Salty_Caramel_1001 Posted April 12 Share Posted April 12 (edited) Its been a few months since my breakup and I am just started feeling overwhelmed with sadness again. I tried staying friends but then he randomly mention going out with his girlfriend. So I turn responded back like " oh that is really fast and I did not think that I would feel this way finding out but I do. I really cared for you but this is not going to work. We cannot be friends for now." and he never responded back. I know 4 months is long and short time frame but i don't know it just made me upset all over again. normaly, staying friends is possible for me but not with him. He was the sweetest endearing man I have had the pleasure to date i thought and I feel silly. During the relationship we never fought or anything and he even went to family gatherings on my side. It was seemingly a smooth and what I thought a loving relationship. When he broke up with me I broke down in a flood of tears and I have never done that before. Then he started crying too but he said we were just different and wanted different things and that he was unhappy but he extreamly cared for me and wanted to remain friends because that is what works best for us. He never mentioned anything to me for months. I was in shock. I thought we were on the same page. So yea, I just feel silly feeling sad and it's been almost two weeks since our last communication and I just feel really down. It is for the best but it does not make me feel any better. Edited April 12 by Salty_Caramel_1001 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted April 13 Share Posted April 13 This is the same story as @wanderingthoughts11's posts. Are you her? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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d0nnivain Posted April 13 Share Posted April 13 Grief ebbs & flows. Being sad doesn't mean you should get back together. You just miss the good times. So you had a bad day(s). Pick yourself up & move forward. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Lishy Posted May 3 Share Posted May 3 I know right now the pain is really bad, but I promise you it will get better. I thought that my life was over and I honestly mean that I actually felt so bad. I just used to go to bed at night and hope that I didn’t wake up in the morning. Heartbreak hurts so bad that you almost can touch the pain on your chest but let me tell you there is a light at the end of the tunnel and so don’t listen to people who tell you that this feeling will never go away because that’s not true !! Here are three things that helped me the most 1. I opened up to my friends and family and that was hard for me, but I opened up and I told them my truth truth and they allowed me to vent, thank God but if you don’t know anyone like that around you then hire a coach or even a counsellor or go to your doctors but you need someone to talk to or even write it down that makes you feel better writing it down to 2. I went to the gym even though I hate exercising it really helped more than I could ever tell you hated it initially but then I realised how good it made me feel afterwards and it wasn’t about getting muscles or getting skinny. It was simply about my mental health and it really helped. 3. And I started reading which I never normally do either. I literally read so many breakup books but if I’m honest with you the one that really stands out and the one I really feel help me the most was called bossing your breakup and it’s on Amazon and it’s almost a guided journal as well as having so much amazing information and you actually feel like the offer cares and it’s evident that the offer has gone through heartbreak it themselves So again, don’t think that these feelings are permanent because they are really not and I hope my tips helped but just keep moving forward and realise that one person cannot dictate your happiness Peace out Quote Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted May 3 Share Posted May 3 Never try to be friends with someone who has broken up with you. Go No Contact and block them from contacting you. As you can see it hurts too much when they move on to someone else while you're still hanging around trying to be their friend. Most dumpers only offer friendship to be kind and let you down easy. It's confusing and makes the dumpee think they still have a chance at reconciliation, but the truth is the dumper is already over you when they call for a breakup/ 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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