Author Luna13 Posted March 17, 2023 Author Share Posted March 17, 2023 On 3/9/2023 at 10:02 PM, Luna13 said: I’ve been talking to this guy who lives in a different state for the last few months. I’ve really started to like him and the idea of a relationship was brought up. We spoke hypothetically what it could look like. I said I would be happy to explore that with him, but am in no rush and truly just happy getting to know him. He said he likes what we have but if he falls for me, he knows he couldn’t do a long distance relationship so he’s on the fence of how serious we get. I don’t want to pressure him. But he and I both enjoy talking and flirting with each other and he also isn’t giving in and saying to continue or to stop. I’m not sure how to go about this. I don’t want either of us getting hurt. So we took some time to give each other space. I messaged him today saying, “Hi. I miss talking to you.” He replied with, “Hi. Trust me I know the feeling.” I might be having a really dense moment, but what does that mean? Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted March 17, 2023 Share Posted March 17, 2023 (edited) When there is a mismatch between words and actions, pay attention to the actions. Words are easy to say… they sound nice and we want to believe. I have no doubt that he misses you, it does not mean that he is prepared to disregard his culture and familial obligation. His actions reveal his intention. If you decide to stay involved, pay close attention to his actions and don’t allow yourself to be distracted by the words… Edited March 17, 2023 by BaileyB Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted March 17, 2023 Share Posted March 17, 2023 26 minutes ago, Luna13 said: So we took some time to give each other space. I messaged him today saying, “Hi. I miss talking to you.” He replied with, “Hi. Trust me I know the feeling.” I might be having a really dense moment, but what does that mean? It's a vague and neutral message. You reached out with a heartfelt and caring message and he replied with something weak that isn't actually saying anything. He simply does not sound very interested in you. Stop wasting your time with this. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted March 17, 2023 Share Posted March 17, 2023 3 hours ago, Luna13 said: So we took some time to give each other space. I messaged him today saying, “Hi. I miss talking to you.” He replied with, “Hi. Trust me I know the feeling.” I might be having a really dense moment, but what does that mean? It means that he misses talking to you. Nothing more, nothing less Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted March 17, 2023 Share Posted March 17, 2023 This combined with your other thread about him make it very clear that there is just no future here. You need to let go of this guy, Luna. He isn't into you the way you are into him, but doesn't quite have the courage to be honest and hurt your feelings. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted March 17, 2023 Share Posted March 17, 2023 7 hours ago, Luna13 said: . I messaged him today saying, “Hi. I miss talking to you.” He replied with, “Hi. Trust me I know the feeling.” Unfortunately he seems to be pulling away. He's already mentioned he's not interested in a long distance relationship. The best way to assess things is to stop initiating and see if he steps up. Link to post Share on other sites
JTSW Posted March 17, 2023 Share Posted March 17, 2023 8 hours ago, Luna13 said: So we took some time to give each other space. I messaged him today saying, “Hi. I miss talking to you.” He replied with, “Hi. Trust me I know the feeling.” I might be having a really dense moment, but what does that mean? It doesn't mean as much as you think it does. He misses talking to you. That's it. Link to post Share on other sites
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