Mifsud Posted July 28 Share Posted July 28 (edited) Been in a 2 year loving affair and last night my affair partner pressured me into answering how many times I have sex with my wife. After I told her 1-2 times a week she got upset and blocked me everywhere. I am not sure how to feel but before blocking me she said "I hope you die, you will never hear from me again. You POS." I am not sure how to feel because I love both my wife and my affair partner. The thought of my affair partner finding someone else really eats at me. Any suggestions? Edited July 28 by Mifsud Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted July 28 Share Posted July 28 (edited) It’s not fair for you to continue the affair anymore. Your affair partner wants more than you can give her… She has finally realized that this relationship is not going to be what she wants and made the best decision for herself. You don’t love both women - if you did you wouldn’t find yourself in this position. You are clearly hurting both women. You love yourself more - which is why you want to continue using both women for your own benefit. Let your affair partner go. Love sometimes means sacrificing what you want for the best interest of your partner - letting her go is the kindest and most loving thing that you can do for the woman. Edited July 28 by BaileyB Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted July 28 Share Posted July 28 (edited) I would be primarily concerned at this point that your affair partner is going to tell your wife about the affair. Edited July 28 by BaileyB 2 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted July 28 Share Posted July 28 Did you ever promise your affair partner that you would leave your wife or tell her that you were no longer in love with your wife? She is reacting like you lied to her about your relationship with your wife. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mifsud Posted July 28 Author Share Posted July 28 (edited) Yes I did. I also was planning on having kids with my AP. I currently have one child with my wife. She told me she couldn't accept me leaving my wife for her because she would feel like a home wrecker and it wouldn't make her happy. She wanted me to leave willingly without her being the culprit so she doesn't feel guilt. I was going to leave the house to my wife and also buy another house to live with my AP. I always told her I don't have sex with my wife until last night but come on I am in a marriage It's only evident there will be sex. I don't think I deserved to be blocked like this. Now I can't reach her. I don't want to reach her after the block because then I feel like I will look to needy and come off as unattractive. Edited July 28 by Mifsud Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted July 28 Share Posted July 28 (edited) 56 minutes ago, Mifsud said: I always told her I don't have sex with my wife until last night but come on I am in a marriage It's only evident there will be sex. Oh dude… Of course, it was incredibly naive of her to think for a moment that the married man with whom she was in a relationship was not having sex with his wife… lesson learned, the hard way. But, do you really not understand why she would be upset to learn that the man who was telling her that he wanted to leave his marriage to be with her was regularly having sex with his wife - after he told her that he was not? You lied to her because you knew that she would not have sex with you if she knew that you were happily married and having sex with your wife. And now, you claim ignorance? You try to shift the blame to your affair partner - it’s her fault, surely she should have assumed that you were having sex with your wife? She didn’t fall for it, and neither will anyone else. 56 minutes ago, Mifsud said: I don't think I deserved to be blocked like this. Women don’t generally appreciate it when men mislead them. You lied to her. The proper response when someone is dishonest and disrespects you is to end the relationship and block that person from contacting you again. So, respectfully, you got exactly what you deserved. I would take note - your wife is likely to feel the same way should your affair ever be discovered. You may in fact find yourself not only blocked, but also divorced. Many women won’t tolerate dishonesty and disrespect from men. Edited July 28 by BaileyB 3 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted July 28 Share Posted July 28 53 minutes ago, Mifsud said: I don't think I deserved to be blocked like this Wow. The entitlement here is off the charts. Do you think your wife deserves to be cheated on? 4 1 Link to post Share on other sites
daveroger2112 Posted July 28 Share Posted July 28 Sometimes I just don't understand Women and my thoughts and prayers go out to you during this difficult time...you have definately come to the right place for advice 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted July 29 Share Posted July 29 6 hours ago, Mifsud said: I always told her I don't have sex with my wife until last night but come on I am in a marriage It's only evident there will be sex. I don't think I deserved to be blocked like this. You have lied, cheated, misled, and manipulated two women for two years. You should thank God that you’ve only been blocked so far. I’d advise you to brace yourself for some real consequences. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted July 29 Share Posted July 29 1 hour ago, daveroger2112 said: Sometimes I just don't understand Women and my thoughts and prayers go out to you during this difficult time...you have definately come to the right place for advice Really? The OP has been cheating on his wife, sleeping with two women secretly for two years, lying through his teeth to his affair partner, planning kids with another woman while still living and having regular sex with his wife (!), and you don’t understand women? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
MsJayne Posted July 29 Share Posted July 29 8 hours ago, Mifsud said: I don't want to reach her after the block because then I feel like I will look to needy and come off as unattractive. Never mind about looking needy, just expecting other people to cope with your deceitful and manipulative behaviour would be unattractive enough to turn any intelligent person off. I think it would be in everyone's best interest if you just accept that dicking other people about emotionally often leads to them wanting nothing to do with you. Your affair partner's dodged a bullet, hopefully she's learned the lesson and will look for honesty in a partner next time. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
MsJayne Posted July 29 Share Posted July 29 4 hours ago, daveroger2112 said: Sometimes I just don't understand Women and my thoughts and prayers go out to you during this difficult time...you have definately come to the right place for advice 🤣🤣🤣 Link to post Share on other sites
Will am I Posted July 29 Share Posted July 29 On 7/28/2024 at 3:33 PM, Mifsud said: Been in a 2 year loving affair and last night my affair partner pressured me into answering how many times I have sex with my wife. After I told her 1-2 times a week she got upset and blocked me everywhere. I am not sure how to feel but before blocking me she said "I hope you die, you will never hear from me again. You POS." I am not sure how to feel because I love both my wife and my affair partner. The thought of my affair partner finding someone else really eats at me. Any suggestions? I do understand that you have developed genuine feelings for your xAP and this breakup is genuinely painful for you. Look at it from her perspective. She getting angry over you sleeping with your wife indicates that she too had feelings for you, and this must have gone way beyond the stereotypical affair of casual and compartmented romance and sex. I think you probably made lots of empty promises. Apparently your then AP was under the impression you weren’t in an intimate relationship with your wife anymore. She was expecting exclusivity. You weren’t meeting that expectation as you never made steps out of your marriage. You weren’t in an affair, you were trying to live two marriages at the same time. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mifsud Posted July 29 Author Share Posted July 29 Yes I felt like she was also my wife. I confused the roles myself. I keep trying to reach out to my AP but all she is doing is calling me bad names and saying I wasted her 2 years. I love this woman a lot but even if I left my wife for her I don’t think anything will be the same with me and my AP. What’s the best way to get her back? She keeps blocking me after writing bad words to her. I am using fake numbers to reach her. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mifsud Posted July 29 Author Share Posted July 29 (edited) I also never left my wife for my AP because my AP wasn’t a virgin but everything else was fine. We had a lot of fun being together. My wife on the other hand was a virgin and she is more attentive to my needs. Both woman had qualities I wanted. I wish I can just combine both and make them one. Edited July 29 by Mifsud Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted July 29 Share Posted July 29 12 minutes ago, Mifsud said: Yes I felt like she was also my wife. I confused the roles myself. I keep trying to reach out to my AP but all she is doing is calling me bad names and saying I wasted her 2 years. I love this woman a lot but even if I left my wife for her I don’t think anything will be the same with me and my AP. What’s the best way to get her back? She keeps blocking me after writing bad words to her. I am using fake numbers to reach her. Do you even read what people are telling you here? You don’t get her back. You cheated, lied, manipulated both your wife and her. Be glad you’ve only been blocked. She has wasted 2 years on you, she doesn’t want to waste a minute more, and that’s a wise decision. Stop stalking her, you’re behaving like a genuine creep. Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted July 29 Share Posted July 29 (edited) 15 minutes ago, Mifsud said: I also never left my wife for my AP because my AP wasn’t a virgin but everything else was fine. We had a lot of fun being together. My wife on the other hand was a virgin and she is more attentive to my needs. Both woman had qualities I wanted. I wish I can just combine both and make them one. Are you f***ing trolling us? Dude, it’s a good thing I haven’t eaten much today, you make me want to puke👎 Edited July 29 by Gebidozo 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted July 29 Share Posted July 29 38 minutes ago, Mifsud said: What’s the best way to get her back? You need to respect her decision and stop contacting her. 38 minutes ago, Mifsud said: I am using fake numbers to reach her. This just confirms her decision to end the relationship. This is not ok - leave the woman alone. 37 minutes ago, Mifsud said: I also never left my wife for my AP because my AP wasn’t a virgin but everything else was fine. We had a lot of fun being together. My wife on the other hand was a virgin and she is more attentive to my needs. Both woman had qualities I wanted. I wish I can just combine both and make them one. Good lord. You can’t be serious. Link to post Share on other sites
Sony12 Posted July 29 Share Posted July 29 (edited) If this story is true it's clear that the affair partner was probably under the impression you were going to leave your wife. What's odd about this situation is you said the wife was more attentive to your needs. Usually it is the other way around when people have affairs. If that was the case why did you have an affair to begin with? Most people have affairs because their needs aren't being met at home. If your wife pleasures you more than your affair partner does why have the affair? Edited July 29 by Sony12 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mifsud Posted July 29 Author Share Posted July 29 personality wise my wife beats my AP. Sexiness wise my AP beats my wife. My wife is a 6/10 and my AP is an 8/10. I get pleasure from both. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mifsud Posted July 29 Author Share Posted July 29 (edited) Guys she wrote to me being very aggressive. Calling me names and telling me she doesn't believe me. Is this a good sign that she is writing back to me? We are just being aggressive with each other at the moment. She continues to tell me I am lying to her and that she is disgusted and that she doesn't want to see me again. Why she keeps writing to me then if she doesn't want to see me again? Edited July 29 by Mifsud Link to post Share on other sites
Sony12 Posted July 29 Share Posted July 29 (edited) Wow. Someone calls the person they married a 6. Bet she would appreciate that. Maybe you should move to a Forest. Edited July 29 by Sony12 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Mifsud Posted July 29 Author Share Posted July 29 I am just speaking facts here. All woman are pretty much the same. They are there until you stop something they want. They can flip on you quick. I don't trust any woman. I only trust myself. Link to post Share on other sites
Sony12 Posted July 29 Share Posted July 29 23 minutes ago, Mifsud said: I am just speaking facts here. All woman are pretty much the same. They are there until you stop something they want. They can flip on you quick. I don't trust any woman. I only trust myself. Well as I said then maybe you should move to a Forest. You know build a little house down by a creek and it can just be you your dog and the deer. Link to post Share on other sites
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