Author Joanna3 Posted May 14 Author Posted May 14 6 minutes ago, Sony12 said: Don't tell me you are going to do that. You know you are nothing more than a booty call if you do. I did go I know I know. It was a fun night but yes clearly that’s all it is
Sony12 Posted May 14 Posted May 14 53 minutes ago, Joanna3 said: I did go I know I know. It was a fun night but yes clearly that’s all it is It's your choice. However I don't think there is much interest in discussing this situation with you any longer as you clearly aren't going to listen to anybody.
Author Joanna3 Posted May 14 Author Posted May 14 44 minutes ago, Sony12 said: It's your choice. However I don't think there is much interest in discussing this situation with you any longer as you clearly aren't going to listen to anybody. I can understand why you would say that, maybe I should not text him at all and then not give him the opportunity to want to book up
Georgia46 Posted May 14 Posted May 14 1 hour ago, Joanna3 said: I can understand why you would say that, maybe I should not text him at all and then not give him the opportunity to want to book up Awwww… IF you both just wanted sex and you were happy just being FWB then FINE. but you want more so it’s you that’s gonna come worse off in the end. 🥲
flitzanu Posted May 15 Posted May 15 23 hours ago, Joanna3 said: So after he said he thinks he’s done as he’s got so much to sort out I texted him 3 weeks later just to say hope you’re good. Next thing I know he asks me if I’m busy - reason - sex and is on and on at me to come over that's exactly the same thing from weeks ago, that this isn't a relationship but he will gladly use you for sex.
ExpatInItaly Posted May 16 Posted May 16 You're standing in your own way, and yiou know this. Nobody here can help you if you refuse to help yourself and stop the insanity. At some point, you need to quit complaining or feeling sorry for yourself when you keep shooting yourself in the foot, girl.
basil67 Posted May 16 Posted May 16 On 5/15/2025 at 7:01 AM, Joanna3 said: I can understand why you would say that, maybe I should not text him at all and then not give him the opportunity to want to book up What is your end goal here? I can't figure it out 1
BaileyB Posted May 16 Posted May 16 3 hours ago, basil67 said: What is your end goal here? I can't figure it out This was also going to be my question - what do you want?
Author Joanna3 Posted May 17 Author Posted May 17 This time whilst on the phone to the hotel he said to them I was his girlfriend and we were together
Author Joanna3 Posted May 17 Author Posted May 17 It just confused me why say that I was his girlfriend to the hotel? Couple of replies to some texts I sent the day after them back to reading and not replying.
ExpatInItaly Posted May 17 Posted May 17 (edited) 5 minutes ago, Joanna3 said: It just confused me why say that I was his girlfriend to the hotel? Couple of replies to some texts I sent the day after them back to reading and not replying. Because he knows it will keep you hooked so he can have sex with you when he wants. You can't take that seriously, I personally would be horrified if a guy like this called me his girlfriend. Do you really think this is best you can get? Edited May 17 by ExpatInItaly
Author Joanna3 Posted May 17 Author Posted May 17 4 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said: Because he knows it will keep you hooked so he can have sex with you when he wants. You can't take that seriously, I personally would be horrified if a guy like this called me his girlfriend. Do you really think this is best you can get? I did think as he was trying to get a deal with the hotel that he was just doing it to make it sound better but I really don't know.
ExpatInItaly Posted May 17 Posted May 17 I would not want this man as my boyfriend, so I don't really what more to advise you.
Author Joanna3 Posted May 17 Author Posted May 17 8 minutes ago, ExpatInItaly said: I would not want this man as my boyfriend, so I don't really what more to advise you. I understand. Just don't know why he called me that to the hotel, and now it's just back to reading messages and not replying again.
basil67 Posted May 17 Posted May 17 4 hours ago, Joanna3 said: I understand. Just don't know why he called me that to the hotel, and now it's just back to reading messages and not replying again. Because he wanted some no strings sex and knew you'd give it to him. This isn't rocket science
Author Joanna3 Posted May 17 Author Posted May 17 7 minutes ago, basil67 said: Because he wanted some no strings sex and knew you'd give it to him. This isn't rocket science hard to se though when you’re in it
basil67 Posted May 17 Posted May 17 (edited) 5 minutes ago, Joanna3 said: hard to se though when you’re in it Now you're just being silly. This thread about this has been going on for a month and has many many responses which are all in agreement. Are you being deliberately obtuse? Edited May 17 by basil67
Author Joanna3 Posted May 17 Author Posted May 17 8 minutes ago, basil67 said: Now you're just being silly. This thread about this has been going on for a month and has many many responses which are all in agreement. Are you being deliberately obtuse? No not at all. It’s because I want/hope for something more
basil67 Posted May 17 Posted May 17 1 hour ago, Joanna3 said: No not at all. It’s because I want/hope for something more But you're clearly not going to get anything more So why are you persisting when all evidence is that, to him, you're just a willing sex toy who jumps when he calls? Is this really the kind of man who you want to date?
BaileyB Posted May 18 Posted May 18 5 hours ago, Joanna3 said: It’s because I want/hope for something more. Willful ignorance.
ExpatInItaly Posted May 18 Posted May 18 7 hours ago, Joanna3 said: hard to se though when you’re in it No, it isn't. You see it perfectly or you wouldn't be posting here. You're choosing to stay in this nonsense.
Author Joanna3 Posted May 18 Author Posted May 18 9 hours ago, basil67 said: But you're clearly not going to get anything more So why are you persisting when all evidence is that, to him, you're just a willing sex toy who jumps when he calls? Is this really the kind of man who you want to date? I do understand where everyone is coming from The best thing to do would be for me to just delete his number and never text him again given every time I text him despite him saying he's done he asks to meet back up.
BaileyB Posted May 18 Posted May 18 4 hours ago, Joanna3 said: The best thing to do would be for me to just delete his number and never text him again given every time I text him despite him saying he's done he asks to meet back up. The question becomes - why have you not done that? Please don’t say - “I’m just hoping that it will all work out…” because that sounds foolish at this point…
Sony12 Posted May 18 Posted May 18 (edited) 47 minutes ago, BaileyB said: The question becomes - why have you not done that? Please don’t say - “I’m just hoping that it will all work out…” because that sounds foolish at this point… Just my hunch but I think a lot of times people that complain about situations like this but at the same time don't seem to have any intention on changing things. I think in many instances they actually enjoy the drama. Edited May 18 by Sony12 1
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