tinktronik Posted December 10, 2005 Posted December 10, 2005 Personally I wouldn't bring one restaurants food into another restaurant. However, I bring food from home for my 4 year old son all the time and will continue to do it. Why? Well at Applebees no drink is included in the kids meal, which is already expensive to begin with. So if I want to get him a milk it's like at least a dollar or two extra. That is just nuts to me. So I bring him milk in a small emptied water bottle and stick it in my cooler. I also do this at restaurants that don't have milk for children to drink. Ds is sensitive to sugar and the last thing I need is his bouncing off the walls from drinking a sugary punch or drink and having him stay up at all hours because of it. I also bring fruit bowls in to supplement his main meal. What do most kid's meals come with? French fries. Not a bad thing once in awhile, but if he is going to have something unhealthy I want to balance it with something healthy, so I bring either a mixed fruit or an applesauce or Craisins or something. I've also brought in a peanut butter and jelly sandwich to McDonalds where I was meeting my friend because we KNEW the kids would rather have PBJ's than burgers/fries/nuggets. The woman behind the counter saw my (very small) insulated bag and asked me what my son was going to eat, why wasn't I ordering something for him? I just gave her my very best 'McDonalds look' (you know the one) and ignored her. This sort of goes beyond my comfort level, I did feel a little bit 'sneaky' by doing that. hmmm... I know when my boys were smaller ,their all a year apart , we always had sippy cups with us , so I never even thought not to take them in with us.And also always had some kind of snack stuffed in my purse ( to keep them from fighting , I have all boys) .This went everywhere with me , so it would only make sense to take it into a restaraunt with us. But as long as the boys were hungry I would order for them and tip appropriatly , I never took in food from another resteraunt and never would.Sometimes though , I dont order extra ( depending on which child Im out with) if only one of my boys has gone with me , they usually just want to eat whatever everyone else is eating and I request an extra plate for him (this costs about a $1 extra) and we share.My boys were never picky eaters , as long as I dont call something a vegetable they will eat it."no son , thats not a vegetable, thats broccoli , and look it looks like a little tree"
Sandyshine Posted December 10, 2005 Posted December 10, 2005 If your child is too picky of an eater, then your child isn't ready to be in a "mature" eatery. The rudeness is in bringing him to such a place. Many an otherwise pleasant meal has been disturbed by children who don't belong there yet, or are spoiled. The first time I took my child out to dinner, he was prepared to act properly. I wouldn't ruin others paid for dining and hurt the owners revenue by bringing a too young or too spoiled child there.
Newfoundland Posted December 10, 2005 Posted December 10, 2005 Folks, if you think restaurant meals are over-priced or unhealthy...you DO have the option not to eat there. Yes, and I also have the option of ordering a him a salad with fat free dressing but THAT is not going to happen either!
Newfoundland Posted December 10, 2005 Posted December 10, 2005 if you're worried about spending an extra dollar or two, good luck with affording to have kids in the first place. Hmmmm rich people don't think that way. They look to save where they can so they can afford the things that really count. They make do, recycle, and be alternately frugal and spendthrify where they deem necessary. A dollar or two isn't much to you? Well I for one would pick it up if I saw it on the ground. You need not worry about me affording my child. He is 4 years old due to our frugal nature his college is already paid for, yes that is taking in consideration inflation; we put a large down payment on our house; our vehicles are paid for, our 401K's are contributed to to max, plus assorted IRA's etc. That is not because we're worried about spending a dollar or two, that's because we save a dollar or two.
westernxer Posted December 10, 2005 Posted December 10, 2005 If your child is too picky of an eater, then your child isn't ready to be in a "mature" eatery. The rudeness is in bringing him to such a place. Many an otherwise pleasant meal has been disturbed by children who don't belong there yet, or are spoiled. The first time I took my child out to dinner, he was prepared to act properly. I wouldn't ruin others paid for dining and hurt the owners revenue by bringing a too young or too spoiled child there. Bingo! A restaurant is as much about atmosphere as it is about dining. It's not the same as taking your family to the food court at your local shopping mall, where anything's game, even lack of social grace.
blind_otter Posted December 10, 2005 Posted December 10, 2005 Hmmmm rich people don't think that way. They look to save where they can so they can afford the things that really count. They make do, recycle, and be alternately frugal and spendthrify where they deem necessary. A dollar or two isn't much to you? Well I for one would pick it up if I saw it on the ground. You need not worry about me affording my child. He is 4 years old due to our frugal nature his college is already paid for, yes that is taking in consideration inflation; we put a large down payment on our house; our vehicles are paid for, our 401K's are contributed to to max, plus assorted IRA's etc. That is not because we're worried about spending a dollar or two, that's because we save a dollar or two. Is this the wrong thread, or are we supposed to be discussing bringing in outside food to restaurants? Topic? Topic? This isn't about your child. It's about servers having to do work gratis for ungrateful demanding customers who insist that their sphere of reference trumps everyone else's. It's a business. Not a sociology experiment.
Newfoundland Posted December 11, 2005 Posted December 11, 2005 Is this the wrong thread, or are we supposed to be discussing bringing in outside food to restaurants? Topic? Topic? This isn't about your child. It's about servers having to do work gratis for ungrateful demanding customers who insist that their sphere of reference trumps everyone else's. It's a business. Not a sociology experiment. I was responding to a post that said if I had to worry about a dollar or two then good luck affording children in the first place. Or is that not allowed here? 1
Author JayKay Posted December 11, 2005 Author Posted December 11, 2005 Interesting thread drift.... Well, I personally have nothing against people saving a dollar or two. Just be considerate of others,that's all, while you're saving your dollar or two. Waitresses are probably also trying to save a 'dollar or two' and while you may bemoan their lack of financial savvy and social standing, one should also consider that those in the service profession provide services that make your life ever so much more comfortable. I think if it were my restaurant, I'd apply the following rules; * Charge a plate fee for outside food brought in for any child over the age of 5 * Part of the plate fee would be applied to the waitress' tip percentage * Give a warning one time to people who abuse the system "I'm sorry, but we do not allow outside food brought in for older children. We can let it go this time, but next time you will have to leave"
RainyDayWoman Posted December 11, 2005 Posted December 11, 2005 Hmmmm rich people don't think that way. They look to save where they can so they can afford the things that really count. They make do, recycle, and be alternately frugal and spendthrify where they deem necessary. A dollar or two isn't much to you? Well I for one would pick it up if I saw it on the ground. You need not worry about me affording my child. He is 4 years old due to our frugal nature his college is already paid for, yes that is taking in consideration inflation; we put a large down payment on our house; our vehicles are paid for, our 401K's are contributed to to max, plus assorted IRA's etc. That is not because we're worried about spending a dollar or two, that's because we save a dollar or two. i think you're taking it a little too literally. you don't have to try to prove to me how much money you have or don't have. i don't care. what you described is not "rich", it's being cheap, as you say "frugal". there is a difference. good for you and your thrify ways, if it gets you by. but as jaykay said, "Just be considerate of others,that's all, while you're saving your dollar or two." ***anyone else notice this quote thing is odd today?
RainyDayWoman Posted December 11, 2005 Posted December 11, 2005 I've also brought in a peanut butter and jelly sandwich to McDonalds where I was meeting my friend because we KNEW the kids would rather have PBJ's than burgers/fries/nuggets. The woman behind the counter saw my (very small) insulated bag and asked me what my son was going to eat, why wasn't I ordering something for him? I just gave her my very best 'McDonalds look' (you know the one) and ignored her. This sort of goes beyond my comfort level, I did feel a little bit 'sneaky' by doing that. and this statement itself proves you don't have to be wealthy to be a totally ignorant snob. spending a dollar or two is out of the question, yet you have the nerve to walk into a place that you feel you and your children are just simply too good for while you visually berate the countergirl? wow. things like this show that having some class goes a longer way than scrimping and saving to say you saved a buck in order pretend you have some money.
Newfoundland Posted December 12, 2005 Posted December 12, 2005 I am always very considerate of people in any public service, since I used to work with the public and I know what it is to be treated by lousy customers. If the service is good, I leave a good tip, yada yada. To the poster who said that saving a dollar or two is 'cheap' you are entitled to your opinion, I seriously doubt that extra .10 or .15 that milk I bring in is going to make much of a difference in their tip as I tip above the average anyway. As someone pointed out, we all have the option of going somewhere else to eat - on the flipside if the waiter/waitress thinks that they are not making enough money they also have the option of working somewhere else where their compensation does not depend on tips.
Author JayKay Posted December 12, 2005 Author Posted December 12, 2005 Yes, I'm sure the 60-year-old waitress who has never done any other job in her life can afford to just walk out and find another job..... nice suggestion.
Art_Critic Posted December 12, 2005 Posted December 12, 2005 It isn't only about the waitress.. The owner of the restaurant whether it be a big corporation or just a small business owner has to cover their overhead and expenses related to running a company. If everybody.. I said everybody brought their own food into places to eat there wouldn't be any restaurants open for business before long.. It is a form of theft of services.. the expenses are expected to be covered by PAYING customers.. That seat costs money to be left open or have a non paying customer in it..
Newfoundland Posted December 12, 2005 Posted December 12, 2005 What a bunch of crass people here. I hope you are all not parents I can just imagine your children. And get reading glasses people my post clearly stated that I bring MILK not an entree for my child when the establishment doesn't provide it and a fruit - the establishment gets their tip based on the overpriced kids meal as it is. GOOD RIDDANCE I CAN NOW SEE WHY THERE IS A LOW POST COUNT HERE!!!!!
RainyDayWoman Posted December 14, 2005 Posted December 14, 2005 What a bunch of crass people here. I hope you are all not parents I can just imagine your children. And get reading glasses people my post clearly stated that I bring MILK not an entree for my child when the establishment doesn't provide it and a fruit - the establishment gets their tip based on the overpriced kids meal as it is. GOOD RIDDANCE I CAN NOW SEE WHY THERE IS A LOW POST COUNT HERE!!!!! funny that YOU would call us crass when you are teaching your children to be cheap and rude to people. have fun with that.
Milo Posted December 14, 2005 Posted December 14, 2005 Down here in Texas, if you bring someone else's bar-be-cue into the smokehouse, they'll throw yer dog on the pit! Hell, they'll even throw yer wife on there if you do that twice. You bet yer boots.
Author JayKay Posted December 14, 2005 Author Posted December 14, 2005 Yes, the entitlement-minded ones always find others 'rude' and 'crass' when their boorish behavior is outed
Kitteney Posted December 14, 2005 Posted December 14, 2005 Let's not forget that the wait staff are the last people to touch your food before you get it. Be nice or you just might get that extra personal touch, if ya know what I mean. By the way, bringing in outside food--unless it's gerber or cheerios--is WRONG.
hotgurl Posted December 14, 2005 Posted December 14, 2005 I would never bring in outside food to a restuarant it is the equal to shop lifting. My bf and I love this indian place but my daughter won't eat indian food so we just go there by ourselves or order in so we can make my daughter something she likes. and if you feel that the kids' menu if overpriced don't eat there or order tham an appitizer they like. but using that as an excuse terrible. we share a lot with my daughter or order her rice or something. And many times resturant will make up a special plate for you child if nothing on the menu is suitable. If they have it on hand. but it is soo rude to bring in a meal from somewhere else to eat at a restuarant. How would you feel if you threw a dinner party and someone brought thier own food because they were a picky eater,
blind_otter Posted December 14, 2005 Posted December 14, 2005 How would you feel if you threw a dinner party and someone brought thier own food because they were a picky eater, HAH! That is hilarious. Some kind of sitcom scenario.
Author JayKay Posted December 15, 2005 Author Posted December 15, 2005 Haha! I once DID throw a dinner party where one guest brought practically all her own food! I knew she was vegetarian and I purposely made some veggie dishes for her; I had pasta with vegetables and sauce, a nice salad plus apps that were meat free like hummus and pita, babaganoush, crackers and fruit. She hardly ate any of my food. She brought her OWN special little side salad and her OWN green beans and her OWN 'veggie meat balls' thing. She only barely touched a little of the pasta I'd made. I was fuming
hotgurl Posted December 15, 2005 Posted December 15, 2005 Haha! I once DID throw a dinner party where one guest brought practically all her own food! I knew she was vegetarian and I purposely made some veggie dishes for her; I had pasta with vegetables and sauce, a nice salad plus apps that were meat free like hummus and pita, babaganoush, crackers and fruit. She hardly ate any of my food. She brought her OWN special little side salad and her OWN green beans and her OWN 'veggie meat balls' thing. She only barely touched a little of the pasta I'd made. I was fuming god some people have no manners! I bet you never invited her over for dinner again.
Roo-bie2 Posted December 26, 2005 Posted December 26, 2005 Actually depending on were you live this can run into health code violations. Many states have rules/clauses for things like formula and prepackaged foods coming in. If you have food allergies (like being gluten intolerant) call the restaurant before hand. Many of them can and will bend over backwards for you. If you are diabetic and might be a wait make it a pre-packaged item. Plus if the restaurant has a contract with ABC company and you bring in stuff from XYZ this can cause a breake the contract and they get fined. Ussually they are more than leniant with baby food items and medical needs items. ****As for someone bringing their own food to your party (in the vegetarian) take a minute to find out why. She might have been meet with a lot of rudeness. We know vegetarians that have been offered soups made with beef broth. My dh is deathly allergic to mushrooms. We have warned host repeatably. Asked about menus and ingredients to have to go to the ER. My niece almost died because of this, the host then says “I didn‘t know one eye would matter.”. We now ask offer to bring his own food before hand. So if this person is a friend I would ask why. If this was an acquaintance the next dinner party I would bring up the menu with them before hand. Also if you know that a restaurant won't have food your kids like then most likely they won't have the atmosphere either. Go find another place to eat or a baby sitter. 1
manders_01 Posted December 27, 2005 Posted December 27, 2005 Bringing in outside food is wrong and rude. If your child won't eat anything on the menu, then they either shouldn't be brought or sit there while you eat. I guarantee if they are hungry enough, they will eat something off the menu. But my opinion is probably a little biased. I am also from the school that I DO NOT make special food for a child - or an adult for that matter - because they don't like what is being made (when making food for more than one person).
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