He got jealous - but why?

[WrenSong]

I met a man back in January on a dating app. We both went into saying we were recently out of long term relationships and just wanted something less formal. We really hit it off. Spent nearly every day together so almost the entire 3 months, certainly every day that we could. 
During that time, we both said some things and expressed some feelings that I don’t think we ever anticipated having. Still, we still both know this is not a forever thing. 
I found out a few days ago that he will be moving home, probably for good. We have less than a week left to spend together. I’m preparation for this i reactivated my dating profile on the app. 
shortly after I got a phone call from him, saying how he was sad - he saw my profile on the “new” section of the app and was hurt I had reactivated it. Had “a lump” in his throat and his “chest got all tight”. 
My first reaction was “You wouldn’t know I was there if you weren’t” but I didn’t say that. I explained he was leaving, and I felt like it a natural progression. 
I suppose my confusion comes from a few things - if he is on the app, why is he hurt that I am? If he’s leaving what the heck does he expect me to do? And if it’s not serious why does he even care? 

[basil67]

4 hours ago, WrenSong said:

My first reaction was “You wouldn’t know I was there if you weren’t” but I didn’t say that. I explained he was leaving, and I felt like it a natural progression. 
I suppose my confusion comes from a few things - if he is on the app, why is he hurt that I am? If he’s leaving what the heck does he expect me to do? And if it’s not serious why does he even care? 

I reckon that you should have said your first thought out loud. It may well have provoked him to give the actual reason he said what he did.

That said, feelings aren't always logical.  It's quite possible to feel jealous or upset over something we have no logical right to feel that way.

[JTSW]

You need to ask him why he bothered when he is moving away.

[Wiseman2]

10 hours ago, WrenSong said:

. We have less than a week left to spend together. I’m preparation for this i reactivated my dating profile on the app. 

Seems like bad timing.  It seems some feathers were ruffled by "preparing" for a replacement even before he's out the door. Let the dust settle, soon you'll both be free to pursue whatever you wish. Sounds like some feelings got involved and it's sort of a bittersweet parting.

[smackie9]

I agree that he is upset you didn't wait until he left. kinda of an ego thing. 

[stillafool]

On 3/27/2023 at 8:07 PM, WrenSong said:

I suppose my confusion comes from a few things - if he is on the app, why is he hurt that I am? If he’s leaving what the heck does he expect me to do? And if it’s not serious why does he even care? 

I guess the same reason you are hurt.  Seeing you on the app brought home the reality that it's over and you're both moving on.  I doubt he's expecting anything from you; but was just sad seeing that you had signed up on the dating site and are now back out there.  He cares because of the same reason you do.  It's pretty simple.