Rocky6546 Posted September 7, 2023 Share Posted September 7, 2023 Hi, I am in Sweden from last 8 months and tried so many dating apps but it looks sweden people don't like to be friend with strangers even no one bother to reply massages. They just talk one or two msgs than disappear I dont know why. My problem is I am very open and say clear whatever I have in my mind. Looking for local lady friends. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted September 7, 2023 Share Posted September 7, 2023 25 minutes ago, Rocky6546 said: Hi, I am in Sweden from last 8 months and tried so many dating apps. Looking for local lady friends. If you are on free swiping hookup apps keep in mind they're up to 78% male and rife with escorts and scammers. So lack of replies is common. Why not join some groups and clubs, volunteer, get involved in sports and fitness, take some classes and courses. Broaden your social horizons so you can make friends and talk to women you see regularly. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Sony12 Posted September 7, 2023 Share Posted September 7, 2023 Yeah unfortunately what you described is pretty much the experience most people have on dating sites. Generally on dating sites only about 10% of the people get much attention as all the legit members are trying to talk to that same 10%. Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted September 7, 2023 Share Posted September 7, 2023 I had no idea the percentage was so skewed male vs female. I had problems with it as the majority of males were too young-minded/youthful, just not mature enough so it was tough even as a woman with 78% of them male. OP, it’s great you’re so outgoing but also keep in mind it takes a lot of people some working up/getting to know you before they’re blurting whatever comes to mind with little to no filter. I maybe do that with 2 people I know and no one else. Are you also reading profiles carefully and being mindful of not bombarding anyone with multiple messages(being patient for a reply). 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted September 7, 2023 Share Posted September 7, 2023 1 hour ago, Rocky6546 said: My problem is I am very open and say clear whatever I have in my mind. Given that we all have opinions both positive and negative, having no filter can definitely drive people away. Before you speak, ask yourself "Is what I'm about to say kind? Is it helpful?". There's a woman in my family who says "I'm nearly 70 now, so I just say what I think". She gave an unsolicited nasty opinion of some craft I was doing and I was so pissed that it took me weeks to even consider talking to her again. And next time she does it (and she will), she will hear EXACTLY what's on my mind. In general conversation, make the decision to only say what's on your mind if it is a positive thing. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted September 7, 2023 Share Posted September 7, 2023 Dating apps are for dating, not making friends. Try meetups groups or apps specifically made to make friends. Each time l came across a man on a dating app telling me he's looking for a friend l rolled my eyes. 1 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted September 7, 2023 Share Posted September 7, 2023 7 minutes ago, Gaeta said: Dating apps are for dating, not making friends. Try meetups groups or apps specifically made to make friends. Each time l came across a man on a dating app telling me he's looking for a friend l rolled my eyes. Indeed. Try meet up groups. If you've got any interests, try a group for that hobby 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rocky6546 Posted September 8, 2023 Author Share Posted September 8, 2023 21 hours ago, Gaeta said: Dating apps are for dating, not making friends. Try meetups groups or apps specifically made to make friends. Each time l came across a man on a dating app telling me he's looking for a friend l rolled my eyes. 21 hours ago, glows said: I had no idea the percentage was so skewed male vs female. I had problems with it as the majority of males were too young-minded/youthful, just not mature enough so it was tough even as a woman with 78% of them male. OP, it’s great you’re so outgoing but also keep in mind it takes a lot of people some working up/getting to know you before they’re blurting whatever comes to mind with little to no filter. I maybe do that with 2 people I know and no one else. Are you also reading profiles carefully and being mindful of not bombarding anyone with multiple messages(being patient for a reply). May I know what kind of group you are referring to join here .?? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rocky6546 Posted September 8, 2023 Author Share Posted September 8, 2023 22 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: If you are on free swiping hookup apps keep in mind they're up to 78% male and rife with escorts and scammers. So lack of replies is common. Why not join some groups and clubs, volunteer, get involved in sports and fitness, take some classes and courses. Broaden your social horizons so you can make friends and talk to women you see regularly. Could you please suggest what groups I should join ? Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted September 8, 2023 Share Posted September 8, 2023 15 minutes ago, Rocky6546 said: Could you please suggest what groups I should join ? What are you interested in? Start there. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rocky6546 Posted September 8, 2023 Author Share Posted September 8, 2023 10 minutes ago, stillafool said: What are you interested in? Start there. Travelling, hangouts, forest and nature walk Link to post Share on other sites
Author Rocky6546 Posted November 17, 2023 Author Share Posted November 17, 2023 But where to join these groups Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted November 17, 2023 Share Posted November 17, 2023 On 9/7/2023 at 4:54 PM, Rocky6546 said: . My problem is I am very open and say clear whatever I have in my mind.Looking for local lady friends. What do you mean by "I am very open and say clear whatever I have in my mind"? What types of apps are you using and what are you messaging? Are you looking for dating or FWB or hookups or friends? Please look online in your town or area for groups, clubs, classes and courses you could sign up for to make friends and meet people. Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted November 17, 2023 Share Posted November 17, 2023 On 9/7/2023 at 3:54 PM, Rocky6546 said: Hi, I am in Sweden from last 8 months and tried so many dating apps but it looks sweden people don't like to be friend with strangers. Looking for local lady friends. Women don’t go on dating sites looking for “friends.” They go on dating sites looking to find someone to potentially date. If you are looking to make new friends, I would suggest that you join a group that does something you find interesting. It’s much easier to find likeminded people who want to be friends in an activity group than a dating site. Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted November 18, 2023 Share Posted November 18, 2023 (edited) Have you tried local FB groups with things that interest you? Edited November 18, 2023 by Alpacalia Link to post Share on other sites
d0nnivain Posted November 19, 2023 Share Posted November 19, 2023 (edited) On 9/7/2023 at 4:54 PM, Rocky6546 said: My problem is I am very open and say clear whatever I have in my mind. Looking for local lady friends. Stop that. Learn diplomacy & tact. No new person wants whatever is on your mind. Saying you are "open" & "clear" tends to be a euphemism for judgmental, opinionated & nasty. That level of candor between acquaintances tends to be off-putting. Stop it. Most on line places are about looking for romance not friends. You may be fishing in the wrong pond On 9/8/2023 at 3:24 PM, Rocky6546 said: Could you please suggest what groups I should join ? Get off line & find groups that meet in real life. You enjoy travel hiking. Join a hiking group. Try an internet search that says hiking groups near me. I don't know if MeetUp works by you but try that. You need actual events not virtual BS Edited November 19, 2023 by d0nnivain Link to post Share on other sites
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