girl from my run club asked if I go to the same gym as her, is she interested?

[ikonik]

we talked off and on about gym stuff the rest of the night, she even came up to me a couple more times to talk, one point i even asked if she could dance, because we were all at a restuarant that had an area where you can dnace. is she interested? she did seem pretty social and extroverted so she could be that way with everyone.

[Georgia46]

Possibly.  If you run into her again ask her out on a date.  You’ll find out then.  
 

good luck 

[Leihla_B]

Do you have a way to contact her? If so, ask her out. That will give you the answer.

[ikonik]

37 minutes ago, Leihla_B said:

Do you have a way to contact her? If so, ask her out. That will give you the answer.

yea i asked if wanted to go to the gym with me sometime

 

[ikonik]

so i asked her, and she said yea but that her scheudle is all over the place and we can try and pick a time. then she said she even saw another guy there sometimes, which i thought was weird but he is married so i'm not really worried about that.she also said her schedule is all over the place and she just goes when she has a free day which she finds out the day before. she basically said she'll let me know when she's able to go. my friend thought this is a soft rejection.

[basil67]

I think your friend is right.  Sounds like she's simply a friendly person and is tactfully letting you know that she's not interested in a closer friendship or romance.   Disappointing, but at least you still have a friendly person around to chat with when find yourselves at the same venue together

Edited September 23, 2024 by basil67

[Sony12]

Yeah sounds like a person who enjoys flirting but doesn't want to take it much further than that.

When people start mentioning that their schedules make it difficult to plan dates that's often just a nice way of saying they aren't that interested.

[smackie9]

She didn't ask you if you were seeing someone so no she's not interested. 

[stillafool]

She may have just seen someone at her gym that looks like you and that is why she asked.

[ikonik]

do i even bother following  up then?

[Sony12]

51 minutes ago, ikonik said:

do i even bother following  up then?

You can still talk to her and I'm sure she would be a little offended if you all of a sudden started ignoring her. But you probably shouldn't keep on questioning her about a date.

[Leihla_B]

5 hours ago, ikonik said:

do i even bother following  up then?

No. You can enjoy being friendly if your paths cross, but this is someone who doesn't want to be pinned down on her workout schedule, has not suggested another time or place to meet outside of the gym, and has raised that she's friends with other people at the gym also.

She's not a good dating match for you.