I dumped my cheating gf, but I used her and I’m wondering if I’m no better than her?

[Guarod]

My (32M) now ex (33F) used to be very unfaithful to me, she was my first girlfriend ever and I didn't lose my v til meeting her at 29. She cheated all the time for three years. These past 2 years, something snapped in me. I was no longer putting up with it, and I demanded she stop. She didn't, so I finally realized I'd needed to stay for experience, but no longer. And that's what I did. For the past five months, she's been in therapy for the infidelity and said she'd work on stopping. But I still left her just last night.

As bad as this seems, people were making fun of me. To many, I was the "cu¢k" who let his wife cheat. People joked about how I'd pay for her trips to go with her "real boyfriends". It was years of humiliation, and it could've stopped if she stopped doing what she was doing. She had two years to stop cheating, she didn't, so I used her for what I could get from her and then ditched her. There's consequences for actions, simply put. Still, I told a close friend what I just did and they think I was wrong for using her, and they aren't sure if they can talk to me now.

 

someone tell me if I did wrong here?

[Gebidozo]

23 minutes ago, Guarod said:

someone tell me if I did wrong here?

Of course you did wrong.

If your partner is repeatedly cheating on you, you break up.

Instead, you chose to humiliate and debase yourself by using her “for experience” while living in mutual disrespect and lack of anything approaching love.

You should listen to your friend and reflect upon whatever issues have caused you to act that way before you start dating again

[ExpatInItaly]

I've read this story before and doubted its veracity even then. 

Think the OP is pulling our leg. 

[Sony12]

8 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said:

I've read this story before and doubted its veracity even then. 

Think the OP is pulling our leg. 

Anytime someone uses the word 'cuck' in their opening thread message more times then not the scenario is likely made up.

'Cuck' is a popular term used for porn scenarios.

[Els]

9 hours ago, Sony12 said:

Anytime someone uses the word 'cuck' in their opening thread message more times then not the scenario is likely made up.

'Cuck' is a popular term used for porn scenarios.

This. I love how apparently all the people in the OP's life always knows about their partner cheating, and always communicates very explicitly with the OP about what exactly they think about the cheating...  

 

[ExpatInItaly]

14 hours ago, Sony12 said:

Anytime someone uses the word 'cuck' in their opening thread message more times then not the scenario is likely made up.

'Cuck' is a popular term used for porn scenarios.

Yes, exactly. 

It is rather obvious when the story is a figment of someone's imagination. 

[stillafool]

You both are well rid of each other.  Let her go and you go find happiness.  Never go backwards.