Bronte28 Posted September 27 Share Posted September 27 (edited) After 4 months of marriage I found out my husband was cheating on me with a female at his work. At the time I was 2.5 months pregnant. Our relationship was relatively short. My child is now one and my husband has decided he does not want to be a full time dad anymore and has kicked my daughter and I out of the house. Our relationship was relatively short (almost 5 years). During the relationship I often questioned if he was the one for me. I copped verbal & emotional abuse regularly but I felt I couldn’t leave. before I met my husband I had a close relationship with an old colleague (known him for almost 9 years). We had a strong friendship and were occasionally intimate. I always wanted to pursue a relationship with him but we were both extremely shy to make the first move and never put a label on it. We were also separated by distance. Am I wrong to think I married the wrong person. Whenever my husband would abuse me I would think of my friend and know how he never treated me poorly or would ever say the things my husband would call me. I didn’t keep the friendship going whilst I was with my husband out of respect but I missed our friendship deeply. We had so much in common. He is still single now. I have recently had contact with him in relation to work and it’s like old times again with him bringing up happy old memories. I think he knows I’m separated but I don’t know how to bring up the subject. I don’t want him to feel uncomfortable talking to me. Am I wrong in believing I married the wrong person? Dont get me wrong I was completely in love with my husband and never through my we would separate but I am learning that he wasn’t the person I thought he was. Edited September 27 by Bronte28 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted September 28 Share Posted September 28 Of course you married the wrong person. OP, I understand that the cheating might have come as a surprise, but you said yourself: 22 minutes ago, Bronte28 said: During the relationship I often questioned if he was the one for me. I copped verbal & emotional abuse regularly but I felt I couldn’t leave. You should have never married this abuser. And he turned out to be a cheater as well. What’s done is done. Please get a divorce ASAP and consider yourself blessed that you’re no longer with this man and are free to find your happiness. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Leihla_B Posted September 28 Share Posted September 28 An abuser is never the 'right' person. Head high, and move forward. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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