’t delude myself into thinking I’m worth more than my failures and think I’m attractive when I’m not.

[Gebidozo]

52 minutes ago, Anonymous said:

I see a woman who I find attractive

Question: what type of women do you find unattractive?

[ExpatInItaly]

What is your question, exactly?