Do women avoid interaction with men they’re attracted to? (Social Media)

[Anonymous]

Hello everyone!
I'm sure this has happened to many people, and also that many of you have wondered the same things. In our modern world, social media is now a social tool. You know.. This is why many struggle to understand certain things, even when they should be obvious. I'd like to ask you what this behavior means, because from a man's perspective, seeing things logically leads to precise conclusions.

Let's start: there are some women who will follow certain guys, for example, on Instagram.
For some, they send and reply to messages; they occasionally like their photos, react to their Instagram stories, or comment occasionally. Instead, for others, these women will see their content, follow it, but not interact. So, no messages, likes, comments.

Now, I've heard from some girls that they're attracted to certain guys, who don't interact with them, but who will still interact with other guys they wouldn't consider as potential partners, but rather as friends. Now, a man might simply think the opposite, because it's logical: if you like someone, if it's someone you want to keep in your life, you interact, exchange likes and comments, messages, and you ask about their life, etc, while if it's someone you want to avoid and don't like, then you'll do the opposite, ignore them, and not reciprocate.

Could you explain this behavior by women on social media, for those of us who grew up in an era when social media wasn't even that important?

[flitzanu]

stop assigning meaning to clicking buttons on social media, none of it matters.

if you're interested in a girl, ask her on a date.  that's how you know if she is interested.

[basil67]

Women are not a monolith who all think and act the same way.   An individual only can tell you what SHE thinks and does

[Gebidozo]

There is nothing to explain here.

People are different. Women are different. Some follow others on social media because they like them romantically. Some do that because they like them as friends. Some do that because they are bored. Others don’t follow anyone on social media.

Trying to figure out who likes you and who doesn’t based on social media interaction is an absolutely pointless, futile exercise.

If you like a woman, ask her out. If she says no, she doesn’t like you. If she says yes, there is a chance she likes you or will grow to like you, see how the date goes and take it from there. That’s all there is to it.

[ExpatInItaly]

11 hours ago, Anonymous said:

Could you explain this behavior by women on social media, for those of us who grew up in an era when social media wasn't even that important?

I'm a woman who grew up in this era, and the broad claim that we don't interact on socials with men we like makes no sense. 

Firstly, women are indiviuals. We don't all act the same way. Surely you already know this

Secondly,  it's not that convoluted in most cases. If we're not interacting with a man on his social media when we're otherwise active on a particular platform, it usually means we are not interested in said man - not that we secrelty like him. 

Edited January 17 by ExpatInItaly

[Sanch62]

It makes no sense to apply some made-up theory to the masses, much less to one individual who doesn't interact with you. Either she's uninterested or she senses you like her and just doesn't want to encourage you for any number of reasons.