Should i try again?

[Anonymous]

Hey guys i hope you all are having amazing time.

3 months ago i invited a girl that i liked for a coffee and she softly rejected me saying she is busy and she has exams and stuff like this.

it was 2 weeks ago that i found out she had a long distance boyfriend at that time and 10 days after rejecting me, they have broken up.

 

Do you guys think I should try again or not? And if yes , how?

 

i really appreciate your advice

[ExpatInItaly]

I think it's best if you leave it be. 

If she were interested in seeing you, you likely would have heard from her after she became single. 

[Els]

On 2/2/2026 at 1:31 AM, Anonymous said:

Hey guys i hope you all are having amazing time.

3 months ago i invited a girl that i liked for a coffee and she softly rejected me saying she is busy and she has exams and stuff like this.

it was 2 weeks ago that i found out she had a long distance boyfriend at that time and 10 days after rejecting me, they have broken up.

 

Do you guys think I should try again or not? And if yes , how?

 

i really appreciate your advice

No. If she wanted to, she would have contacted you. The ball is in her court after she rejected the date with you.

[Sanch62]

Not everybody is in the mood to start dating right away after a breakup, so I wouldn't treat hers as a transaction that automatically opens her door to you. For all you know, she's still pining for the guy and might even get back with him.

Once you extend an invitation to someone, they know your door is open to them. If they ever want to take you up on it, they will let you know.

[Herkamer63]

The answer's easy: no. Something very easy to live by and to always remember, if it's anything but 'yes,' it's 'no.' There's a reason she rejected you. Part of it, yes, she just broke up with her bf, but the other reason is she's not into you. Going after her now would not be a good idea. Best to move on from her.