47-year-old man wants to hook up?

[glows]

2 minutes ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

He already has a crush on me. I am not hoping anything. I already know it as he flirts all the time

Oh good. No big deal then since you don’t care much. Carry on. But just ignore now and then. So what if he gets grumpy. Don’t tell me you’re afraid of his moods. 

[stillafool]

13 minutes ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

 

You would expect a man nearing 50 will be mature

You questioned "What is he looking for?"  What does being mature at 50 have to do what he might be looking for?  What are YOU hoping he's looking for?

[basil67]

All in all, it's clear that he's not going to ask you out.  So if you want to date him, you will have to take the risk and ask him.  Alternately, stop wasting time with him and find a guy who's actions show that he wants a relationship.

[Meangreenmysterymachine]

2 minutes ago, basil67 said:

There's nothing here to suggest he wants you to ask him out.   I think he's grumpy and cold because you stop giving him attention.  And he probably wants photos of your lady parts.

No way. He will get fired if anything like this happens or if he asks. Never

[stillafool]

27 minutes ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

Then why is he getting upset when I'm not asking him out or responding to him in a way he wants?

How is he showing you he's upset that you aren't asking him out?

[Meangreenmysterymachine]

1 minute ago, stillafool said:

How is he showing you he's upset that you aren't asking him out?

Less talking in person and no texts or anything after I don't ask anything during the weekend or if I don't initiate texts.

He returns to normal once I initiate or text him or go up to him to talk. Then he starts to act playfully hit me on my feet 

[stillafool]

4 minutes ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

No way. He will get fired if anything like this happens or if he asks. Never

So if you already know he'll get fired if anything happens between you and him, why did you say he wants to hook up with you?  I see no indication of that.

[stillafool]

4 minutes ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

Then he starts to act playfully hit me on my feet 

Does this guy have some type of a foot fetish?  What is all of this playing with your feet stuff?  Ewwww, he's sounding creepier by the minute.  Are you also dating other men?  Has he ever been married?

Edited November 19, 2023 by stillafool

[Meangreenmysterymachine]

Just now, stillafool said:

So if you already know he'll get fired if anything happens between you and him, why did you say he wants to hook up with you?  I see no indication of that.

He asked me about my evening plans at 9 pm. What plans am I supposed to have after 9? Secondly he sent pics of his thighs and legs which he realised that he shouldn't have because I didn't comment things like sexy or good legs and instead kept the conversation to why sunbathe and just laughing emoji and he deleted it. Then in person he's always staring me up and down and he also referred to me as good girl good girl which is something that I have seen older men with bdsm kinks say to younger women 

[Meangreenmysterymachine]

2 minutes ago, stillafool said:

Does this guy have some type of a foot fetish?  What is all of this playing with your feet stuff?  Ewwww, he's sounding creepier by the minute.  Are you also dating other men?  Has he ever been married?

I think so. Because once he entered the office and I was standing by the printer and he playfully hit me with his feet. 1st time. After that each time we stand next toneach other and he is about to walk away, he does it.

 

He has sent me 2 pics of his legs sunbathing , one in which his thighs were covered but the other was fully exposed so he might have a foot fetish

No he's not married.  Which is strange as he's Muslim and I couldn't believe he wasnt married at 47.

Edited November 19, 2023 by Meangreenmysterymachine

[stillafool]

1 minute ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

He asked me about my evening plans at 9 pm. What plans am I supposed to have after 9? Secondly he sent pics of his thighs and legs which he realised that he shouldn't have because I didn't comment things like sexy or good legs and instead kept the conversation to why sunbathe and just laughing emoji and he deleted it. Then in person he's always staring me up and down and he also referred to me as good girl good girl which is something that I have seen older men with bdsm kinks say to younger women 

I think if a 47 year old man wanted a hook up he'd know how to ask for one.  I also think if he felt his job would be in jeopardy he'd know better than to try to hook up with you.  He sounds rather feminine to me.  Are you sure he even likes women?

[stillafool]

2 minutes ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

No he's not married.

Has he ever been?

[Meangreenmysterymachine]

Just now, stillafool said:

I think if a 47 year old man wanted a hook up he'd know how to ask for one.  I also think if he felt his job would be in jeopardy he'd know better than to try to hook up with you.  He sounds rather feminine to me.  Are you sure he even likes women?

Well I'm not permanent. I'm fixed term and my contract finishes next month.  He knows this.

 

I know he does sound feminine. He takes pics of food, flowers, the flowers he grows which he cuts and puts in beautiful vases and even has a beautiful giant mirror in his room where he takes his mirror selfies.

He's probably a submissive rather than a dominant one lol

[Meangreenmysterymachine]

1 minute ago, stillafool said:

Has he ever been?

That I dont know but I know he lives alone either his corgi dog. His behaviour make me feel that in his younger days he was a player. Now that he has gotten much older and hid cancer treatment has definitely aged hid appearance, he is struggling to land dates etc 

[basil67]

20 minutes ago, basil67 said:

There's nothing here to suggest he wants you to ask him out.   I think he's grumpy and cold because you stop giving him attention.  And he probably wants photos of your lady parts.

You know that photo where he showed his legs and that he was wearing a towel with nothing underneath?  He was hoping that you'd get hot and ask to see more.  And then he'd get to see photos of more of you.  I'm sure that sharing nudie pics are his end game here

Edited November 19, 2023 by basil67

[Wiseman2]

3 minutes ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

He has sent me 2 pics of his legs No he's not married.  Which is strange as he's Muslim and I couldn't believe he wasnt married at 47.

What do you see in him? Your description of him is rather derogatory that he's moody, vain, possibly kinky, sends weird pics and the list goes on. 

[Meangreenmysterymachine]

Just now, basil67 said:

You know that photos where he showed his legs and that he was wearing a towel with nothing underneath?  He was hoping that you'd get hot and ask to see more.  And then he'd get to see photos of more of you.  I'm sure that sharing nudie pics are his end game here

We aren't together nor have we slept together for me to ask such things. Also I'm not so easy that I will say things that easily. He should know that.

He did say that he sunbathe a lot but he's never nude, just semi

[Meangreenmysterymachine]

1 minute ago, Wiseman2 said:

What do you see in him? Your description of him is rather derogatory that he's moody, vain, possibly kinky, sends weird pics and the list goes on. 

Honestly I haven't had sex in a while and the fact that he's kinky I'd the reason that is piqued my interest . Brutally honest here. He's not exactly unattractive either even though he clearly looks older so I'm kind of on the fence 

[stillafool]

Are you dating anyone else?

[Meangreenmysterymachine]

Just now, stillafool said:

Are you dating anyone else?

No. I barely have time to go out and actively date due to my job and studies 

[stillafool]

5 minutes ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

No. I barely have time to go out and actively date due to my job and studies 

Then how would you have time to go out with him?

[NuevoYorko]

5 hours ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

The pics were of him like laying down on a lounger I think , you know like how women on Instagram post by the pool flaunting their thighs and legs only while sunbathing. It was like that

When I see that type of picture, I see it more as flaunting that the person is lounging in the sun while the rest of us are toiling away at our boring desks or sitting in a rainstorm than inappropriate body shots.  Maybe I'm naive.

[NuevoYorko]

23 minutes ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

I think so. Because once he entered the office and I was standing by the printer and he playfully hit me with his feet. 1st time. After that each time we stand next toneach other and he is about to walk away, he does it.

"hit you with his feet" ... does this mean that he KICKED you?  How can somebody get away with kicking their coworkers in an office setting?  That is something I have never seen before.

And I just read the post about the "fully exposed" leg pictures.  So he's now advanced to di** pics?  Sounds grody.

[Wiseman2]

12 minutes ago, Meangreenmysterymachine said:

No. I barely have time to go out and actively date due to my job and studies 

That makes sense. If you are too busy to date, you're just enjoying the attention. Which is what this seems to be about. A little office flirtation to make life less boring. That's ok. It doesn't seem to be going anywhere anyway. 

Edited November 19, 2023 by Wiseman2

[Meangreenmysterymachine]

13 minutes ago, stillafool said:

Then how would you have time to go out with him?

We work in the same office space so much easier to chat and go out for coffee or lunch since the cafe and restrobar are all inside the building 

Edited November 19, 2023 by Meangreenmysterymachine