Need Some Advice

[sillyprincess]

No Judgement Please

So, long story short, I ended up in a kind of FWB relationship.  I'm in my late 20's and he's like double my age, but he's ok.  People that knew about us, thought of us as a couple, and were very non-judgy.

Like I said, no judgement please, and this was never meant to be an exclusive thing.  He's old, not really my type, and I still dated other guys.  But he was sweet, and was a nice lover always looking after me.  He was happy, and I was happy, and nobody was getting hurt.

Then the condom broke.  Yeah, I suppose I should have been on the implant or the pill, but I always insist on a condom so whats the harm.  I thought I was ok and wasn't in the right palce to get morning after pill.  So turns out I'm pregnant, and just figured I'd take care of it, and just told him we were taking a break.  And he was ok, he's never pressured me or anything.

But I decided I don't wnat to kill my baby, so thats me.  I wasn't expecting much, but I told him, and hes been completely supportive.  Offered to pay for everything, said he'll support me and the kid, and that he'll be a Dad if thats what I want.

So I'm figuring to be a single Mum, and its kind of weird because some friends know about us and know that its his, and have been really ok with it.  But my mum has been a total b**** about, so no help there.

So we started planning stuff, and we started up the FWB again, except now I don't date anyone.  I'm still working but hes already stared paying for stuff, and said that he'll pay for my place when I can't work.

And for a while there I was really pissed at him and about how my life has turned out.  But now I'm happy and this is my choice.  I want to be a mum and this is just how it turned out.

So I want to know where to go from here?

I think he will be a brilliant Dad.  His kids are my age lol, but he has a really good relation with all them.  I wissh I could find someone more my own age but I've never thought much about settling down before.  And now I find that heaps of guys want to get in my pants, but there even less interested in a  relationship that before.  Ive got freinds who have like 3 different kids to 3 different blokes and none of them are in the pitcure and I dont want that.

He said that If I wanted I could come and live in his house.  He has a nice big house, and wed all get our own rooms.  Hes prepared to tell his kids about us.

and I just don't know what to do

Thanks

[Gebidozo]

4 hours ago, sillyprincess said:

and I just don't know what to do

Well, I think the only real question here is what do you feel for him?

If you’re genuinely attracted to him and can see yourself being with him exclusively, then go ahead and do that. He obviously has feelings for you.

But if you aren’t attracted to him romantically, then it’s better to nip his hopes in the bud. I think you should stop the FWB in that case, because for him it has clearly gone way beyond that.

[ExpatInItaly]

8 hours ago, sillyprincess said:

And for a while there I was really pissed at him and about how my life has turned out

This is a revealing comment. Why were you angry at him? You are responsible for how your life has turned out, so I am curious why you were blaming him.