missingu Posted January 9, 2023 Share Posted January 9, 2023 (edited) I feel like im going crazy I think my boyfriends friend likes me but im not sure He always offers and does small things for me , even when my boyfriend is around. I mentioned something that needed fixing and he offered to help fix it straight away. Any time we are invited to the same party he is there. He doesn't talk much when it's just him and I but talks heaps when in a group. He never really had spoken to me much before but seemed really excited to talk to me and was adding me into the conversations with his friend when I saw him. His friend had said something implying about leaving him and I alone together to cuddle while my boyfriend was sitting right there. He has told me im gorgeous a long time ago What do you think? Edited January 9, 2023 by a LoveShack.org Moderator formatting Link to post Share on other sites
JTSW Posted January 9, 2023 Share Posted January 9, 2023 It doesn't matter if he likes you or not. You have a boyfriend. What would you do if he did like you? Link to post Share on other sites
Weezy1973 Posted January 9, 2023 Share Posted January 9, 2023 If it makes you uncomfortable you should talk to your boyfriend about it. If you like the attention you should dump your boyfriend. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted January 9, 2023 Share Posted January 9, 2023 I agree with Weezy that this is something you should address with your boyfriend. Ask him if he thinks his BFF has an interest in you. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted January 9, 2023 Share Posted January 9, 2023 12 hours ago, missingu said: .His friend had said something implying about leaving him and I alone together to cuddle while my boyfriend was sitting right there. Do you have a crush on him? How are things with your BF? Are you concerned that maybe he's a better match for you? Link to post Share on other sites
Author missingu Posted January 10, 2023 Author Share Posted January 10, 2023 He has always been reserved around me to the point that others noticed he isn't himself but then he randomly started talking to me heaps more than he ever had before. It was weird. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted January 10, 2023 Share Posted January 10, 2023 37 minutes ago, missingu said: He has always been reserved around me to the point that others noticed he isn't himself but then he randomly started talking to me heaps more than he ever had before. It was weird. You need to ask your boyfriend. It's his friend, so he'll be able to offer more insight into this guy. I don't see much at this point to suggest a crush, though. Do you want him to like you? Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted January 10, 2023 Share Posted January 10, 2023 42 minutes ago, missingu said: He has always been reserved around me to the point that others noticed he isn't himself but then he randomly started talking to me heaps more than he ever had before. It was weird. Why haven't you addressed this with your boyfriend? Link to post Share on other sites
Author missingu Posted January 11, 2023 Author Share Posted January 11, 2023 11 hours ago, ExpatInItaly said: You need to ask your boyfriend. It's his friend, so he'll be able to offer more insight into this guy. I don't see much at this point to suggest a crush, though. Do you want him to like I have a crush on him. He has always been quiet and avoided me after he asked for my number when my boyfriend wasn't around and i rejected him. He looked me up and down. I told my boyfriend and he said the guy is harmless. This was a few years ago. Now we were drunk The guys friend made a suggestion that I cuddle with him on the couch. I got my boyfriend and left. He would sit next to me in a social setting and talk to others normally but make small talk with me. Until I think i made it obvious I like him and the next time I saw him he was the exact opposite. He wouldn't shut up. Trying to talk to me, get me Involved in group conversations etc. Referring to me in conversation with others. I asked for help with something for my friend and he said he'll fix it. I don't know what to do. Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted January 11, 2023 Share Posted January 11, 2023 If you have a crush on him and are curious about exploring that potential, you need to break up with your boyfriend. You are clearly not invested in him anymore. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted January 11, 2023 Share Posted January 11, 2023 Looked you up and down? How gross is this. Did he forget his eyeballs are movable while drunk? I don’t think either of these men treat you with enough respect. That you’re finding the attention of this person attractive tells me the relationship with your so-called boyfriend has been on the rocks for some time. I wouldn’t suggest you date either of them. There are better. Link to post Share on other sites
JTSW Posted January 11, 2023 Share Posted January 11, 2023 31 minutes ago, missingu said: I don't know what to do. Do you want to be with your bf? Or find out if there is something with this friend? If you have a crush then it's only fair to your bf to end it with him. Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted January 11, 2023 Share Posted January 11, 2023 That's a tough situation to be in. His friends sure notice the attention you are getting form this guy, and giving your BF the elbow about it. Your BF is a bit of a lump not doing anything/letting it happen and that's concerning. Now what to do all depends on what you really want. If you want to be with this guy, then breakup with your BF and let this guy pursue you. If you want it to stop, pull this guy aside and tell him to back off. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted January 11, 2023 Share Posted January 11, 2023 11 hours ago, missingu said: I have a crush on him. I told my boyfriend and he said the guy is harmless. Ok it's up to you then to either tone things down or reconsider if the grass is looking so much greener that your current BF may not be the right guy for you. Crushes are fine but if it's concerning you it's time to reflect why. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted January 11, 2023 Share Posted January 11, 2023 12 hours ago, missingu said: I have a crush on him. Why don't you break up with your boyfriend and go with this guy? Link to post Share on other sites
Author missingu Posted January 12, 2023 Author Share Posted January 12, 2023 (edited) What about if his friend makes a hint to you about leaving you and him alone together when he's not around? His friend never said anything to hint that the guy likes Me until last time we were at a party. His friend also gives him a look when I'm around. Edited January 12, 2023 by a LoveShack.org Moderator formatting Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted January 12, 2023 Share Posted January 12, 2023 6 hours ago, missingu said: What about if his friend makes a hint to you about leaving you and him alone together when he's not around? His friend never said anything to hint that the guy likes Me until last time we were at a party. His friend also gives him a look when I'm around. Why do you leave all this space after you post? Are you saying his best friend asked your boyfriend to leave you and him alone together? Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted January 12, 2023 Share Posted January 12, 2023 6 hours ago, missingu said: What about if his friend makes a hint to you about leaving you and him alone together when he's not around? If you wanted to, you could sidestep their rude behavior. They seem to be amusing themselves at your expense. Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted January 12, 2023 Share Posted January 12, 2023 9 hours ago, missingu said: What about if his friend makes a hint to you about leaving you and him alone together when he's not around? His friend never said anything to hint that the guy likes Me until last time we were at a party. His friend also gives him a look when I'm around. It’s probably a good idea to take a look at a person overall and figure out whether they’re trustworthy to begin with. It doesn’t matter what anyone says if they can’t be trusted or act shady especially around you. All this may be totally moot and meaningless considering the type of company. Link to post Share on other sites
JTSW Posted January 16, 2023 Share Posted January 16, 2023 What do you want OP? Link to post Share on other sites
Author missingu Posted March 2, 2023 Author Share Posted March 2, 2023 Update. So much has happened and I feel like an idiot. My crushes friend has started wanting to socialise a lot more with my friends but my crush isn't and his friend says oh we should all go out in a group without my crush. The thing I don't understand is why do his friends talk about him alot. His friend knows i like him i can tell. How could i be so stupid to even think he likes me when it's clear he doesn't. I rejected him a few years ago and he's moved on. I need to get over it. Now I guess i know how he feels. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted March 2, 2023 Share Posted March 2, 2023 How does your boyfriend factor into all of this? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
NuevoYorko Posted March 3, 2023 Share Posted March 3, 2023 It seems that you've forgotten that you had a "boyfriend" at the beginning of this saga. What happened with him? Or is the person you're calling your "crush" the same one who you called "boyfriend" earlier ... and his "friend" is the person you were falling for? So confusing! 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Kassieee Posted March 7, 2023 Share Posted March 7, 2023 On 1/9/2023 at 12:39 AM, missingu said: I feel like im going crazy I think my boyfriends friend likes me but im not sure He always offers and does small things for me , even when my boyfriend is around. I mentioned something that needed fixing and he offered to help fix it straight away. Any time we are invited to the same party he is there. He doesn't talk much when it's just him and I but talks heaps when in a group. He never really had spoken to me much before but seemed really excited to talk to me and was adding me into the conversations with his friend when I saw him. His friend had said something implying about leaving him and I alone together to cuddle while my boyfriend was sitting right there. He has told me im gorgeous a long time ago What do you think? There's no obvious reason why I'd think he's interested in you. Unless he told his friend he likes you and that's why he told yall to cuddle but maybe he's just being silly Link to post Share on other sites
Kassieee Posted March 7, 2023 Share Posted March 7, 2023 On 3/2/2023 at 4:49 PM, missingu said: Update. So much has happened and I feel like an idiot. My crushes friend has started wanting to socialise a lot more with my friends but my crush isn't and his friend says oh we should all go out in a group without my crush. The thing I don't understand is why do his friends talk about him alot. His friend knows i like him i can tell. How could i be so stupid to even think he likes me when it's clear he doesn't. I rejected him a few years ago and he's moved on. I need to get over it. Now I guess i know how he feels. There's a chance he might be interested still but since you're dating his friend...he's backing off. Did your boyfriend know that he liked you? Link to post Share on other sites
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