1_T Posted December 24, 2023 Share Posted December 24, 2023 (edited) I got a gift card to purchase items at Dunkin Donuts and is dating at Dunkin Donuts is fine? Edited December 24, 2023 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted December 24, 2023 Share Posted December 24, 2023 Not an ideal location romance-wise (it is usually quite busy and loud due to the nature of the establishment). Perfectly fine to go on a casual or low-key date at Dunkin' Donuts. Maybe you and your date will bond over some doughnut flavors or find delight in some sausage rolls. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Author 1_T Posted December 24, 2023 Author Share Posted December 24, 2023 If on a date, the potential girlfriend offers food from her plate, is it fine if I accept the food from her plate? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted December 24, 2023 Share Posted December 24, 2023 15 minutes ago, 1_T said: If on a date, the potential girlfriend offers food from her plate, is it fine if I accept the food from her plate? No. Each order your own food and drink. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted December 24, 2023 Share Posted December 24, 2023 If someone tried to eat food off my plate on a first date I'd stick a fork in their fingers. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted December 24, 2023 Share Posted December 24, 2023 3 hours ago, 1_T said: I got a gift card to purchase items at Dunkin Donuts and is dating at Dunkin Donuts is fine? Coffee dates at coffee shops are fine for first meetings but don't use a gift card or coupons. Save the gift card for something else. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Author 1_T Posted December 24, 2023 Author Share Posted December 24, 2023 Do I meet the potential girlfriend outside the restaurant or inside the restaurant because I plan to arrive early to reduce the risk of lateness? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted December 24, 2023 Share Posted December 24, 2023 (edited) 8 minutes ago, 1_T said: Do I meet the potential girlfriend outside the restaurant or inside the restaurant because I plan to arrive early to reduce the risk of lateness? Whatever you decide is fine but let your date know exactly where you'll be waiting so she can find you. Maybe mention what you're wearing if you have never met before. Edited December 24, 2023 by Wiseman2 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted December 24, 2023 Share Posted December 24, 2023 Inside is fine. Have a seat at the table. Let the host / hostess show her to you. This will also reduce the risk of misidentifying each other. When they approach you, stand up to greet her. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted December 24, 2023 Share Posted December 24, 2023 (edited) [Dunkin Donuts] is great for a 1st meet off the internet. It's not ideal for a 1st date. IMO those are different things. DD is safe, convenient & well lit. But it's not romantic. Is there a local independent coffee shop nearby in the same price point? Something with a couch or soft furniture would be better than pink, black & orange cold, hard, plastic or metal chairs. Absolutely do NOT pay with a gift card. Edited December 24, 2023 by a LoveShack.org Moderator clarity Quote Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted December 24, 2023 Share Posted December 24, 2023 (edited) If someone offers [to share food] it's fine. Do not ask or worse, help yourself. Edited December 24, 2023 by a LoveShack.org Moderator edit for clarity (due to merge) Quote Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted December 24, 2023 Share Posted December 24, 2023 I amend my response above. While technically DD is a restaurant, it's really fast food. Since there is no hostess & it's unlikely that you won't be able to see the door from the table, it's fine to meet inside or outside. I'd let the weather guide you. Again if this is a 1st meet, personally I'd go with comfort. It's fine to be inside. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted December 25, 2023 Share Posted December 25, 2023 Maybe having a date at Dunkin Donuts is fine if you're in high school. Beyond that, no..... Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Author 1_T Posted December 26, 2023 Author Share Posted December 26, 2023 If a date is not going well, should the guy pay for the date or should the bill be split? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted December 26, 2023 Share Posted December 26, 2023 29 minutes ago, 1_T said: If a date is not going well, should the guy pay for the date or should the bill be split? Are you on a student budget? If you meet and it's not a match, thank them for their time, pay the bill and wrap things up. You don't pay according to whether you like her or not. You pay because you invited someone. Make sure it's a simple affordable coffee if you are on a budget. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted December 26, 2023 Share Posted December 26, 2023 Who ever did the asking / arranged the date, pays, IMO. It's not an audition. The date doesn't have to perform to get a "free" drink / dinner etc. Select a location you like that is not too expensive. Arrange early dates with low cost expectations -- like coffee or a drink -- so you are not out $50+ for dinner. Keep things light & fun. If the date is not going well, end it graciously but not abruptly. When dating time is as much of an investment as money. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted December 27, 2023 Share Posted December 27, 2023 Classy man would offer to pay for the date, even if it did not go well. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
NuevoYorko Posted December 27, 2023 Share Posted December 27, 2023 Can you define what "not going well" means to you? If you think the woman is unattractive, does that count as "not going well"? Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Author 1_T Posted December 28, 2023 Author Share Posted December 28, 2023 On 12/26/2023 at 9:10 PM, NuevoYorko said: Can you define what "not going well" means to you? If you think the woman is unattractive, does that count as "not going well"? I define "not going well" means I don't think she is compatible with me. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted December 28, 2023 Share Posted December 28, 2023 12 minutes ago, 1_T said: I define "not going well" means I don't think she is compatible with me. In this case you should definitely pay. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
NuevoYorko Posted December 28, 2023 Share Posted December 28, 2023 If you asked her to go out, you need to plan on paying. It's not "results dependent." 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted December 28, 2023 Share Posted December 28, 2023 (edited) As others have said, get something like coffee or drinks for your first date. You usually pay for those BEFORE the date starts anyway, so the question is irrelevant... If paying for an extra coffee is still a great financial hardship to you, then I might respectfully suggest that you're not in a position to be dating at the moment. Edited December 28, 2023 by Els 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted December 28, 2023 Share Posted December 28, 2023 9 hours ago, 1_T said: I define "not going well" means I don't think she is compatible with me. Yes, you still have to pay. This is why especially for a 1st meet off a dating app you keep the event cheap. When dating through apps there will be more incompatible instances then ones where you hit it off. Such is the nature of the medium. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted December 28, 2023 Share Posted December 28, 2023 (edited) 18 hours ago, 1_T said: I define "not going well" means I don't think she is compatible with me. Doesn't matter. Be a gentleman, get the bill and say, "I'll take this one." Not because it's the man's job to pay, but because it's a respectful gesture and you were the one who asked her out. If she offers to split, you can decline. If she insists, you can split. If she offers to pay for the whole thing, awesome. Edited December 28, 2023 by Alpacalia 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Author 1_T Posted December 28, 2023 Author Share Posted December 28, 2023 On 12/26/2023 at 9:10 PM, NuevoYorko said: Can you define what "not going well" means to you? If you think the woman is unattractive, does that count as "not going well"? Me: Hi Izzy, how long have you been on OkCupid, I recently joined, and I am hoping to find someone who is looking for a relationship as seriously as I am. Izzy: Hi. Me: How's it going? Izzy: I'm goodI Izzy: You? Me: I'm doing well. What types of food do you like to eat? Izzy: Something sweet Is it fine if I ask Izzy, which is a potential girlfriend, what country she is from next? So, could I say "I like something sweet too. What country are your parents from" Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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