Him Posted January 24 Share Posted January 24 Hello, I’ll keep it short. I work, not so closely, with this lady. For a few months we built what I would saw was a good friendship. We would go to lunch, talk during breaks,s she would often engage conversations and seek me to hang out. During this past holiday break our office was going renovations so we would be out for a few additional weeks. I sent her a short message that I was going to be in a very popular area, and will be with friends and other colleagues, so I invited her. I didn’t receive a response and didn’t think too much of it. When we did return to the office I noticed she was distant and cold for the next two weeks. I know we don’t work closely together and don’t have to communicate if we don’t have too. Which is almost never. I took this at face value and brushed it off and left it at that. The past few days she has been giving me notes and messaging me asking to communicate more. My prospective is that I might have been wrong in asking her to meet with me and other colleagues during the renovations. That she might have had the wrong idea, but she still could have communicated and said no or she was busy. I’m not currently wanting to engage her anymore. Thoughts? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
flitzanu Posted January 24 Share Posted January 24 well, if you want to be work friend and have someone to chat with, then keep chatting at work and don't try to communicate outside of work. if you're all mad that she didn't want to come meet you outside of work and now you don't want to talk to her, then don't be friends with her. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Acacia98 Posted January 24 Share Posted January 24 3 hours ago, Him said: My prospective is that I might have been wrong in asking her to meet with me and other colleagues during the renovations. That she might have had the wrong idea, but she still could have communicated and said no or she was busy. I’m not currently wanting to engage her anymore. Thoughts? I wouldn't engage her unless it was necessary. Trying to fix the "problem" seems like overkill if you're not even simple friends (by which I mean you weren't sufficiently friendly for her to simply decline your invitation). I also don't understand why she wants to "communicate more." What exactly does she want from you? She seems to be making things more complicated than they need to be. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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