Erica_2 Posted October 30, 2023 Share Posted October 30, 2023 Hi, me & my boyfriend have been together a good few years. I have a good relationship with all of his family. I have always felt a little awkward around his mum. She is the type who will talk about herself and not make conversation easy. She has told me that she likes me and is happy I am with her son. However lately there has been times when I have felt this awkward atmosphere, I honestly think she doesn’t like another woman being in her house. My boyfriend has said in the past that she can be “weird” about Girls that him or his brother have dated in the past. she is a jealous/insecure type as I know she has behaved this way towards her own partner. I’m just coming on to vent, as I dread seeing her at times. Has anyone had a situation like this, and you don’t know where the atmosphere comes from? Thank you Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted October 30, 2023 Share Posted October 30, 2023 4 minutes ago, Erica_2 said: She has told me that she likes me and is happy I am with her son. However lately there has been times when I have felt this awkward atmosphere, I honestly think she doesn’t like another woman being in her house. She seems to like you. You've discussed it with your BF but what exactly does he mean by she gets "weird" around GFs? How often are you at her house? Does your BF still live at home? Does he share too much information about you or your relationship with her such as confide in her if you have an argument? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Erica_2 Posted October 30, 2023 Author Share Posted October 30, 2023 I think she often not liked previous partners of her sons.I see her every couple of weeks, my boyfriend is at home still as we are in the process of saving. My partner is closer to his dad, and we always resolve things between ourselves. For instance, last night she was friendly when we arrived, and then we ate dinner together and I could cut the atmosphere with a knife. It felt so awkward, I always offer to help out. I’m starting to think this is just how she is Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted October 30, 2023 Share Posted October 30, 2023 The secret to women like that is to let them be Queen Bee & have the spotlight. As long as you act like an acolyte in her presence, all will be fine. Don't challenge her. Just let her do her thing but don't really give a hoot about her (never let her know that) 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted October 30, 2023 Share Posted October 30, 2023 2 hours ago, Erica_2 said: and then we ate dinner together and I could cut the atmosphere with a knife. It felt so awkward, Can you be more specific? What exactly was going on? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Erica_2 Posted October 30, 2023 Author Share Posted October 30, 2023 11 minutes ago, stillafool said: Can you be more specific? What exactly was going on? 12 minutes ago, stillafool said: Can you be more specific? What exactly was going on? 2 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: She seems to like you. You've discussed it with your BF but what exactly does he mean by she gets "weird" around GFs? How often are you at her house? Does your BF still live at home? Does he share too much information about you or your relationship with her such as confide in her if you have an argument? 13 minutes ago, stillafool said: Can you be more specific? What exactly was going on? There was an atmosphere, no warmth and no conversation from her. I felt I had to make conversation to kill the awkward feeling she was giving out (I have felt this before) I think she just lacks social skills at times Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted October 30, 2023 Share Posted October 30, 2023 Was she just not talking, or not talking to you? Was his father talking or was there complete silence at the table? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Erica_2 Posted October 30, 2023 Author Share Posted October 30, 2023 1 hour ago, stillafool said: Was she just not talking, or not talking to you? Was his father talking or was there complete silence at the table? Not talking in general, his father and mother have separated a long time ago. I get this feeling from her, and have on two occasions when her partner *Mike is there Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted October 30, 2023 Share Posted October 30, 2023 34 minutes ago, Erica_2 said: Not talking in general, his father and mother have separated a long time ago. I get this feeling from her, and have on two occasions when her partner *Mike is there What kind of feeling, like she's jealous? Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted October 30, 2023 Share Posted October 30, 2023 I would just avoid her. Try to spend less time around her. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted October 30, 2023 Share Posted October 30, 2023 6 hours ago, Erica_2 said: There was an atmosphere, no warmth and no conversation from her. I felt I had to make conversation to kill the awkward feeling she was giving out (I have felt this before) I think she just lacks social skills at times This is where you are wrong She has skills, alright She simply choses to use them to freeze others out. You still have to treat her like Queen Bee but kill her with kindness. It's all you can do. If you stay on the high road it will drive her nuts but when she gets nasty (I mean really nasty not just cold toward you) people will be on your side. You can't out B-word her; you don't have the experience yet She's been practicing this longer than you have been alive. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted October 30, 2023 Share Posted October 30, 2023 5 hours ago, Erica_2 said: I get this feeling from her, and have on two occasions when her partner *Mike is there Agree that going there less especially for extended times like dinner etc. would help ease tension. Try not to take it personally. Maybe she's in a bad mood for a multitude of her own personal reasons and doesn't feel up to entertaining her sons' GFs? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted October 31, 2023 Share Posted October 31, 2023 15 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: Agree that going there less especially for extended times like dinner etc. would help ease tension I think the next time your bf invites you over there for dinner you should pass on it since his mom makes you uncomfortable. Link to post Share on other sites
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